Further freakingly fantabulous adventures of the 40+ Mummies Part 2

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Our 2nd thread is full but it won't prevent us from laughing, moaning, keeping on supporting each other, sharing and chatting over our new life with 1 or 2, even 5 children !
Here you go, fantastic 40+ Mums, a brand new thread for all of us, old friends from the pregnancy thread or new joiners

Haha. Baby seaside. Make a good story book. I too am victim to the small job of 5 mins or I get in baby m speak mummy mummy mummy I am bored do something with me now now now hello I am down here hello

Morning!

Well done babies goat and monkey! That is fab news. How has it gone subsequently?

chair so sorry you are feeling low. We are all here for you. It seems to correlate with baby chairs sleep - surprise surprise- and that can only get better. But you need tlc in the meantime - give it to yourself and take it from others where you can ( I know it's scarce)

Re sleep are you getting as much food into her in the day as poss?

Xxx

The Christmas miracle was a one off. Never mind I blame teeth and wants mummy cuddles. Mummy tired hello to all.

Am still tucked up in bed feeding baby s (who is being a little jewel :) ) giving myself a stiff talking to to go downstairs and be NICE + PATIENT with mil all day ... feel a bit tired and cranky though. had to give baby s a calming bath at midnight as she was still mad with excitement at having visitors bless her

Good luck with MIL seaside. LRM and BBD I will get BG to do an intervention. He woke up at 7:45 this morning. OK, he was awake for an hour at 5, but still. I went back to bed too and was late for work.
Both DH and I went in to make sure he was still breathing, we couldn't believe it!!
Not expecting it to last...
Chair and Mrsw hope you are being looked after as you deserve.

Thanks everyone. I had my weekly massage yesterday and told my friend all my woes. She gave me an amazing full body massage and I slept much better last night. I also started my period today - god that's something I haven't missed! Wondering if on top of residual stress some nasty PMT pushed me over the edge. Anyway, DH being v good in a blokey sort of way.

Re sleep, DD has been going down at 7pm for the last week. I think the extra night waking is connected though dream feeding makes no difference. I've upped her feed size and will keep offering her milk from late afternoon so she can cluster feed.

LRM hope MIL is not too hellish. Is it possible for women to have a straightforwardly positive relationship with their MIL I wonder. Not stereotyping, I just haven't heard of one yet!

Amen to small jobs. And abandoning jobs halfway through. I find random cleaning items scattered around where I've had to leave them, or half-brewed cups of tea. Hey ho.

Amen sister can't beat a half done job or sucking on the bag your tea is so stewed. Have moved to coffee as ok cold

Cold tea is ok without milk.

I actually get on very very well with my mil! my FIL is another matter

just need to run in and say AAARRRRRGGGGHHHH!!!! now back to mil.

Gosh, a lot to catch up on and had a glass of rosé, so excuse omissions...

Somewhere, wondering whether your mum's test results are back yet. Thinking of you all. Thank you too for advice on DD: you made me realise that I do not what not want to meet a form of anger with anger so decided to reply with clear boundaries but framed with understanding and love. Since then we have had no incidents. Perhaps we were anyway passing out of the phase, or my tone and body language changed. I've also taken stock and am trying to not say "just wait until..." so often, especially for tidying/cleaning up etc..

Chair, you are so right to take his seriously and talk to friends in RL, but I am really sorry you have to go through it. Hopefully the talking, realisation, sunshine and maybe some more sleep will also help. If you get a chance to go to GP maybe visit and perhaps lay down a marker at least, even if you are clear you are not ready for medication (though if you need it do take it: they might even find one more suited to you). Whatever happens, we are here for you. How is DD sleeping? Our DCs are very similar ages/gaps so I can relate. Is she waking often, or taking too long to settle?

BBD, hope you are feeling less frustrated, and find your lovely equilibrium again soon. You come across as somebody who absorbs a lot of other people's stress and problems so hope there are people to support you too.

Goat, music - wonderful. Coincidentally I saw your post just after I'd tried to listen to a R3 recording of Halle playing Chopin's 2nd piano concerto, though rubbishy winter net connection.

Falling asleep over keyboard, so briefly, DD much better and had divine day with them both in the sun. Also did 20mins on a friend's' turbo trainer and feel sooo amazing for having done good physical (sweaty!) exercise. T had six week (7w2d) check yesterday: he does have a serious tongue tie so he's been referred for it to be cut; also a somethingICantRemember which means tight muscles on one side of the neck so he always looks one way and is getting a flat head. The colic/reflux is ongoing. Not every feed - probably half of them? He doesn't cry much but is obviously uncomfortable and understandably can fuss and then cry if particularly bad.

Seaside- HUGE MiL sympathy. I'm very much not in a position to advise given my own mil disaster weekend...but here to listen

Waves to rest xx

am very taken with turbo trainer (been thinking about it for an age) so can you Moe experienced ladies remind me what make and model you recommend.
Some of my happiest memories in life are cycle trips and holidays with DH. Would live to be fit enough to head off to the downs with him the odd time, let alone with two DC on back of our bikes

gosh, Chair, that is tough. Will consider further overnight, but initial thoughts:
firstly it must be true because if not only a seriously messed up person would invent something like that - which in itself must warrant some outside attention;
And did she say or do you know if having DP there counts as not being alone, in this context?
As far as sunburn is concerned, I guess SS will see it tomorrow if they are in daily?
Longer term maybe contact social services, explain what you know, and ask if there is a number to contact if you are worried about the little boy (child)? I would usually shy from interfering but such a young child is defenceless. Will have a further think, and also look forward to wiser heads to come along.

thanks for tip, am very tempted by the Tacx. Do you just do longer and or more resistance or are there training "rides" etc you can follow?

We've got same Tacx model but I don't have much to say about it as I don't ever seem to get the chance to use it. Well, I could be on it now I guess but we are on v frequent wakings and long feeds at night so my energy isn't what it should be!

Scarecrow I'm looking forward to getting back in the saddle too (only managed one bike ride since DD was born). I'm sure you'll soon get your fitness back and hopefully you'll manage to get some lovely rides in this summer.

V tricky situation Chairman - definitely sounds like something that needs reporting, esp with the sunburn. Probably best to not assume that SS are already in full possession of the facts, although not easy picking up the phone. Glad to hear you're feeling a little bit better.

Not that I can talk - been a lousy parent today and had a terrible accident with the nail clippers and DD. Can still barely think about it, although have been assured it's a common type of accident. Sought medical help (although think it was me that needed help more than her as the bleeding had stopped by then) and she doesn't seem at all bothered by it; in fact, she seems to enjoy my company more than ever as won't let me out of her sight today (making me feel even more rubbish)

Seaside hope you are coping with MIL this weekend. I don't have a MIL as she sadly died many years ago but have my own dear DM to keep me on my toes with her strange comments

chair I will ask my sister who is a social worker, my gut says yes.

Xx

seaside my commiserations re nail clipper - been there with a burn I still shudder to think about xxx

Echo somewhere. Ring nspcc. Defenseless child needs care if patent is failing also guidance for her. I would ring no hesitation hate to think of him suffering. Mum may have major issues.
Hugs and waves to all nice to see the sunshine. Bike ride sounds lovely. Out with the pram and little man. Daddy putting up stair gates. Getting him to do all the jobs he will fill our holiday with out the way. Dylan can't
Even crawl yet. But as baby goat knows it comes very quick

God that sounded really smug didn't it? Apols - I find my little moments of happiness where I can. I missed out the shitty argument with DH, blubbing because I lost my phone and having the period from hell. Happy days!

Chair. U be as smug as you want. we all do when we can. I love when baby m wakes and gives me a lovely smile. Legs kicking in excitement. Had a early night teething drama last night work every hour uptown 1 when I gave him some calpol. Settled till 7 so not to bad. He has two popping out the same time. I am such a dumb ass I thought one at a time. Silly mummy

chair didn't sound smug at all xxx. I want to wallow in the cuteness and all those anecdotes help - more the merrier.

I'm doing my first 5:2 fast today so going a bit doollally. Can feel myself getting a bit high already. It's fun because its a goal. Doing it with my mil and she has got a massive twinkle in her eye - she is 76 and I think dieting is making her feel 40 again. She used to do a lot of it. Sorry for me me me, am just concentrating on not eating.

Xx

Somewhere, good luck with non food thoughts. With this beautiful sunshine, I can't bear to be in the kitchen to cook, so will prepare a huge salad for me, ratatouille for A and fruits to take out to the park.
Chairman, these little joys are the most important treasures. I would also certainly call SS even if it is none of my business, really hope the Mum gets help and proper care so that her baby is well looked after too. A baby is such a miracle, so precious !
Seaside, hang on, MIL won't stay forever.
Eagleray, I was stupid enough to cut A's nails a few days after birth, hum hum, got told off by MW although I knew I did something stupid as her fingers were all red and bloody....
LRM, teething... Not looking forward to it. Hope baby M will be less cranky today, poor little boy.

A bite me twice and I m not getting anywhere with bottle feeding, she rejects the bottle whether it s expressed milk or formula. Any advice ?

Had heart attack yesterday and weed in my pants while chasing DS on his scooter in Regents Park. He got carried away with his friend, they just ran away on their scooter so far from us. I guess the whole park knew my DS's name and his friend's. my friend Mum was crying of stress. They never left our sight but if anything happened we would have not been close enough to be of any help. First time really in almost 5 years that he scared me so much. This episode raised 2 issues: how much can I count on a 4.5yo sensibility ? Am I completely unrealistic ? How can I teach him to be careful without freaking him out ? and second big issue: pelvic floor seems much weaker than I thought.

Oups, have to run. Enjoy the sunshine every one, stock as much Vit D !

hello all. well done on the call chair - it must have been very difficult.
Having a bit of a tough time here; DD is still wracked with wind/colic tho mercifully / weirdly only during the day. Doc has started drops - retnadine or something - so maybe she will be able to be awake and content or even sleep during the day as opposed to either feeding or in awful distress. I am exhausted and miserable and feel like I am short changing both DC. My head knows it will pass, rest of me is lost down the rabbit hole...