Do you find your kids annoying?

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Just that, really. I am feeling guilty and crap because I am finding DS very annoying at the moment. I have this idea that I'm supposed to find him adorable and/or interesting at all times and love his company and sometimes I just don't :( I quite often end up snapping at him or saying something that comes out as far more critical than I meant it and I'm worried that this is having an effect on him. I'd love to be able to channel it more productively - other people's kids don't seem as annoying as mine is so it must be ME doing something wrong!

My DS' are 12 and 14. I love them to pieces and they can be adorable but at the moment they are driving me bonkers. They can't even be in the same room as each other without bickering, arguing, tussling. Even though I should zone out I always end up wading into the middle of it and no doubt making things worse!

Yes my kids are annoying, especially getting ready for school. They are 4 and 6.
And then I feel guilty because dd then tries so hard to make me happy :-(
I obviously show my annoyance a bit too much.

i foudn this book www.amazon.co.uk/How-Talk-Kids-Will-Listen/dp/1848123094/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1387188850&sr=1-1&keywords=how+to+talk+so+kids+will+listen+and+listen+so+kids+will+talk here really changed my interactions with my kids.
I recommend it.
they never squabble or fight ( are older admittedly) and love each other a lot
puts fingers in mouth

No, I don't, I find them entertaining mostly. Honestly I think this is because I work, so I am only with them 3-7.30pm every day, and weekends. When I am with them all day every day, on holiday or something, my temper starts fraying.

When does be start school?

Yep Hanneholm 'How to talk..' was a lightbulb moment for me. DS (4) is still deeply annoying but at least employing those methods I'm not such a twat in response.

I have that book HanneHolm but haven't read it yet. I do find it tricky to get past the 'do as you're told' mentality when I'm under a lot of time pressure. I need to read it!

so many parents OVER instruct and micro manage their kids
eg - take your jumper off, you'll be hot - let the kid decide how hot they are fgs

dont shout, set clear routines and remind.

Also be pollite to your kids - one of the key tenets on there is to say things like
" when I ask you to pick up your towel and you dont it makes me feel like no one is listening " rather than " why do you always do that?!"

also comedy - be funny when you tell off - i have left a sad smiley face post it note on things before, and sent mess a birthday card..

Yes, children can be very annoying at times.

Son 1 annoys me by talking incessantly about Minecraft at high volume from the moment he wakes up until the time he goes to bed.

Son 2 annoys me by taking 20 minutes to put on one sock.

Yes, at times. 15 year old - know-it-all.

However as I love him, I probably tolerate it better than a non-parent.

DS3 (1.5) always manages to be frickin adorable, the little fat legged piece of deliciousness!

DD1 (4) shouted that she wanted "a blank piece of paper!" 3500 times in the car yesterday - about an hour and 5 mins worth of eye poking hell on dh's only day off. I would love to say I found her adorable, but I didn't.

DS2 (3) has just smudged buttered malt loaf into the carpet by purposefully putting his plate on the floor and running over it with his scuttlebug - shows what he thinks of Soreen. I would like to say that I'll be gazing adoringly at him while I'm on my hands and knees scrubbing it off instead of mooching on mn while I've got better things to do, but I won't.

I just try to keep the seething to myself . They're adorable the rest of the time, and I know they'll get easier.

Yes - the constant bickering, the mess, the losing things (DD1), the noise (screaming with anger or happiness) ...the reluctance to do anything without a battle...
Hanne - that book just lost me - looking at the preview this book there denying their feeling - there was a list of thing that children might say and how you would respond...I wouldn't say anything they said I might!
eg I don't like the new baby - I wouldn't tell my DC don't be silly of course you love them ...I'd say it must be really tough getting less attention and they do take a lot of my time but it will get better and you had even more of my attention etc...

Probably still don't say the right things...or they would be angels...what I need is for them to listen to me and do what they have been asked so I don't have to repeat myself a million thousand hundred times for something as simple as to put their shoes on (which also usually involves interrupting their bickering!)
I think this time of year is worse - so tired and hyper and overexcited - roll on boring, miserable January I say...

random - sadly I don't think they do get easier ...dealing with a hormonal 12 yo teenager who is still capable of having a tantrum and a lot harder to deal with than a 2 yr old...

(And also has a bloody annoying habit of telling me (when I am attempting to distract either DD2 (6) or herself) - what a rubbish distraction technique I'm using )

Yes, both in different ways. Just marking my place will be back with this later. Got to run.

Yes, I have found them annoying in so many different ways over the years.
I regard it as a personal triumph that they both made it past 18, and no, they are not scarred or damaged by my irritation with them, theirs with me or with each other.
We have learned the skills of apologies in various formats, when something really isn't an area to poke and how to compromise, and we still like each other most of the time.

'"Other people's children are annoying but your own are fine"?'

No, your own are just as annoying, but somehow easier to forgive.

DS1 is very annoying. I find boys annoying - sorry .
I have a 6 yr old boy, a just turned 4 yr old girl and a 16 month old boy. I have found over the years I am less and less willing to meet up with friends with other boys. It drives me bonkers. Boys together get wild, loud as hell and EXTREMELY twatish!
Yesterday was DD's birthday and I invited only the girls from her nursery. 12 of them in my house - a delight. Absolute walk in the park compared to boys party's I have had in the house for DS.

My 16 month old boy is just a baby and like all baby's he is just cute but I know what is brewing!!

I know by the time he gets to 3 the cuteness will drop off and I will have another absolute pain in the ass running around. This time I will keep the boy's party's to halls only.

DD can push my buttons too but in a different less annoying way.

Mums of boys, I am told that it will reverse when they are teenagers and the boys will be easy and the girls will annoy the hell out of us. This better be true with my 2/1 scenario!

I do like how to talk and I must unearth my copy. I don't think you have to be the "before" parent to benefit from the "after" advice. It's American too (and pretty old) so their "stock parent phrases" are a bit different. Plus the "denying feelings" isn't all of the book, they have lots of other situations/reactions that they cover.

The annoying things DS does are standing right behind us and talking or chewing right in your ear. Constantly chewing and ruining his t-shirts currently. DP says we should put anti-nail-bite stuff on them He has his hands down his pants at every opportunity. To be fair that one's alright as long as he's wearing actual clothes.

Asking endless questions yes, and I feel bad about this one because I know he's just trying to learn/understand. I do try to answer as much as I can. Asking REPEATED questions is annoying because I've already told him or I don't know. He doesn't accept "I don't know" as an answer.

He likes to be touching another person a lot of the time and he has clicked that if he goes to touch a "private area" then he gets a hilarious reaction. I find this really hard to deal with because my instinct is to push him away very fast and very hard and obviously that isn't appropriate to his age or even his intentions.

Also never sitting still! He makes me dizzy!

Yes I find them annoying, more so my 5yr old DS than 3yr old DD.

This morning, my 5yr old DS took his PJs off and weed on the carpet, just to be silly. I'm ashamed to say that I smacked him, and I feel horribly guilty and can't think of anything else this morning. I had under 6 hours of broken sleep last night, due to DD waking up 5 times during the night (she's never slept through) and then finally DS waking up at 6am in the morning and then proceeded to take off his Pj and wee on the floor. Also board games had been taken out of the boxes and strewn all over the floor. I could have cried. I had to get both DCs dressed and ready and out of the house (like I do everyday, DH leaves very early), and I was late for work myself.
I'm so so tired and feeling awful about how I dealt with DS.

I love spending one to one with them and find them adorable and interesting. But both of them together constantly wind each other up, somedays I can't even find 2mins to make a phone call or reply to a text without DS irritating DD in the meanwhile and I've got a crying DD on my hands.
When it's just one of them it's soooooo much easier, and I rarely get annoyed or irritated.

My DS stands behind me and puts his chin on my head, which he finds hilarious.

He also makes far too many short jokes in my hearing.

bigkids, don't joke, he's currently doing more hours at kindergarten than he will when he is at school!! They finish at lunchtime

Ouch Silver, DS does that. They have such sharp chins!

Most of the time DS1 is such a joy to be around, sweet, caring, funny, lovely boy. And sometimes he's just so annoying and whiny, and I've done everything 'right' but he's still fucking infuriating and I don't want to be around him. All normal I think. An adult may decide to take some quiet time when they're feeling anti-social, but a kid is pretty much always in your face and putting their feelings into you.

Need time off and

See, I thought the OP was just about the continuous, low-level annoying stuff that happens in most families. If someone claimed to never find their children annoying, especially if said child was at least 5, I'd wonder about their sense of self-worth, the relationship with their partner, if there was a touch of self-delusional martyr going on.
My two are living at home with me for the forseeable future, and the thought fills me with pleasure.
Doesn't mean I won't get annoyed if they can't share the sofa reasonably.

DS1 is very like his father who I left when he was 8 months old, I left him because he is a twat who is incapable of taking responsibility for anything even his own son. DS1 looks like him, has the same mannerisms and often the same excuses, it drives me crazy! DS1 is another one who likes to hover behind you when he wants something/ is waiting to use what you are using (normally the PC). People constantly tell me what a lovely boy he is - polite and caring - and I know he is but oh I so wish that he wasn't like his dad.

DS2 is four yo he can and frequently does pick his nose with his tongue this is a seriously annoying habit.

DS1 tells long, boring stories that have no conclusion or punchline, in the present tense, about things that happened on Minecraft.