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Do you take your few week old baby to the toilet with you?

74 replies

Madratlady · 21/07/2013 21:51

I know you're supposed to have your baby in the same room as you all the time, I just wondered if that means you should take it to the toilet with you?

Probably a silly question but this will be my first dc so I just want to try and make sure I do things 'right'.

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Wigeon · 21/07/2013 21:52

No, if they are lying somewhere safe / asleep.

maja00 · 21/07/2013 21:55

I didn't when he was a few weeks old, unless he was distressed - if happily in cot/bouncer/floor then it's fine to go to the toilet.

Once he was crawling he mostly followed me of course.

Keeping them in the same room as you for sleeps is very sensible, but it's ok to pop out for a few minutes to use the toilet or shower.

purrpurr · 21/07/2013 21:55

No. Hell no. I think SIDS advice might mean I should, but no. I'd never do another poo if I did... Once had to have a wee with the cat watching and I was totally mortified, that is more than enough for me.

I also now don't bring DD with me when I shower mostly.

Going to parenting hell already and she's only 9 weeks :(.

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dyslexicdespot · 21/07/2013 21:56

I did but I was a little traumatised after his birth and had a very hard time leaving him. I would set him down in his Moses basket and bring him with me.

TheYamiOfYawn · 21/07/2013 21:56

Generally yes, as mine objected to not being held. If I had a baby who slept alone at that age, I would happily leave a sleeping baby.

I think I'd trust your gut feelings on this one - if you feel wrong leaving your baby, then don't do it, but if it feels ok, then it probably is.

Smartiepants79 · 21/07/2013 21:58

No. It takes seconds to go to the loo. Put them in the Moses basket and do your thing.
Much more hygienic.

Shellywelly1973 · 21/07/2013 21:58

Seriously?!

FlatsInDagenham · 21/07/2013 21:59

Haha - I bring my 16 month old baby to the toilet with me. And my 4 year old quite often invites herself along too.

Get used to it folks!

redwellybluewelly · 21/07/2013 21:59

DD1 never ever left her anywhere - she was very poorly as a baby and had to be constantly monitored. Plus she wouldn't be put down.

DD2 comes with me if DD1 is at home as I cannot leave her anywhere completely safe, unless she is asleep in which case I take DD1 with me!

Passmethecrisps · 21/07/2013 21:59

Not a silly question. I wondered this also. My wee one was fine left for the few seconds it took to have a wee. Showers happened in nap times. Now she is a crawling maniac she gets popped in the cot for showers if I can't have them at nap times and I have the quickest wees ever.

The SIDS advice is really important but you will want to move from room to room - don't worry too much when you are talking minutes at a time.

IwishIwasmoreorganised · 21/07/2013 22:00

No - enjoy going solo while you can! As soon as they get mobile even time on the loo is no longer private!

Passmethecrisps · 21/07/2013 22:01

Every baby is different - mine was always fine left alone but others are not. Personally, unless my baby needed me to hold him or her all the time I wouldn't do it.

Actually, how do you work the logistics? Sling?

ArgumentativeAardvark · 21/07/2013 22:03

My DD used to scream the house down if left alone for longer than 2 second so she came everywhere with me for months and months.

Now at 2 she either follows me or shouts up the stairs "what are you doing mummy? I come too!"

Passmethecrisps · 21/07/2013 22:04

Also, I might be wrong but the SIDS advice is that the baby should sleep with someone in the same room. If baby is awake and happy to be left then no issue. Also, if you are going about your normal business while baby snoozes in the front room they would be unlikely to come to harm.

Wigeon · 21/07/2013 22:08

Actually, that's a point, you definitely don't HAVE to take them to the toilet with you (I'm sure the SIDS advice doesn't mean that you do), but they will almost certainly go through a phase where they scream if you leave the room and you end up taking them to the toilet rather than be stressed by the sound of screaming baby and holding them awkwardly while you actually go

exoticfruits · 21/07/2013 22:16

No! It will be bad enough later on when they want to come with you!

changechangechange · 21/07/2013 22:19

Yes, mine was a cry-if-you-put-me-down baby. Even if he wasn't, I think I'd have still taken him to the bathroom and put him on his changing mat - would have felt odd (to me) to leave him in another room. Going for a wee single-handed is quite low on my list of one-hand achievements.

Meglet · 21/07/2013 22:22

No. Mine did cry when I was in the bathroom, but taking them with me would have tipped me over the edge. There's no where to put them on the floor either, I'd have trodden on them.

ZingWidge · 21/07/2013 22:24

no, I put a nappy on them

scottishmummy · 21/07/2013 22:27

No,and you're not supposed to have baby superglued to you You 24-7
They don't need to be in same room as you.just somewhere safe
In fact get used to pop baby in cot so you can eat,make hot drink,get a break

cory · 21/07/2013 23:55

No. I did take his older sister though. Didn't trust her not to murder him.

flipchart · 21/07/2013 23:56

Did I heck!

ChippingInHopHopHop · 21/07/2013 23:59

No - why on earth would you?

They don't need to be with you every minute of every day!

scottishmummy · 22/07/2013 00:02

Get your baby used to time in cot,so you get time to shower,drink tea,chill out

adagio · 22/07/2013 00:03

I took mine generally, popped her on the bathroom mat where she could see me, or on occasion managed a wee, wipe and hand wash with her still in my arms - you would be amazed what can be achieved with one hand when needed!

If she was ever happily asleep or playing I would have left her, but to be honest, I reckon I can count on the fingers of one hand the number of times that happened. Main issue is that she can go from fine to screaming, hysterical, mess which takes ages to calm down in a very very short space of time - I generally felt it was easier to keep her near to avoid this risk?

Showers in the early days - her in bouncy chair or moses (depending on asleep/awake) and now (as soon as she can hold up her head) in the door bouncer which she loves. I sing, badly - but she still thinks I have the voice of an angel

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