Gardening in the winter sun. 40-something mums Christmas thread

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40-something mums with babies of all ages - please join us. The 20-something and 30-something mums will never satisfy you like this thread.

Happy birthday baby Eagle !
Too sick to post more today. Bed and sleep.
Waves to all.

Yy to rosie on both the stopping food if necessary and the yoghurt (though full fat, if it says 4% or 4g fat per 100g). Agree about the nappies too.

Sadly I had nobody to have the Ladies or even MOTs lunch with so had toast at home after the appointment. The party was much, much better for leaving after just an hour, though hats off to the mum who'd done (with husband, give him credit) a full Gruffalo theme.

Time to make some lunch for me and the toddler, and then an exciting afternoon of Brownie paperwork.

Hello goat my god what a December! Sorry BG sick glad the milk thing diagnosed, poor poor all of you re mil.

Hugs to all will write at length soon - move accomplished but still lots to do x

Dr spouse, how does the hair look? I am having mine done in two weeks, the roots will be down to my feet by then.

Bbd poor you being sick, hope you feel better soon.

Happy belated birthday to baby eagle, and hope mummy eagle is recovered sufficiently.

Glad to hear your tooth is better Rosie! Face pain is the worst.

Next week is my half term (nothing half about it ). I have BG for three days so DH has him also for three days in his half term and we both get a couple of days off. Tomorrow we plan on spending the morning at soft play (end of my road) and the afternoon napping. Take note, BG!

PS hello somewhere!

goat it is hard to think if anything adequate to say after all your difficulties. Most importantly hope BG thriving after all he has gone through (photos suggest he is ) and hope your MiL.has the support and care she needs to make these last months (?) as graceful as possible.
bbd and eagle: hope you feel better soon. Please rest. Lucy empathy as I have recovered from horrible chest and throat lurgy. I still sound a it Luke Marlene Dietrich
SBR well done on move. Again. You are a trooper. Hope you and kids settled and happy v soon.

Purgatory since DH left: Dd had form of night terrors and was awake 10-12, inconsolable, for several nights, T has come our if a cough and now teething and waking 2-3 times a night, we have lost comforter, T plunged hand into boiling coffee yesterday (he's okay after got it in my mouth v quick), and I had full migraine on Friday (actually had to.hand T to a neighbour and give up) which only just getting over now. Hoping a new week, a new dawn and all that schmuck

I really like my new hair, thanks - shorter and brighter. I am wondering just how many years I can have more or less the same hairstyle though - about 8 years and counting now. And the hairdresser is lovely (and DOESNT TALK) so although someone recommended looking for a mobile hairdresser (no babysitting or lunch problems) I'm not sure I'd risk it.

My DH is away too and I'm worried we have teething. Fri night involved a lot of screaming at bedtime and NO TEETH being yelled (i.e. Don't brush my teeth). Yesterday only whinging but I was out late afternoon today and apparently DS was, as my late grandmother would have said, a pill. Lots of whining as he lay in bed tonight. But he's asleep now.

Hi drspouse good to meet you.

goat how is Dh bearing up?

scarecrow hope you are ok.

eagle party looks amazing! Love those first birthday parties.

rosie why do we not know this, that everyone in Egypt is born by c section? scare I feel a bit of journalism is required.

bbd just keep on breastfeeding it's too lovely. I can hardly bear to stop.
How brilliant for ds to be learning Chinese - which Chinese language is it, if that's not an ignorant question

Afm We are v pleased with our new place i will put pics on Facebook soon.

I had so many funny stories to post on here, can't remember them.

Oh somelet is talking??? Cries, pick her up thinking its abandonment issues in the new flat. 'Poo-poo' she goes, and there was indeed a poo poo. When she cried later I said 'poo-poo?' And she shook her head and said 'naaah'. And there wasn't.

Fanciful maybe.

She does daddy and mummy which i dont count and hello too but that is just a babble I always think. Babies all go 'allaaaah' like good Muslims, hello is similar.

Quick wave hello to everyone! Will hopefully stop by for longer tomorrow but need to tidy the house before bed this eve as cleaner starting first thing tomorrow

Wedding lovely today but am exhausted by the whole weekend now. Comedy moment during speeches when groom was giving v moving speech (his life has been v hard) and he's interrupted by his 2yo DS shouting out 'I need a poo'! Toddlers eh? Always telling it like it is and bringing everyone back down to earth.

DD's party was yesterday but her actual birthday is on Tues! Thanks for all the birthday wishes. Still trying to work out how to celebrate her birthday but right now a day in bed looks good

Will chat more tomorrow I hope - meanwhile, I need to go and find some cleaning products and pick up all the toys off the floor. Nighty night!

vent alert
I want to put this in aibu or multi cultural families but don't have the balls. ...
SO i was at the dentist today with my rosebud. She was wearing pink plad trousers and a pink knitted hoody. In the waiting room dd as usual charmed everyone (think she's had stare at the grumpy people lessons from baby eagle) a lady asked dh her name and he told her, there was some chatter in the room and i understood, why do you dress your boy in pink? ? ? From the grumpy old lady opposite. I explained she was a girl to which she replied 'then why doesn't she have 'dahab" (gold earrings)I said 'no i didn't want and she called me 'haram'. Haram means forbidden. (Halal=allowed) it's a harsh thing to say. She repeated it several times, said something i didn't understand, then told everyone in the room it was haram. I'm language skills are not good enough to argue so i just covered dd ears and walked out with her. Dh wwas left to get a good telling off about letting his western wife get away with not doing the right thing and how he must get it done immediately. (Lol)
When i returned to the waiting room she pulled a cat bum face and turned her back on us. ......
Aibu to be outraged and amused at the same time? ?

vent alert
I want to put this in aibu or multi cultural families but don't have the balls. ...
SO i was at the dentist today with my rosebud. She was wearing pink plad trousers and a pink knitted hoody. In the waiting room dd as usual charmed everyone (think she's had stare at the grumpy people lessons from baby eagle) a lady asked dh her name and he told her, there was some chatter in the room and i understood, why do you dress your boy in pink? ? ? From the grumpy old lady opposite. I explained she was a girl to which she replied 'then why doesn't she have 'dahab" (gold earrings)I said 'no i didn't want and she called me 'haram'. Haram means forbidden. (Halal=allowed) it's a harsh thing to say. She repeated it several times, said something i didn't understand, then told everyone in the room it was haram. I'm language skills are not good enough to argue so i just covered dd ears and walked out with her. Dh wwas left to get a good telling off about letting his western wife get away with not doing the right thing and how he must get it done immediately. (Lol)
When i returned to the waiting room she pulled a cat bum face and turned her back on us. ......
Aibu to be outraged and amused at the same time? ?

oh Rosie that is a horrible.experience. You are so so so so right not to post in aibu though. I shudder at potential for cultural insults
I hope by the time you read this you are doing what you would with all your wisdom and graciousness and good humour tell any of us to do: thinking what a spiteful woman, perhaps pitying her, and shrugging off her ignorance and spite as, well just that really. If you are upset talk to dh. If he loves you and understands that is all you need. Remember too there are cultural clashes with my PiL which are just about age and social experience, and they only live 3h away! My mum (who.never actually takes this advice, bless her) would say "don't dignify her with a response" I must stop as falling asleep and will type even more gibberish than usual, but had to send hugs xxx

Oh rosie how horrid for you. It sounds like your DH is supportive and on the same page as you, though, and nobody in his family has said this I take it so it can't be the completely accepted view! I think you did right in trying to ignore it too.

Weeelll... we were up at 4.10 with whingeing and then 5.00 with full on crying, teeth of course and a dose of "nana" (generic paracetamol suspension) did the trick and back to sleep till 8... late for work but hey ho. Seeing the boss about an important matter this a.m... he is not noted for his sympathy...

Hugs to all. Posting from bed, burning eyes and feverish. Read and emphaty with all, Scarecrow and T, L' night terrors, drSpouse early wake up, Rosie's cultural schock, Somewhere move... Too shattered to reply but I m with all of you in spirit. Xxxxx

Hi everyone,

Scarecrow I was thinking of you today. Hopefully it's getting easier on your own when is dh back? ? Poor L night terrors are horrible. Will you be ordering the special (only ever heard of on mn) monster spray? ? Brb

Oh no blueblack, sorry you're feeling rubbish.

DS, not surprisingly, was very tired on picking up from nursery at lunchtime (normally he goes all day, bit of a messed up childcare situation but he's napping so I'm on Mumsnet doing paperwork at home in front of the telly.

"Chat" with boss went OK. He's pleased we're going ahead with the application, or at least he pretended to be! He may get a bit more leverage on maternity cover as there will be 3 of us off at more or less the same time; they normally avoid doing this but he is I think slightly pleased his case is now strengthened.

Bbd hope whatever was making you ill has passed and your getting better. Hope dh stepped up and let you rest :)
Sbr glad the move went well, i saw your thread about somelets weight. (It made active convos!!!) She looks healthy enough in the pics. And to get the averages there has to be bigger and smaller. Now you have moved maybe re looking at what you are feeding and just double checking her calorie/fat/sugar intake is within healthy range.

Did you speak with any hcps yet? It's likely that once she is up and moving she will slim down. Xx

Today I was thinking what a lot we all have achieved so far this year already. .. eagle and cycle going back to work, sbr moving house, me undertaking this crazy trip, sure there Was more but as usual by the time I get a chance to post I've forgotten what I wanted to say.
Drspouae, i like your attitude to work :) it's refreshing. Sounds like you are a no nonsense kind of person. I'm glad your boss was ok however I get the feeling that you'd have put him in his place if necessary

I'm getting a bit fed up biting my tongue, but it's only a few more days and I'm not going to cause a problem now. Today's issue was over baby rice. Mil got a box for rosebud as she wanted to mix it with fruit or something and dsil went lala about it! ! Ffs I'm not bothered if she has a couple of bowls of baby rice-its not bloody poison- but sil thinks she knows best about everything, she (27 with no children) is constantly telling me what she thinks i should and shouldn't do with rosebud. Very annoying. Only a week to go. :)

Feeling a bit better today, sitting outside sipping a cappucino, can't stand being inside anymore.
Rosie, I feel your frustration about SIL continuous advice, she should be reminded that you raised 2 daughters already. So hard to get people to stop commenting isn't it? And this stranger and earrings, none of her business, pffff.
One more week, don't despair. We are here.
Oh and the pics, what a shame, but Rosebud is just as beautiful as ever.
Somewhere, glad you are happy with the new place and move went ok. I can't see myself stop BF either, just love it so much but selfishly would like to be able to get away fron time to time for an evening... Well another 6 months and we will work on it. Re Somelet telling you about dirty nappy, you could jump on that and work towards nappy free baby!
Knotty, so Rosa is ready for a walk in the park ! Yeah! Are your stairgates on ? :)
Scarecrow, are you feeling better? How is T's hand ? Lovr the Mei Tei. I will borrow an Ergo this week end to try and carry A on my back going uphill !
Eagleray, happy birthday tobaby Eagle! Hope you get the lie in you want/need.
Chinese New Year celebrations this week end. I need to start shopping and cooking.

DrSpouse, v relieved for you that chat with boss was not so bad. Has DS had a better night and woke up later today?

Sorry, my English is awful. Seems like my brain is not yet back in full power..... More sleep ? Maybe

Re meet up next week on Wed 5th, shall we try again the soft play of Swiss Cottage ? Scarecrow, from Finchley and Frognal, it is about 10 min walk. Goat ? Somewhere ? Anyone else ?

Somewhere, DS

Arrrgggh stupid iPhone
So,Somewhere, DS started Mandarin Chinese. My Dad always said we should start with the purest accent and once fluent in Mandarin, could move on a dialect. The characters are the same no matter which dialect one speaks, only pronunciation differs and sometimes syntax but this latter is not a big deal. Which means once you've mastered Mandarin, you can go anywhere in China, Taiwan and not feel lost.

We did have a mercifully much later rising time this morning - sadly I had woken at 4 and couldn't go back to sleep for a while so I'm still a bit zombified today - but hey ho (seems to be my favourite phrase at the moment).

We also had a positive response from the medical advisor who looks at our medical forms for the new adoption application. This was a big hurdle so I'm very happy about that now.