Has anyone ever had trouble bonding with their child?

[Helenemjay]

Even when they are not babies?

Yes! My twin DDs are 5 now and I feel very much closer to one than the other, simply because of their very different personalities. I love them equally but don't feel particularly bonded with one. She's a challenge, always has been and is bloody hard work. Her sister is very mellow and easy going in comparison and much easier to like

Yes thats it SB!! my ds1 is 5 nealry 6 and i love him very very much, but i dont like him sometimes and i feel so bad about it sometimes my ds2 is great! he makes me laugh and is such a little comedian and dd is so little and funny, i sometimes think poor ds1 must think i really dont like him at all