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Further freakingly fantabulous adventures of the 40+ Mummies Part 2

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blueblackdye · 21/05/2013 21:08

Our 2nd thread is full but it won't prevent us from laughing, moaning, keeping on supporting each other, sharing and chatting over our new life with 1 or 2, even 5 children !
Here you go, fantastic 40+ Mums, a brand new thread for all of us, old friends from the pregnancy thread or new joiners

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ChairmanWow · 09/07/2013 13:50

goat yay for no more marking. School hols round the corner as well. Hope we keep the sunshine. Great point re kids paying for parenting choices. I worry for my friend's DD in a school environment where the world doesn't revolve round her, she will have to co-operate and listen to teaching staff.

eagle we also ignored the HV. I don't hold a lot of sway in what they say anyway. There is no evidence that BLW is any better in terms of long-term outcomes for kids' eating anyway. DS weaned at 4 months because it was very clear he was ready. Fed him purées a la Karmel until he was ready to finger feed then did a mix of the 2. He is a brilliant eater now.

Bit of advice re babies and sun. We're going to Wales on Friday and it looks like there will be lots more sunshine. So it's plenty of beach time. We've got a sun tent but DS hated it when he was a baby. What have you used for shade and would you allow a 15 week old in direct sunlight with sun cream on? I'm in a bit of a quandary really.

cyclecamper · 09/07/2013 17:53

eagleray We have a second hand chariot trailer with a car seat in it. We got a weber sling but it moved too much to use it cycling.
Your DP sounds to be in as bad state as mine - it might be re-assuring that my husband has one lung that is almost non working and one that is pretty rubbish and still manages to cycle a 24mile commute.

Babycamper wouldn't have anything to do with a bottle when we offered it.

It would be nice if he were happy and awake a bit more often! He just doesn't seem to relax unless he's being fed.

Good news today is that Stepson 1 got a 2.1 at university Smile. I'm really proud of him, he's worked really hard. He's lived with us since he was 17 (he's now 22) after having some troubled times and issues with his mother and her partner. He got a part time job as soon as he moved in and set about getting his A levels.

Good luck with the weaning everyone!

somewherebecomingrain · 09/07/2013 20:41

Hello all

cyclecamper great news about baby camper growing into newborn clothes. Also great about your stepson and his 2:1. V enterprising re the cycle car even if there are teething problems - eventually baby cycle will be riding along looking at the world. I always wanted one of those as they look so cute.

chair your friend may well need some time to process the information. But she is lucky she got it from you in a friendly way - I hope she takes it on board. It's a tricky one! So sweet about your ds saying dd's name.

goat baby goat ate what? A samosa? I tell you he leaps from the web page this boy - he's so vivid. Sorry he's had a temperature and I am praying for your sleep.

eagle that must have been absolutely terrifying re dp. I hope that like camper's dp it's amazing what you can do without a full set of lungs. Hope he is mending well.
Re weaning I need to revisit it. All I can say is with ds I did only purees for the difficult foods like vegetable and he really won't eat them now. Not sure if he wasn't always fussy and that's why I only did purees, rather than the purees causing the problem. I always gave him toast and fruit as finger food. Annabel karmel is really good - he never refused her recipes.

bbd summer in Paris - bet its hot and loud! I lived there once and i remember it being sulphurous! Hope mil isn't being too annoying.

AFM baby somewhere latched on to my cleavage the other day, whilst in the sling, and gave me a love bite! I was thinking ahhh that's cute ... Ow damn that hurts! It was momentarily nipple shaped and a bit David cronenberg when I pulled her off!

Oh yes and her nappy got stuck up her bum and she did a poo straight on to my leg and the floor - a jet.

And I love her.

Having a bit of a battle with coffee intake and naps etc. want my coffe but think it does disrupt her sleep.

Xxx

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blueblackdye · 09/07/2013 21:30

Ladies, reading quickly your posts and as usual, they brought a big smile on my face. Have not got a lot of time to reply to everyone as I m utterly knackered with this heat, I can't sleep well with AC but I need to have it on for the kids ! If it were me only, I would sleep in the garden on a hammoc under the trees....

I will be back soon. I just wanted to say to Eagleray that I agree with you all, no need to listen to HV or particular weaning method, I used to puree food at the beginning and when babies wanted to hold something, I would give a penne pasta or spaghetti for them to chew on while I spoonfed, gradually move the finger food to something less soft. Just make sure it is just long enough for them to hold and not too hard/soft. Banana for example when not too ripe is good. Or beetroot a bit later. Mango is great but tricky to hold, too slippery. Expect food on the floor, on the highchair and on you ! A moved very quickly from puree to lumpy food and I started weaning at 5 1/2 months. Remember that milk remains the main provider of nutrients until 7 months so don't panic if the solid intake seems very little. Keeping an eye on weight gain is a good indicator on how much baby is taking in. Also, poo will show you that more food actually gets in than you think !

Somewhere, I got bitten a few times too and like you, still love her more and more.

Scarecrow, re cuteness from our bigger babies: DS said to me "Mummy, d'you know that putting a baby to sleep is actually work too?" I love him more and more each day, feeling guilty to have a second and having to share my attention.

Oups A is screaming. Have to go. Her sleep has been better lately. LRM, I found a way to get her to sleep by herself, will share this later with you on MN.

Xxxxx from Paris

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EagleRay · 09/07/2013 21:30

oh slightly jealous of your chariot Cyclecamper - been trying to track down either one of those or a Croozer second hand but they go for so much money. Car seat is a great idea. I remember you saying before about your poor DH and his asthma - that's good that he's still able to do a fair distance. DP races occasionally and is in a cycle club that do fairly hardcore routes, which is how he originally discovered something was up - he was being left behind and initially put it down to being over 40, but then the awful coughing/weight loss started and I started to fear the worst. Great news re your stepson - a 2.1 is a huge achievement, especially after a turbulent time in his teens.

Chairman - mixing the weaning options sounds like the most sensible thing. I think the HV has to aim for the lowest common denominator when presenting information - I just need the confidence to ignore it! As for the sun, Baby E was about the same age when took her to Greece - took some Bepanthen suncream but to be honest, we only used it once! What we did was cart her around in a cheap lightweight pushchair with a big folding sunshade over the top (big black hoop-like thing) then pegged a big muslim over the gap so she was effectively sealed in. Then on the beach she generally stayed in either that or was under a brolly (we took a tiny black folding brolly and lay her under that when on hikes etc. Also, we hired a Connecta carrier made of uv-resistant material and then she had a teeny tiny trekking hat from H&M. And early/late in the day, we let her go in the sun where there was minimal risk of burning. Hope this helps and enjoy Wales!

Somewhere yikes re the nappy up bum/poo incident! Interesting re coffee - hadn't considered this before. Must admit I slightly do as I please re food/drink choices (2 instant coffees a day plus the occasional evening drink) and should probably put more thought into this.

Goat glad to hear weaning resolved a lot of BG's feeding issues - he sounds like a very enthusiastic eater! Initially I felt like it had come round too soon, but now frankly I can't bloody wait. I will look up the Rana Conway book. I definitely think laminated clothes are the way forward - would be great not to have to change endless tops Smile

Another shit night for settling to sleep this eve. Have tried feeding, baby bouncer, feeding in bed, and currently she's lying under a mobile in her grown-up cot allowing me 5 mins of hands-free time. Last attempt to feed ended with her doing feed/cry/feed/cry/feed/cry on a 5 second loop - not sure if she has wind or something? I do get a bit narked about the evening stuff at times as most weekday eves I'm on my own and would just like an hour or two to get stuff done or to just bloody well sit on the sofa!

EagleRay · 09/07/2013 21:33

Thanks for the weaning/feeding info BBD - we've actually spent the afternoon in the hammock which was lovely but not terribly relaxing as DD likes it to be swung vigorously or to lie facing me kicking me in the face. How cute is DS! Hope A stops screaming quickly

somewherebecomingrain · 10/07/2013 08:56

aww bbd you are bringing up a feminist!

eagle they take up to 5 days to metabolise caffeine when newborn. Something like 14 hours when three months. Then eventually 7 hours like an adult. I think it can build up in their system.

Baby s has v sticky crusty eyes. I've tried breast milk, boiled water with baby shampoo and antibiotic eye drops. The drops cleared it while I used them but as soon as I stopped it was back. The non crusty one has crusted up. anyone else having this problem? could it be Hay fever?

MrsWooster · 10/07/2013 20:14

Hi somewhere babyW had crusty eye from the off and doc said it was a blocked duct and not to worry it would clear by a year, whereupon it promptly cleared up! Just keep clean with bm or water and it will go.

EagleRay · 10/07/2013 20:29

We did our first food today! Exotic recipe called Boobie Banana (can you guess what was in it?) Did the feeding in the garden with the highchair and there was so much mess I had to go and get her bath and dunk her before she was allowed back in the house.

DP is here this eve and we've decided to beat stressy crying evening stuff and go out for a meal with the pushchair.

I have a feeling BadMissM is having a section today!! And virtually everyone else on the thread seems to be due very soon - I have a vision of little newborns galloping over the horizon towards us, mummies in tow...

blueblackdye · 10/07/2013 21:06

Eagleray, you are right re BadMissM, her Csection was today. Hope all went well and she will join us soon. Hope you have a less stressful evening. i'm off to bed, A was awake from 12.30 to 2am last night and Ai could nt catch up with sleep at naptime as DS wanted to pick some berries in the garden.....

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somewherebecomingrain · 10/07/2013 21:59

She got her c- section! That's fantastic Smile

GoatBongosAnonymous · 11/07/2013 15:34

Oh yes, was thinking of Badmissm earlier in the week then forgot the dye. Hope to see her here soon as a grad with her little boy!
Off work today as poor BG has an ear infection. Sitting outside under a tree with him asleep in pram. I'm really really sorry he isn't feeling well but this sure beats sitting at a desk sorting exam results for the Board tomorrow!

GoatBongosAnonymous · 11/07/2013 15:35

The dye???? Try the date...

somewherebecomingrain · 11/07/2013 18:28

Hi

Thanks so much mrsw. The Gp told me to try boiled water with a squirt of baby shampoo in it which I think was terrible advice as it got much worse, I had to go to my sons school last night with baby s with two horrible yellow-crusty eyes. Anyway this morning I tried saline and that has set it back to square one - mild Crustiness in one eye. And now just going to clean with boiled water and wait.

Goat sorry your boy has an ear infection.

My son is currently wearing a lacy bra as fairy wings.

cyclecamper · 12/07/2013 10:13

Somewhere - I've used boiled water and cold tea on crusty eyes with some effect.

We're off on baby camper's first camping trip today. I'm slightly nervous that I'm going to forget something vital!

EagleRay · 12/07/2013 11:40

Happy camping trip Cyclecamper! We're off on our first camping trip tomorrow hopefully if everything fits in the car

EagleRay · 13/07/2013 13:52

We are on the road! Car loaded to the roof. Sorry for another poo story but we had only got 10 metres down the road when baby E finally managed to eliminate 2 days worth of sweet potato purée.

Was so busy packing I forgot to work out where we are actually going! Hah - we will head south and formulate a plan along the way..

Have a lovely sunny weekend everyone

somewherebecomingrain · 13/07/2013 21:17

eagle I've now put baby s in mother ease nappy covers - they are for washable nappies but contain even liquid poo so solve the prob.

BadMissM · 13/07/2013 21:59

I finally made it over to the Grads thread, ladies!!!!

OK, for those of you that missed it, I was admitted to hospital early, on Sunday the 7th..then spent two days on a steroid/glucose/insulin drip.. in the sauna of a delivery suite. Had quite eventful elective caesarean on the 10th (apparently I have extra blood vessels!).... lost quite a bit of blood, then all the canulars fell out (long story) . Finally, my son Caspian Albert Sebastian Alexander was born at 2.34pm, by ELCS under general, on 10 July. He weighed 7 lbs or so (3kg 400). He is gorgeous.... photos to follow!

I've had no internet/clever phone for a week.... still a bit sore from everything, but was finally allowed home this afternoon....

blueblackdye · 14/07/2013 09:16

BadMissM, welcome on this side ! Welcome to Caspian. Very very glad you and little Caspian are now home. Enjoy these first days. Waves to your DH and DD.
BBQ day today, so have to run, 30 guests, need to start cooking.
Xxxxx

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somewherebecomingrain · 14/07/2013 09:58

badmissm congrats!!!!!!GrinGrinGrinGrin Well done and welcome caspian. So pleased you are here.

bbd 30 guest Blimey good luck xxx

GoatBongosAnonymous · 14/07/2013 18:57

Hooray that badmissm has made it to the grad thread! Congratulations to you and the little and lovely Caspian. All the best for your first days together.

littleredmonkey · 14/07/2013 20:13

Congratulations badness. Welcome to the world little Caspian! !! X

littleredmonkey · 14/07/2013 20:15

Cyclecamper and eagle. How's carry on camping going. You have certainly got the weather for it

littleredmonkey · 14/07/2013 20:18

Bbd. 30 people holy crap I can't be arsed doing a BBQ for me and dp. I have lost a gold star for being a crap domestic godess. However earned man stars for doing hedges and all garden crap. Drilling and diy stuff. Ps not sexist be arsed. Haha