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Anyone know a family of all boys go on to get a baby girl?

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DeadlyLittleMiho · 26/02/2013 14:29

Hi everyone, I've just signed up today because I'm wondering if any of you ladies know of, or have a large family of all boys that had just one little girl in the mix? I have 5 young sons and I'm hoping for a daughter someday. I know it's possible but I don't personally know any families like that. Any input welcome :)

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Rockchick1984 · 26/02/2013 17:28

I know someone with 3 boys and youngest daughter; and someone with 4 boys currently pregnant with first daughter :)

MayTheOddsBeEverInYourFavour · 26/02/2013 17:31

I have five boys and one girl Smile

HousewifeFromHeaven · 26/02/2013 17:32

The beckhams? Grin

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5madthings · 26/02/2013 17:32

I have four boys and one girl :)

MillyMoo1113 · 26/02/2013 17:36

I know someone with seven boys then 2 girls followed...

DoIgetastickerforthat · 26/02/2013 17:36

I've got three boys and am currently rocking my 6 week old DD to sleep. I can't give any advice though as it was a 'surprise' pregnancy, but obviously it can happen.

Oh and my mum is the only girl of seven children although she was third in birth order.

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DeadlyLittleMiho · 26/02/2013 20:23

thanks for all the replies! I was really just looking for some reassurance because I've been told loads of times by complete randomers on the street and people I hardly know on my kids playground "Oh you CAN'T have/make girls" I still hold onto the fact that its just 50/50. Even some of my family members have said I'll never have a daughter. it hurts a lot! can I just ask you ladies who had a girl after a few boys if you did anything different?

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My5boysandme · 26/02/2013 20:26

I have 5 boys and pregnant with boy number 6, don't think we can have girls in our house.

5madthings · 26/02/2013 20:26

Nothing different, she was a bit of a bonus baby, not exactly planned..

2tired2bewitty · 26/02/2013 20:29

The other way round, but my great grandma had 8 girls before her two boys!

KristinaM · 26/02/2013 20:30

My brother and SIL had 3 sons then a daughter. And a friend has the same, her baby daughter was born last month. Both of them were really keen for a girl but I know lots of families who are very happy with just sons.or daughters.

vamosbebe · 26/02/2013 20:30

My paternal grandma had 8 boys before having a girl. She late mc'd the next baby and didn't have anymore.

Tolly81 · 27/02/2013 02:51

It's just 50/50. If you took a coin, you could easily toss 3 or 4 or 5 heads in a row and you wouldn't say this coin cannot throw tails. But equally, you could still throw another head. I know families that have had a girl after boys but also families that didn't (I myself have three older brothers, then there were 2 girls, but dh is one of 4 boys). Fwiw, the baby's sex is actually determined by the sperm and not the egg, so if anything, they should be saying your dh can't father girls! I think before you try again though you need to consider if you'd be happy with another boy, and when you'd stop trying for a girl. Also, in the families I've known that have had a few boys then a girl, the girl has been really spoilt. How will the dynamic work with one girl?

Yahbro · 27/02/2013 03:23

It's pretty simple, do you want another CHILD?! All of these threads seem a bit weird to me (as a mum of 3 boys, 1 dd). I have never cared less about what sex my kids were. DD came at no3. Obviously I adore her but she means no more to me than my boys. I adore them all equally. DD hates pink. If that's the kinda vibe you were after....

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DeadlyLittleMiho · 27/02/2013 04:03

wow thanks again for all the replies! well, first I want to say that my desire for a daughter goes much deeper than the colour pink lol. really, what it is the relationship that I want. I always have since I was a little girl. I know that sounds a bit naff but its true, I remember feeling this way long before I even knew or cared how babies were made! its just something I've always thought of.

I do actually think of the coin toss thing Tolly. no one would be astounded if you tossed 5 heads in a row but when its a same gender family some people are like "wow 5 boys" - sometimes they're saying it enthusiasticly and sometimes its sarcasticly.

about the only girl in the family being spoilt, yep I can relate to that cos a friend of mine is having a girl after 4 boys and the comments on Facebook are all "oh she will be a spoilt little princess" seriously that sounds like an absolute nightmare to me. since when did spoilt become a good thing?

yahbro, you're so lucky to have never cared what gender you got and you're so lucky you got both! I don't know what treads you mean as I'm brand new here but I'm guessing you mean people wanting a mixed gender family?

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Tolly81 · 27/02/2013 09:33

There have been quite a few threads on here recently about people being disappointed/regretful/depressed about not having had a girl. I think Yahbro is right, if you only want another child if it's a girl then you shouldn't have another baby. You really have to be honest with yourself about how you'd feel if you had another boy.

SquidgersMummy · 27/02/2013 09:43

Sorry but the fantasy of what it would be like to have a girl - and how she would be - and what you would do together etc is just that: a fantasy. If there's something missing from your life, or something you need to resolve you need to sort that out. It's unfair to expect a baby to do and likely to just not happen. If you had a girl she would have her own ideas - and you could get on very badly. She could be a complete tomboy or just not be close to you. You can't assume it would be perfect. We all dream about what it'll be like to have a partner, baby etc but its never like real life is it? In the meantime you have some gorgeous boys who need all your love and attention - not someone whose sat there wishing she had a girl. How many baby boys would it take for you to give in? Can you figure out where this need comes from. Hugs x

Arithmeticulous · 27/02/2013 10:04

4 boys and a girl for my SIL.

I used to know a family of 8? girls and a boy.

DomesticCEO · 27/02/2013 10:09

I agree with squidger, you can't possibly predict what kind of relationship you would have with a daughter - and how are your boys going to feel if you keep having more boys, then have a girl and your boys are then pushed aside for you to develop this "special relationship".

Some mums and girls are close, some are indifferent and a small minority are at total odds with each other.

5madthings · 27/02/2013 10:16

I agree don't have another baby unless you are happy to have another boy.

I am not sure what you are hoping the difference will be with a girl but time there isn't a difference so far. Other than clothes of course!

We always wanted four and were not bothered about gender, we bummed and ahhed about having no 5 and then left it to fate and ended up with no 5 who is dd, it was a lovely surprise to get a girl but we would have been just as happy with another boy.

As for the spoilt issue, dd us certainly not spoilt and nor will she be, she is treated the same as the boys.

Locketjuice · 27/02/2013 10:35

I'm one of 6, 4 boys 2 girls

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DeadlyLittleMiho · 27/02/2013 12:16

I wouldn't push my sons aside if I had a daughter. I don't think I even hinted at such a thing did I? That's not the kind of person I am. I know the perfect mother daughter relationship is a fantasy but I wouldn't expect it to be perfect. Right now as it stands I have zero chance of any kind mother daughter relationship. If I had another child and it was a boy I'd be ok with that. I love having a big family and my sons are so funny and loveable. I'm so lucky to have them and I do know that. They get all the love and attention in the world and are all really confident. I.don't mention this in front of them at all. they're all so amazing when they get a new little brother, I've never had an issue with jealousy or anything, I've been really lucky. that's why I know I wouldn't treat a girl any differently, because that's just not what we are like. I think my philosophy has always been, a daughter would be great but I'm always more than happy to welcome another son.

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5madthings · 27/02/2013 12:23

That's fine then :)

DonkeysDontRideBicycles · 27/02/2013 16:36

I know of 2 families with 3 girls and 1 boy and one with 3 sons and 1 daughter. There must be more recently famous families with boys and one girl than the Osmonds? I think the actor Ralph Fiennes has 3 brothers and 2 sisters, the actor Lawrence Fox has 3 brothers and 1 sister.

If you are happy at the idea of a sixth son, then a daughter would be a bonus, and it's win, win Smile

MamaMumra · 27/02/2013 17:18

My cousins - 4 boys and 20 years after the first they had a girl Grin

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