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Do you find your kids annoying?

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BertieBowtiesAreCool · 15/12/2013 19:40

Just that, really. I am feeling guilty and crap because I am finding DS very annoying at the moment. I have this idea that I'm supposed to find him adorable and/or interesting at all times and love his company and sometimes I just don't :( I quite often end up snapping at him or saying something that comes out as far more critical than I meant it and I'm worried that this is having an effect on him. I'd love to be able to channel it more productively - other people's kids don't seem as annoying as mine is so it must be ME doing something wrong!

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fiverabbits · 15/12/2013 21:06

My DS has just stood next to me and let out a real long stinky fart.

He is 33 years old !

He also moans all the time and he still lives at home.

Timeforabiscuit · 15/12/2013 21:07

I hate it when they're happy, its not a balanced warm happy - its a near hysteric mania that takes hold and emits loud high pitched shrieking,.

Luckily I have a dh who gives me and comments that they are deeply annoying

ThreeBeeOneGee · 15/12/2013 21:34

It would be lovely if they could coexist in calm, contented harmony.

Instead, they seem to alternate between bickering and their version of getting on well together (which is actually a hyped-up, extreme silliness). At any point in time, both of these dynamics can be in play simultaneously, between different pairs of children. It's enough to test anyone's patience.

Also, the questions at this stage are often of the "where are my shoes?", "where is my coat?", "where is my oyster card", "where are my keys?" variety. Where you sodding well left them. If I stop what I am doing to come and look for them, I will find them within a few seconds, but I will resent you for the next ten minutes. So just use your own eyes.

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HanneHolm · 15/12/2013 21:35

No. Never. They're older now though. They are fun to be with

TheOneWithTheNicestSmile · 15/12/2013 21:39

Never ever, HanneHolm?

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pictish · 15/12/2013 21:40

This thread has caught my eye.
My answer would be...rarely. I generally really enjoy them.

BUT

My eldest was driving me crazy today. I think it was me rather than him, but he just seemed to be so loud and OTT today. I was overly snarky about it I think...my pal did say (very nicely) "you're being too hard on him" and I listened and tried to get perspective.
But yeah...he was just annoying me. I felt like he needed to tone it down.

I don't often feel like that about him.

Ruprekt · 15/12/2013 21:43

Everyone annoys me......

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BertieBowtiesAreCool · 15/12/2013 22:32

Sometimes I wonder what exactly I did think having kids would be like I certainly didn't imagine it to be so... tedious much of the time.

You have achieved one thing, though. I thought I was suffering because I only have one and was wondering if a sibling would have toned down the irritation factor, but the description of "from giddily excited to bickering" has just given me chills! Maybe no more babies for me

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Beamur · 15/12/2013 22:37

Occasionally. MissBattleaxe - you're so right, it's the noise. I only have one little one (two bigger ones too) and the only time she is quiet for any length of time is when she is asleep. The chatter is constant!

smearedinfood · 16/12/2013 07:33

Bed time. That's annoying and clothing shops, he bolts and hides in between the racks. That's annoying.

JingleJoo · 16/12/2013 07:45

One things for sure, having kids is not like it seems in the films!

We had a great day yesterday. For the first time in ages all day long there was good behaviour and no whining. We had a lovely day out, and visited friends. Me and DH couldn't believe it! It was just what we thought having DCs would be like! Course they both went totally bonkers at bedtime, but apart from that it was a revelation ( DCs are 7 and 4 yo).

JingleJoo · 16/12/2013 07:47

Oh and OP, sorry to break it to you, but when I only have one dc, they are approx 1000% less annoying than when they are both together!!

winkywinkola · 16/12/2013 07:56

It is the bickering, the deliberate winding each other up and the trail of mess they leave that annoys me.

I think it's fine for the dcs to know they are not the Baby Jesus and that they need to be a bit more mindful of how to behave.

It's all part of learning to live as a household.

Beachcomber · 16/12/2013 08:06

The squabbling.
The whining.
The complaining (this one really gets to me and I turn into my grandmother "you don't know you're born, there are children in this world going out to do a hard day's work on an empty belly" ).
The needing to be asked several times to do things.
The getting out the front door (finally) and then stopping right in my way so I can't shut the door without having to say "start to walk, you know the way/get in the car you know where it is".

I could go on....

I think one of the reasons we can find our children so annoying is that in modern society we can spend far too much time alone with them. As soon as I have another adult around to keep me company I find my kids adorable.

Plus the routine - I think the endless routine makes it hard.

HanneHolm · 16/12/2013 08:09

Never. I know. They're great guys

wakemeupnow · 16/12/2013 08:11

I think single dc are potentially more annoying beacause they have only you for their entertainment and this realationship can get pretty intense.
With siblings they are distracted by each other and even when they do argue sometimes it takes the pressure off.

My Dc1 needed endless conversation and would demand me to "talk mummy talk"... it got pretty annoying sometimes especially at 5 in the morning! After 2 more dc I could withdraw much more easily from giving constant attention.

SatinSandals · 16/12/2013 08:16

I don't think you would be human if you didn't find anyone irritating at times, including your children!

openerofjars · 16/12/2013 08:22

My oldest (5) was hideously irritating all day yesterday - whinge, whine, scream, not at home to Mr Reasonable - and so DH and I talked through strategies for dealing with him more positively after he'd gone to bed last night.

This morning DS got up, sunny as you like, and said, "Mummy, today I feel like I just want to do everything to make you happy". Bless him, little darling. Although he has just yelled at me because he wants sweets.

DD (1) just craps in the bath a lot, and throws food, but otherwise is quite passable.

So yeah, sometimes they are kind of annoying. But I am monumentally irritating myself.

Mamabear12 · 16/12/2013 08:57

HaHa...every day! But I also find them super cute every day as well. Tantrums, fussing and whining annoy me. Laughter, cuteness, etc warms my heart :)

LaundryLegoLunch · 16/12/2013 09:06

I think you're right OP. For me it's the utter tedium of it. Especially of the questions;
not "why is the sky blue?" lovely wide-eyed queries.

But "why is it December?"
Which you attempt to answer, but 10 seconds later hear "but why is it December?" Arghh!!

And yes tedium of saying a gazillion times
"have you done a wee?"
"Please get your pyjamas on"
"No, we can't open any presents yet"
"Please keep your coat on, it's -150 and snowing"

repeat ad infinitum

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BertieBowtiesAreCool · 16/12/2013 09:09

YY wakemeup I think we have a definite case of that going on. And he's pretty extroverted and wants attention ALL THE TIME. We only get away from it when he is playing on some kind of device with a screen.

I don't very often find him cute any more - he's 5. Is that normal or am I some kind of monster?

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IamChristmas · 16/12/2013 09:16

I think you've probably just spent too much time together! Is there anyone you can farm him out to for a day or two? You will probably find him much cuter after some time apart!

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BertieBowtiesAreCool · 16/12/2013 09:32

No, we live abroad so no family around unfortunately! Still, going home for Christmas, so plenty of adults to pass him around and think he's adorable

I tend to be much more awed/proud of what he can do now, like reading and writing, than thinking he's cute.

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Bramshott · 16/12/2013 09:39

Ha ha - of course! I find other people's kids MORE annoying though!

This time of year is particularly bad as they are tired and over-excited. DH and I were sharing our annoyance as we drove to get the tree yesterday with the two most annoying children in the world in the back...

Tailtwister · 16/12/2013 09:58

Absolutely! It's the whining that I can't stand and the same questions over and over and over.

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