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'snooping' on 11yr DD iPod touch...

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yornie · 13/06/2013 10:47

my DD has had an iPod touch for a couple of years and unbeknownst to her I know her pin code so occasionally go in and check her messages etc. Usual girls stuff, the odd bad word, nothing scary. But today I checked her YouTube history and there was some totally inappropriate stuff, some American reality show called 'sex house' and other stuff, which has totally thrown me. I have now set a restriction passcode on her iPod and basically blocked YouTube from it as well as set age limits on movies, tv shows etc. But my issue is, do I tell her that I have done this, as she will then know I have been accessing her iPod touch without her knowledge. She will realise something's up as she won't be able to access YouTube anymore, but do I tell her why?

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GibberTheMonkey · 13/06/2013 11:10

Yes
She's only 11

Tee2072 · 13/06/2013 11:30

Yes. But you should have told her when she got it that you'd be looking at it periodically.

GeeandTea · 13/06/2013 11:50

I would explain what you have done and why etc. Use it to have a chat about why some things aren't appropriate and internet safety. I also have an 11 year old DD with an ipod touch and whilst I do monitor her use etc. (and she knows I do, it was a condition of her having it) I didn't know you could see you tube history or set age limits. would you mind telling me how you did this? Many thanks
Hope you get it sorted.

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Kinraddie · 13/06/2013 12:36

Thanks for your advice. If your DD has a YouTube icon on her iPod touch you can click on that. I cant actually remember now how I saw the history, but there must have been a link to 'recently viewed' I think. In terms of setting age restrictions, go into the Settings icon, then click on restrictions. You can set your own 4 digit restriction passcode, then change age limits on tv, movies, safari etc. Good luck!

Parsnipcake · 13/06/2013 12:39

Blocking YouTube on the restrictions only blocks the app, they can still access it via safari. And the age restrictions don't really work either.

Hulababy · 13/06/2013 12:45

My 11y dd now has a phone but did have an Itouch before, and has an iPad. She knows that I have full access to them including her emails and messaging. It's part of the agreement for her having them.

For you tube, games, songs, video, etc everything is set to a 12 rating only.

fieldfare · 13/06/2013 12:52

Definitely tell her and explain why. We use opendns for all the tech that dd uses.

Kiriwawa · 13/06/2013 12:54

You need to be totally open with her that you're checking up on her. Would you allow her unrestricted access to a computer? An ipod is no different.

She's 11, not 15

GeeandTea · 13/06/2013 16:15

Thank you. My dd uses her iPod in her bedroom (although we have one computer in a central living space). Have told dd that if I find out she has been using iPod inappropriately she will only be allowed to us iPod in front of me and it will be taken away at other times. I do think Internet access is a difficult thing to fully control though. I think the best thing is to try and keep lines of communication open about what is/isn't ok on there.

iChaz · 19/06/2013 21:54

Educate her of the dangers of the internet and how porn is fake. All of it. And youtube is censored by the way so there is no nudity.

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