Husband complaining about baby weight after only 3 months post birth!

[Mamabear12]

My husband is really pissing me off. He keeps making stupid comments about my weight and asking if I'm putting more weight on. Asking why it's taking so long to lose the weight. It makes me feel so angry. This is my second child and it's only 3 months post birth! I gained a lot of weight, 23 kilos, but now only have 8 kgs to lose! Still a lot, but I think I've lost a lot in 3 months already. Not to mention, I'm breastfeed and tired with two kids under age of two! I find it hard to diet and exercise.

I wish he would be nice and more supportive. I imagine most husbands would not be so stupid, careless and mean to comment about weight only 3 months having the baby. I would think most would say its fine, ur doing well, etc.

What did your husbands say after birth about weight gain? Im so angry right now. Argh.

Shocked about your dh's comments like every other MNer who has read this thread. Although more shocking is the fact that after he has been pulled up on it, he isn't shame-faced about it and accepting that he has been a total spoon. I'm appalled that he still doesn't see his comments as seriously psychologically damaging and way beyond the way anyone should speak to any woman (or man for that matter, I don't wish to be sexist). I speak as someone who struggled with anorexia for many years. Cruel and unnecessary remarks like that can trigger eating disorders and depression.

Aside from that, you've just had a baby!! Tell him it took 9 months to put the weight on, it will take that if not longer for it to come off. Crash diets when you have a small baby and are tired are definitely not a good idea. Sod the weight, you need energy to look after your baby. How dare he comment on your body when you have just carried and given birth to his child!! I'm sorry you feel down about how your breasts look currently, but next time you feel that way, please be proud of your body because it has just performed a miracle - it has grown, nurtured, sustained and birthed a human being. You've just achieved what your body was designed to do. It wasn't designed to look perfect, but to achieve reproduction! Your dh needs to have some gratitude and awe and lose the selfish and bullying attitude pronto.