when should we tell 6yr old about step sistrt

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We have found out that my dh has a 13yr old daughter which he knew nothing of until this week. Does anyone have any advice on when we should tell our 6yr old son..

I was in a similar situation when I was 8yrs old. Slightly different in that my half sibling was 18 at the time,and had been adopted at birth. I was delighted, and we have a great relationship.

I wouldnt tell him anything until you have properly assessed the situation i.e is she really your DHs child or is there uncertainty, does she know, is he going to have a relationship with her etc then you can tell him the facts he should quickly and easily adapt at that age provided he is told the truth in an age appropriate way.

I would think that you would tell him after your dh has spoken to his daughter and knows how much contact/involvement you will be having. I wouldn't think either his daughter or your son would thank you for keeping her existence a secret.

it is not a 'step sister' then?
tell you what, before you tell him, get your terms accurate.

I would tell him straightaway. He will only think it's a big deal if you treat it like one. I know it'll have come as a big shock to you and DH but if you treat it matter of factly, he'll probably not be phased by learning that he has a half sister.

Gee thx for the helpful advice Nigella.
And a sincere thanks to others.