Worried about agressive teen DD and younger siblings

[egghunt]

My teen DD (15) has gone off the rails recently, getting arrested and playing truant, doing drugs, put on anti-depressants. She has been violent to me, and all the teams of services from school and the council are in action to help. It is a tough phase. She spends a lot of time on the net and makes the wrong kind of friends. She has tried to kill herself and is a cutter.

I am worried about her attacking one of her siblings, who are still little children. Has anyone else had experience of this? I want to trust them to be together but I am increasingly scared she will do something terrible.

Does anyone else have experience of this thanks.

Didn't want to read and run :(

I'm only 22 so can't offer a view on the parenting side, but I was EXACTLY like your dd at 15. I hated everyone around me apart from my "friends" I was lucky to have a supportive and loving family to see me through and it sounds like your dd has the same. I'm now a year from completing my degree, a good job and a nice life. Oh and 5 months pregnant! (: it will get better and one day your dd will realise and appreciate what she has.

For what it's worth, for as angry and volatile as I was at the time, attacking my sisters was never an issue. It was "authority" that was my issue.

If your other children are still small could you simply 'ignore' the fact that you have a 'built in' baby sitter in your teen daughter and look after them yourself/hire someone?

Or are you actually worried about leaving them alone in a room together whilst you're still in the house?

If it is the latter you should probably seek professional advice.

What gives you the idea she might go for a small child?

Are you secretly hoping you could use the risk to suggest she lives elsewhere?