Help, I can't get a school summer dress to fit my 9 year old daughter!

[mummyloveslucy]

Hi, my daughter is very tall for her age at 5 foot 1. She is also quite big built and her waist is a 32inch.
Last year she wore an M&S standard age 13. Now it's too small and the biggest they do is an age 13 plus size. The waist is 28.5 in on that one.
Really not sure what to do now. Is there any way of letting them out that isn't obvious? Or are there some makes which go bigger?
Thanks.

Some live ones on here, innit

Coal and coco seem to have disappeared!

Hope the op hasn't been too upset by their stupid comments!

And you're just a ray of fucking sunshine.

Kotinka didn't like it when LittleFish referred to the previous (long) posting history.

I'd glad the LittleFish did it though. Only the obtuse could fail to realise, after a reference like that, that this is most definitely not a family in denial.

BTW: Aussie suppliers can be good, as girls there wear dresses well into secondary. But as the seasons are the other way round, you have to guess a bit when you buy in advance, so that might not help much.

A total cunt more like.

I am not sure the point is whether the OPs child is overweight or not.
She may well be - its very easy to be completely in denial.
But if anyone genuinely cares about her DD I am not sure that goading and mocking the OP - under the guise of straight talking - will do anything to help will it?
Does being incredibly harsh do anything to change anyone's mind. Or is that not the point?

Pag OP's DD is under consultant care. That's not usually a mark of denial, is it?

It is very telling that Coal can't explain why she and Coco are so much better informed about the OP's dd than her GP and consultant.

But if she was honest, she'd have to admit that, having never met or examined the child, and being, as she is totally ignorant of her medical history! she is FAR more likely to be completely wrong about this child than the medical,professionals, and then she'd have to admit she was just taking pleasure in being nasty about a child - such a charming trait.

Also very telling that Coco hasn't appeared since Coal showed up! I wonder why.....

Thanks, Kotinka - though the thread was quite different yesterday though, wasn't it? And the comment intended as fair.

And it's perhaps only with the benefit of hindsight that that it reads differently now.

Well like I said Edith. I really don't think that's the point.

I read the emphasis in that post differently. I thought you were leaving the question of denial open, which I don't think it is.

I agree about the counterproductive nature of the posts which are both harsh and wholly unjustified by the actual circumstances.

This is just really shitty. The OP posted for advice about where to buy a piece of clothing.

I'm sorry the OP has had some unessceary, nasty and unhelpful comments.

I bet if someone posted asking for advice on where to buy size 6 or smaller clothes they wouldnt get dissected as having a potential eating disorder.

If there is a backstory and that is highlighted and shared then it should be damm well be respected but not used against an OP's current request for advice about a related matter.

Completely agree with andsmile saw this thread this morning can't believe it has turned into something so nasty, I hope you got some answers to your summer dress question somewhere in here OP

OP, are you ok ?

Yes Edith. You read it differently - wrongly actually.
My point is that even if you claim to be standing up for the child in the face of the mothers denial, the method is hugely counter productive. So why use it?

Just gonna throw this out there...

Depending on chil/confidence/self esteem/school/uniforms/friends/social grouping/ranking ect, could you "twist" the summer dress? For example shorts & blouse, maxi dress, skater dress, long maxi skirt & vest top, accessories with homemade hair bands/bows. I love making my little girls uniform a bit different but only when she's confident wearing it

Wow! It's certainly kicked off since I wasn't looking.

I thought I might risk the old "She needs to go on a diet" etc when I decided to post. Nothing like this though! CocoCha, obviously has naturally slim children and if she didn't, I'm guessing she would starve them!
I've recently read the book "Your child's weight, helping without harming" It's been very helpful and I'm confident we're on the right track to giving her a healthy, happy lifestyle where she's going to grow up with high self esteem and confidence.

Thanks everyone else for sticking up for me, it's really kind of you!

That's excellent Mummyloveslucy

Were any of the dress tips any help - amidst the other stuff

Yes, they were. Thank you. I'm going to go and have a look at all the ones mentioned. I might look into having one made, but I think it'll probably cost a fortune. I'll find out though.