Husband complaining about baby weight after only 3 months post birth!

[Mamabear12]

My husband is really pissing me off. He keeps making stupid comments about my weight and asking if I'm putting more weight on. Asking why it's taking so long to lose the weight. It makes me feel so angry. This is my second child and it's only 3 months post birth! I gained a lot of weight, 23 kilos, but now only have 8 kgs to lose! Still a lot, but I think I've lost a lot in 3 months already. Not to mention, I'm breastfeed and tired with two kids under age of two! I find it hard to diet and exercise.

I wish he would be nice and more supportive. I imagine most husbands would not be so stupid, careless and mean to comment about weight only 3 months having the baby. I would think most would say its fine, ur doing well, etc.

What did your husbands say after birth about weight gain? Im so angry right now. Argh.

Why are you with this dick ?

Tut tut AF

So he's always been critical of your appearance, even before kids? And quite clearly intends to do the same to your daughter.

This will be incredibly damaging to her. If he won't drop this subject you need to think carefully about what choices he's leaving you with.

When I lose the 8 kgs I will be 62 kgs. I'm 5 foot 8 inches. Also,I breastfeed and my breasts went from a 34 c to a 34 e! So some of the weight is from my heavy breasts!!

I already feel bad about my breasts being ruined for good :( and a few stretch marks from my second pregnancy (not sure why, as first gained same weight and no stretch marks!!) I don't understand how my usually nice husband can be such a jerk about my weight.

First of all well done on losing what you have, you're doing really well. Secondly he is being an absolute dick. It's 8kg, 3 months post birth; it isn't as if you are chronically morbidly obese and he is having a tactful word because he is concerned for your health.
I don't blame for being angry, he needs to stop it now!

what an utter knobber. But it sounds like he has form on this so I can't quite see why you're so surprised and angry - surely you knew he'd be like this? Personally I can't imagine why you'd want such a twat to be the father you your children.

Tribpot, I agree with you. I'm worried about my daughter. She is so sweet, kind and beautiful. She loves her food and is perfect! No need to worry about her wieight.,,ESP she is not even 2 yet! I keep telling him not to make comments about her weight bc could give her eating disorder. If he continues, might have to leave him. I get pissed when he comments about me...but I can manage. I will not let him make my daughter feel bad.

*of your children

AF is being polite

I'm just under 62kg now and I'm 5 foot 3. At your height you will surely be very thin at that weight,which means that right now you probably look exactly right. Tell your husband to fuck off. If my Dh ever said anything about my weight I would rip his head off.

I was moaning to OH about how lardy I am recently

He said 'be quiet, you've had a baby'

DS is 3

Your DH sounds like an idiot...I wonder what state his body would be in if he had recently given birth

When he commented about what I ate before pregnancy it was more of for health and saying my metabolism would slow down so important to watch what I eat etc. So it wasn't so bad...

What's bad is he makes these comments now making me feel fat and bad...when I shouldn't bc I've had a baby! He should be supportive etc.

Anyway, I've decided im sleeping in a different room tonight and tomorrow will ignore him.

if he makes comments about your appearance in front of your children then he might as well be directly abusing his children

it amounts to the same thing

You're very nearly underweight -your BMI will be on the low side if you lose much more weight.
I'm dreadfully sorry you're with such an abusive man.
Why would he want to make the women he loves and the mother of his children feel like crap?
Has he always been like this?
Does he want to control you by making you think you're unattractive and no one else would want you?
What a desperately insecure, manipulative, excuse for a man he is.

before the kids I was thin and he would make dumb comments about what I eat and going to the gym.

no, that doesn't sound like a man who has concerns about your health. Still can't see why you'd have children with such a man.

You tell him that he never mentions either your weight or your eating habits, or the weight and eating habits of your child again. Ever. Make it clear it's a deal-breaker.

WTAF is wrong with him?

He'd hate me too.

I dropped the baby weight really quickly. Within a couple of months. Without trying

Then I porked up and went up 3 dress sizes because I stuffed my face and CBA to exercise as much as I did cos I'm too knackered. And I only have one kid.

Dh has joked occasionally but is met with a firm ' fuck off fatso, when are you gonna do something about your ugly face' or something similar and caring. :) In General though he is very supportive, doesn't whinge when I come straight in from work and immediately bugger off out on long cycle rides and leave him with a demented toddler.

I'd suggest in the short term say, yes your right dear. And fuck off out to the gym for several hours. Especially if said gym has a nice cafe and you can take a book. You could do some exercise if you felt like it. Or not.
Otherwise I'd warn him about the quick weight loss advocated on mumsnet ( the 'LTB' lose 12 stone of useless flesh weight loss method)

My DF would never, ever say this to me, ever. I'd tell him to feck off to the far side of feck, and then feck off some more!!!

What really worries me is that he is saying this about your daughter. this will be so damaging for her.

Was his mother obsessed with weight loss?

Anyfucker, I agree with you. I'm worried about my kids :( well..our kids. I am going abroad to stay with my parents for a few months so will have some distance.

My husband is usually nice about things. Actually, nice about most things! It's just this one subject he is an ass about!

Argggggggggggghhh.

Thanks everyone for your support and comments. It makes me feel better to see people agree with me...that he is being an ASS!

it was more of for health and saying my metabolism would slow down so important to watch what I eat etc. So it wasn't so bad...

It was, actually. He was telling a grown woman not to eat an amount of food she could currently metabolise healthily because in the future she might not be able to. Why did you need reminding of that? How was it beneficial to your health?

Why do you feel bad that your breasts have been 'ruined'? They are doing the job they are meant to do. Is he commenting on this as well?

I think some space from your husband is a good idea right now

I weigh 82kg,and am 2 inches shorter than you. I am only a size 10-12,and have smaller boobs than you. Also 3 months post birth and pretty damn pleased with the way I look - What the hell is your husband looking at! Ignore him,or even better,tell him never to speak to you like that again!

And actually- you are a perfect weight for your height. I actually wouldn't want to lose any more.

No comments from my DP, at any time.

He sounds like a prat who obviously doesn't appreciate the female form, or you.

What a fucking arse.

I was a size 8 pre birth and two dc later I am a size 16.

Dh never ever comments on my weight apart from to tell me I look beautiful if I am feeling down about it (I would like to lose some weight for me but I am in no rush to do so).

Your dh is awful :( he should be loving and supporting you whatever your weight.