would you ever

[katkoala]

put a newborn to sleep in their own room straight away? ? due ds in 5 weeks and had never considered this until a work colleague told me her twins went into their own room from day 1.
my house isn't massive and I have s video monitor and plan to have a sensor mat.
just wondering if anyone has done this? ?

Yes, really regret it. I wish I'd have savoured every minute of my sons newborn-ness and if I could turn the clock back, I'd have him right next to me for a year, like with my other children. Gina Ford had me well and truly in her clutches.

Nope. Both mine stayed in our room until 6/7 months. I think there's something about how being with their parents teaches them to regulate breathing and reduce cot death (or perhaps I imagined that). Plus it's way easier for night feeds.

Yes - I did with my second. When my first baby was born she slept next to me in a crib but I did not sleep at all. Every little sigh, wriggle or snort she made had me wide awake thinking she would wake any second. So she went down in her room from about 5 weeks or so. We did a bit if a co sleep thing until she slept more solidly from 10 weeks ish.

DS went straight into his own room with a baby monitor. There was a feeding chair in his room which I used.

Just worked for me to do it this way.

Yes DD3 the noisy little sleeper went straight into her room after 2 nits in hospital.

I only slept on her bedroom floor for 4 nights before trusting the monitor.

Yes, in theory, but I am too lazy to walk any distance at night to feed a newborn 3 times a night so it was easier for me to have him in my room or to sleep in their room.
Sleeping in a different bedroom is not a crime IMHO.

Colleague had twins, so they would be able to feel each other's presence, and not be completely alone in a room. But that still sounds pretty cold to me.

No, definitely not.

Never in a million years, not least because the reason that current guidelines advise baby is in the same room as you for a few months is because it significantly lowers the risk of SIDS

I wouldn't feel comfortable doing it but everyone is different. My DD co-sleeps, and people frown upon that but it's each to their own. If you want to try it then do so. But if you feel any apprehension once you've left DS in the room alone then that approach clearly isn't for you. They're only little once. Just do what comes naturally to you so you don't have to regret worrying all the time when they were growing up.

All the best with the new arrival OP

Yes, mine did from a few days old. After my first was still not sleeping through in his own room when he started school! I was determined that my second would be able to get to sleep on her own. I followed GF guidelines and she was a brilliant sleep from day 1.

Nope. As they need to hear you breathe to help them to remember to breathe

Plus is easier when they are in a moses basket right next to you when you have to wake to them 10 times in a night

No.

Yes. Although i had a bed in there for night feeds.

No I would want to be close to them at night for reassurance and feeding. Plus it reduces the risk of SIDS too. Moses basket next to the bed works best for me, but it used to be common for babies to be put in their own room from newborn wasn't it? And woken every 4 hours for feeding? I remember watching a show a few years ago where 2 sets of new parents tried different parenting techniques. One was where the baby went everywhere with the parent and the other was putting baby in their own room, letting them cry, feeding only every 4 hours and putting them out in the garden on their own during the day in a buggy. Both styles had advantages and disadvantage so I suppose if it works well for you then you should do it.

Catching, it's not about styles and advantages...it's fact that having babies in the same room reduces SIDS at that age. And that is a proven fact.

Yes I've said that at the start of my post that it was one of the reasons why I wouldn't do it.

Yes, I saw. It was where you said in your post 'if it works for you you should do it', which made me post. If something works doesn;t mean it's right?

But for some parents they can't sleep at all if they share a room with their newborn, if having their baby in a separate room with a baby monitor and sensor mat stops them from going insane with sleep deprivation then I wouldn't make them feel bad about it.

No, of course. Although it doesn't stop the fact that newborns regulate their breathing based on those in the room?And that is is recommended to do so?

I've not said that isn't true. As I've already said I wouldn't do it based on this, but I'm aware that some parents can't manage that so if sleeping in a separate room works for them then fine.

No, never could. I followed SIDS advice.

No. Not worth the risk.

Plus getting up to feed in the night is easier if you don't have to zombie walk into another bedroom.

There's something wonderful about having your baby so close by.

No, I have attended CONI training for work, and the FSID are very clear that babies put to sleep on their own pre 6 months are at greater risk. Absolutely no way was I taking that risk.

As it was, both dds have fed frequently at night which would have made it unfeasible anyway.

Thanks for all your posts...food for thought, as this is my first, I'm sure he will be in beside me for a while, was just interested to hear some opinions and see what had worked best for you all...on another note, has anyone used an amby nest as opposed to a moses basket?