dd is 3.8
From the age of 8 months until recently she has always settled herself very well at bedtime. She went into a bed when she was 3 and everything was fine until about a month ago when she started playing up at bedtime.
It has now got to the stage where she will prevaricate and faff about for ages asking for more milk, then another kiss and a cuddle, she has got into this thing of wanting to count to twenty before I go, but she will get to 19 then start again....
I know it all sounds rather pathetic but I have tried SO hard to be firm with her, last night I just said "right that's it, I'm going downstairs now, you can stay up if you want but I don't want you coming down", she got totally hysterical and was grabbign at me then started coughing until she was sick 
Now I feel like evil monster mum and maybe I should be sitting there for bloody hours with her, I don't know. It is taking up to 2 hours for her to settle and IT IS DRIVING ME FING MAAAAAD. I can't relax, I can't cook supper as I know I will be up and down the stairs (or dh will) and I can't just walk out or she will spew everywhere exorcist style
I have tried bribery, star charts (which have worked before) - I am going to have to resort to drugging her or something if she doesn't bloody stop it (not really obv!)
WHAT CAN I DO???