would you ever

[katkoala]

put a newborn to sleep in their own room straight away? ? due ds in 5 weeks and had never considered this until a work colleague told me her twins went into their own room from day 1.
my house isn't massive and I have s video monitor and plan to have a sensor mat.
just wondering if anyone has done this? ?

It wasn't even about 'guidelines' for me (knew sod all about babies before I had one, hadn't even considered how I'd feed the first until I'd had her such i was that naive)

It was a primal thing (for me) It felt weird going to the loo without her!

Nope, followed SIDS guidance with DD (went to own room at 7 months and slept through from the first night!) and DS is currently in my room at 5 months. He'll probably sleep better in his own room but I'm going to wait until at least 6 mos

Mine went in own room from three days old as she was sooo noisy - sounded like a little piglet! It was opposite and we had both doors open so I guess it wasnt much different than being in a really big room!

DS went into his own room at 10 weeks worked better for us, though his room was so close to us with paper thin walls i could hear him breathing not sure i would have done in our current house as the bedrooms have a room in between.

In own room from day 1 but just across the landing and we got a breathing pad. The truth is no one really knows which of the recommendations have reduced the incidence of SIDS.

Where I come from, co-sleeping is considered to be the Big Evil and so that's my paranoia. This is because co-sleeping is a cultural thing for segments of the population who have a much higher incidence of SIDS. So the advertising is targeted at this. Unfortunately, those same groups also have higher incidences of smoking and general poverty: which also increase SIDS rates.

No one really knows why it happens but I have to say I agree that the 'baby needs to hear her parents breathing to regulate her breathing' argument sounds like something we will be scoffing at in the future.

Dial - the reason SIDS is now so rare is because people are following the guidelines. If everyone stopped following them because it's rare then the number of babies dying would increase dramatically. There is a direct link between the reduction in SIDS deaths and people following the guidelines.

Guidelines that have been developed over years of studies of families like mine. Every baby born in our family for the last 25 years takes part in SIDS research and are on the CONI programme because two babies in the family died. The circumstances of their deaths, and the information gathered on the next seven babies has helped form these guidelines. I followed them to the letter, because every single one of them is recommended for a reason, and every single one is based on studies of thousands of babies whose parents have given consent for their data to be used so that others don't have to face what they have. This isn't scaremongering or trying to make anyone feel inadequate, it's just fact. And the fact is babies are at a significantly greater risk of SIDS if they sleep in their own room before six months.

OP I appreciate that you are planning to use a sensor pad monitor, I have one, and our babies are monitored with hospital grade heart, breathing/movement and SATS monitors too, but they don't negate the guidelines. The safest place for a baby to sleep (all sleeps, naps included) is in the same room as their parent/s.

The Lullaby Trust (formerly Foundation for Sudden Infant Death - FSID) have a wealth of information on their website and the point they push the most (it has a strap line) is 'Sleep safe, sleep sound, share a room with me'

The research programme is incredibly stressful for the families involved. It is time consuming, it involves having a paediatric nurse train you in infant resuscitation, daily charting, daily weighing, daily diarising of everything, weekly hv home visits, regular consultant paediatric appointments and far, far too many heart stopping false alarms on the apnoea monitors. But as families who have felt the horror, and been through the process the guidelines are our gift to other parents so that they don't have to do go through it.

I would urge everyone to follow the guidelines, they are there to help you keep your most precious people as safe as they can be.

I just never thought it was worth taking the risk. Even if the research wasn't completely solid, I still believe it has some merit. Then there is the fact it just didn't feel instinctively right to have them away from me.

I think some of the best moments have been lying in bed listening to her little snorts and grunts. Oh and trying to stifle our laughter when she does a massive fart haha xD

All 3 of mine slept in their own rooms from about 4 weeks. They were noisy sleepers (like someone poking a piglet with a pencil!), I'm a very light sleeper - it was hopeless. I knew about the increased SIDS risk, but felt on balance they were more at risk from me crashing the car while sleep deprived.

Yes ds1 went in after about 10 days and ds2 first night home. I just couldn't sleep with them in the same room, every little movement or snuffle & I was awake. The room we put them in was actually about 2 steps from ours & the walls are very thin. I also had the monitor right next to me, it worked for us & they both settled very well & were pretty good sleepers.