My toddler just fed my 14wk old baby a lump of butter

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She's on the naughty step she's been hellish this week and now this. Googling like mad will he be ok?? Want to avoid HV but should i ring? X

I have heard tell of a toddler feeding his newborn sibling chocolate buttons on the sly, and when questioned put his hand on his hips and said something like "wouldn't you cry all the time if all you got to eat was milk?"

Maybe it does work as a laxative he's not stopped tonight!

she's only 2. very young IMO. I remember when dd was a baby and ds was 2. If there was any food around, i wouldnt leave them alone as he would try and feed her in a nice way! So I would disagree that it is naughty.

Well IMO it's important for her to know what's right and wrong, not the first time she tried on numerous occasions to feed him and I have explained to her not to and just pretend. I not capable of running a house and have them follow me everywhere, this morning I had gone to the downstairs loo!

Children of that age don't understand 'just pretend', though. When they are 'pretending' they are really 'doing' in their minds. She may well have been 'just pretending' to feed her some butter.

exactly Blu. have you told her what pretend means? that's quite a concept for a 2 year old.

all you need to do is keep food and other dangerous stuff out of reach. and take one of them with you. that was my approach until dd was a bit older.

I disagree. My DD understands pretend/role play quite well, we have daily tea parties at the mo were food is shared and we pretend a lot, she totally gets it.

I understand what she was doing today was meant to be kind and playful but I would of felt irresponsible if I would of let it go. She needed to understand it was wrong

Yes she knows and told numerous times in the past to not put food on her brothers mouth.

While I'm sure your baby will be fine, this thread has made me feel I'll :(

It's not great to give babies food, but at least it was stuff fit for human consumption.

One of my DC gave little sibling dog food

2 year olds CAN pretend but they don't understand the concept of pretend, honestly.

(Most 4 year olds developmentally pretty dicey with line between imaginary and real events to be honest).

It is a recommended laxative (ish) here but for babies over 6months rather than 6weeks.

Your baby will be fine and you are expecting a lot from a two year old. I expected a lot from my eldest at that age as well but it's only since I had four more children after him that I realised that he really was only a baby at that age.

14wk week old will now adore toddler and follow her around like a shadow (when she's able!) in the hope of getting more lovely butter.
Other than that, I foresee no problems.

I think you're treating your 2 year old as if she's much older. Sorry!

Just keep a closer eye and keep the food out of reach instead of setting your dd up to fail.

OK maybe I shouldn't expect to fuller understand pretend and not pretend, there is ALWAYS food or drink around because I have a toddler. But I stand my the fact that I have told her numerous times not to do something therefore when she does it she will be punished whether that's feeding her baby bro some bloody butter or drawing on the walks/chucking toys (whatever?).

My dd is 2.11 and would know that was wrong .

Ok! If you say so.

But you've told her before and I assume punished before do something isn't working.

Nope not punished before because she's never done it as I've always been around to tell her not too or to just pretend.

Mine treated DD3 to orange squash when she was three months: "she really liked it mummy!"

They don't understand the difference between reality and fantasy until they re older, it's highly likely she was just playing at 'being mummy,' doing a tea party and has now been punished for it.

It's a confusing life when you are only two...

I don't know why you don't just lift the food out of reach when you're leaving the room? Job done.

If she understands then explain that babies only have milk until they get bigger. My ds seemed to get that concept.

How else do you think I've explained it great? Of course I've told her that!

Ok!

I just think you're being a bit harsh. Move the foods when you leave the room, job done.

My sister fed ds1 a smartie at 10 weeks! I should have put her on the naughty step but i couldnt have kept her there for 17 minutes!