Would it bother you if...?

[Calista]

...your 4 year old was asked by the teacher in a group discussion at nursery class 'whether he lived with his grandparents as Grandad is always picking him up'...

(He doesn't btw, my hours at work mean I can only pick him up once or twice a week so my parents collect him on the other days)

Yes, I suppse a bit in a kind of none of her business kind of way slightly irritated way, but I wouldn't make any deal of it, I think it's minor tbh.

Hmmm, can see why you may be but no wouldn't be bothered.

For the reasons that, it could be a genuine concern to find out if things have changed at home. I worked in a nursery and often made general chitchat with children about their homelife and on a few occasions got answers which explained a change in the children's behaviour e.g. daddy doesn't live at home anymore. This enabled me to bring it up in conversation with the parent, who otherwise i don't think would have told us. In respect of caring 7-6 for a child its quite important to know if things have changed and we stop referring to daddy being at home iykwim.

On the otherhand it could have been pure nosiness!

Either way, there are far worse things that could be said.

Btw was it you who has probs since coming off depo? how are things now?

Hi Hattie, yes, twas me with the depo issues! The tablets (norethisterone I think they were called) that the doctor gave me worked as they were supposed to and I had a withdrawal bleed when I came of them.
Since then I've had two normal cycles, 26 and 25 days long, pretty sure I'm ovulating as I'm getting 'signs' around day 18-ish, so all's good! Have put off trying for another baby for a few months though, as I'm on a temporary contract at work and haven't found anything suitable that's permanent yet. Prob best to let things settle down for a few months anyway. How're you feeling?

I guess the reason it upset me is that it just dredged up the guilt that I feel because I can't take him to school and pick him up myself. Silly to get worked up about I know, but it just hit a raw nerve.
Do you think it's worth mentioning to his teacher tomorrow or will I look like a neurotic mother?!

TO respond to your original post first, i wouldn't mention it, but can totally understand where you are coming from. Nothing to gain though in mentioning it.
I can relate because i am not keen on my dd's pre-school keyworker, and dd has become increasingly unsettled (until this week!) and in my head i'd been blaming dd's keyworker for being a boring old fart . One day when i collected dd, the keyworker asked me if there was any changes at home that she should know about! There weren't and i said so, but i felt really defensive about it because i felt she was the cause of the whole problem .

Anyway enough about that, i am thrilled for you that you have got things going again! I conceived after the third period i had so you never know! (i know you say you're not trying at the mo, but even so ).

I'm feeling fine thank you, desperately looking forward to a holiday next week, i have never felt more like i needed one! .