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10 year old boy and my underware! Help

26 replies

Redatnet2014 · 27/01/2014 10:10

I keep finding my knickers and bras hidden in my 10 year old sons room often with (dry) bowled up toilet roll! I've asked him about it-and he says he doesn't know why he does it or what he does with them. My mother has now found some of my knickers at her house in his room there. Is this normal????? Help I'm perplexed!!!!

OP posts:
titchy · 27/01/2014 10:27

Interesting first ever post....

TheProsAndConsOfHitchhiking · 27/01/2014 10:29
Hmm
LaurieFairyCake · 27/01/2014 10:30

Gosh, what drew you to Mumsnet with this as a 'problem'.

Original poster
Redatnet2014 · 27/01/2014 20:15

Was hopefully gonna find someone who's experienced this b4 with some decent advice.

OP posts:
QOD · 27/01/2014 20:18

Yes ....

LaurieFairyCake · 27/01/2014 20:19

I think everyone would doubt that this would be 'perplexing'

Did you really register with Mumsnet to ask about this?

GlitzAndGiggles · 27/01/2014 20:33

Is he doing what I think he's doing?

JenBehavingBadly · 27/01/2014 21:04

He has a room at your mum's house.

That's nice.

Original poster
Redatnet2014 · 27/01/2014 21:09

Funny enough I did think that this site was for askin questions as a mother and getting advice off other mothers who may have had similar experiences. So far it obviously isn't! But thanx for clearing that up.

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PortofinoRevisited · 27/01/2014 21:33

Put your underwear in a high place, and otherwise ignore? Wanking/wet dreams are normal for boys after all. I only have a daughter, so unfortunately I have no tales to share.

GlitzAndGiggles · 27/01/2014 21:34

I don't get all the replies. OP has asked a genuine question for advice

iklboo · 27/01/2014 21:37

He has a room at your mum's house. That's nice.

Is there something wrong with that? DS has a room at my folks and at MIL's.

Noregretsatall · 27/01/2014 21:41

No me neither. Thought this was a forum where you could get advice and support. Sorry OP I've got girls so can't really help...

PortofinoRevisited · 27/01/2014 21:46

Course you can. But first posts on "Quirky" sex subjects are always likely to arouse something. Suspicion maybe?

JenBehavingBadly · 27/01/2014 21:49

Sorry for finding it a bit of a weird and creepy first post. I can't help that.

The only non creepy thing about it was that he has a room at your mum's house. Its nice that he does.

PacificDogwood · 27/01/2014 21:50

See, none of us have had similar experiences wrt to our underwear.
What is the actual issue?
The theft of your smalls or the implied wanking?

meditrina · 27/01/2014 21:53

Your DS doesn't even know what he's doing with them? Confused

Perhaps you need to work on improving communication with him generally?

And just tell him to leave your stuff alone, just as you would for any other item he was taking.

FloweryFeatureWall · 27/01/2014 21:53

Hmm. It is for asking questions as a mother (or father or anyone) but not erm fictional ones.

sittingbythepoolwithenzo · 27/01/2014 21:54

10 years old? I'm not sure my son or any of his classmates would be remotely interested in pants, or have any idea about masturbating. Assume that's your concern?

Sweetishdelight · 27/01/2014 21:54

Does his dad have a relationship with him? Can't he deal with it? My advice would be to ignore what he may/may not bad "doing" with them and deal with it as a "stop hiding my clothes" issue. Don't be confrontational, and don't ask "why"? He clearly either doesn't know or can't explain to you.

Starballbunny · 27/01/2014 21:56

Crap spelling I can forgive (being dyslexic), but crap spelling and Txt speak Hmm

Belacoros · 28/01/2014 17:28

What sort of advice do you want? That you should tell him to stop?

I mean, he should probably stop stealing your stuff.

Don't think you can stop the wanking. 10's a bit young. Check what he's been up to on the computer, then cut his internet access.

JenBehavingBadly · 28/01/2014 19:03

Oh come on now folks! Surely its not too much to ask for us to share our stories of 10 yo's with women's underwear to help "support" and "advise" the OP!

MrsDavidBowie · 28/01/2014 19:04

B4
sweepstake on age??????

ouryve · 28/01/2014 19:08
Hmm

I had my 10yo sorting laundry, fresh from the dryer, earlier, and he couldn't get my knickers out of his sight fast enough.