Help, I can't get a school summer dress to fit my 9 year old daughter!

[mummyloveslucy]

Hi, my daughter is very tall for her age at 5 foot 1. She is also quite big built and her waist is a 32inch.
Last year she wore an M&S standard age 13. Now it's too small and the biggest they do is an age 13 plus size. The waist is 28.5 in on that one.
Really not sure what to do now. Is there any way of letting them out that isn't obvious? Or are there some makes which go bigger?
Thanks.

[NearTheWindymill]

She looks just like my dd at that age. Perfect then and perfect now .

[RandomMess]

My 10 year old very much has that sort of shape at the moment unlike her whippet slim younger and older sisters!

[AnyFucker]

No, she does not look obese. She looks like a normal sized kid who will stretch out as she grows taller.

[mummyloveslucy]

LIZS- I never noticed that before.

Fluffy- That's interesting.

[Fluffycloudland77]

I think waist pull in when hips stretch out. Pre pubescent we are a bit tube shaped with round tummies.

[LIZS]

yes, especially the fingers on her left hand

[mummyloveslucy]

No, you're right! She was 8 in this picture. It was Christmas. (Dunce!)

[mummyloveslucy]

She's 9 RandomMess.

[mummyloveslucy]

Ha ha! Yes, she is hypermobile, so I guess her fingers are too. Can you tell from this pic?

Thanks everyone.

[RandomMess]

She looks so much older than 8!!!

Presumably her waist may thin out once her body matures. I've always had a thick waist - far worse post huge dc

[gertiegusset]

So glad you came back on here, and she looks absolutely lovely.

[LIZS]

aww bless, how she has grown :) . She looks fine to me . Are her fingers hypermobile btw ?

[mummyloveslucy]

Thank you! I think so too.

[desertgirl]

MLL, she looks lovely :)

[mummyloveslucy]

This is my daughter. Do you think she looks obese?

[mummyloveslucy]

Yes, they were. Thank you. I'm going to go and have a look at all the ones mentioned. I might look into having one made, but I think it'll probably cost a fortune. I'll find out though.

[Pagwatch]

That's excellent Mummyloveslucy

Were any of the dress tips any help - amidst the other stuff

[mummyloveslucy]

Wow! It's certainly kicked off since I wasn't looking.

I thought I might risk the old "She needs to go on a diet" etc when I decided to post. Nothing like this though! CocoCha, obviously has naturally slim children and if she didn't, I'm guessing she would starve them!
I've recently read the book "Your child's weight, helping without harming" It's been very helpful and I'm confident we're on the right track to giving her a healthy, happy lifestyle where she's going to grow up with high self esteem and confidence.
Thanks everyone else for sticking up for me, it's really kind of you!

[coffetofunction]

Just gonna throw this out there...

Depending on chil/confidence/self esteem/school/uniforms/friends/social grouping/ranking ect, could you "twist" the summer dress? For example shorts & blouse, maxi dress, skater dress, long maxi skirt & vest top, accessories with homemade hair bands/bows. I love making my little girls uniform a bit different but only when she's confident wearing it

[Pagwatch]

Yes Edith. You read it differently - wrongly actually.
My point is that even if you claim to be standing up for the child in the face of the mothers denial, the method is hugely counter productive. So why use it?

[AnyFucker]

OP, are you ok ?

[LooeyLou]

Completely agree with andsmile saw this thread this morning can't believe it has turned into something so nasty, I hope you got some answers to your summer dress question somewhere in here OP

[andsmile]

This is just really shitty. The OP posted for advice about where to buy a piece of clothing.

I'm sorry the OP has had some unessceary, nasty and unhelpful comments.

I bet if someone posted asking for advice on where to buy size 6 or smaller clothes they wouldnt get dissected as having a potential eating disorder.

If there is a backstory and that is highlighted and shared then it should be damm well be respected but not used against an OP's current request for advice about a related matter.

[EdithWeston]

I read the emphasis in that post differently. I thought you were leaving the question of denial open, which I don't think it is.

I agree about the counterproductive nature of the posts which are both harsh and wholly unjustified by the actual circumstances.

[Pagwatch]

Well like I said Edith. I really don't think that's the point.