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Mums of 3!

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Ameybee · 29/01/2013 19:53

I have DD 3 and DS 4 months, we have always said we wanted 3 as me and DH are both one of 3 and love having siblings. But I have found having 2 tough, had PND and DS not a great sleeper still. DH says he's not sure he wants no 3 and thinks he's too old! (He's 38 I'm 29). Obviously we don't have to make any decisions & I'm thinking take it as it comes and decide in a few years. So what I'm wondering is... Is it much harder with 3? Xx

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Gumps · 29/01/2013 19:58

It's hard as its relentless. But it's also lovely and I wouldn't change it for anything.

NickNacks · 29/01/2013 19:59

For me, yes but I wouldn't have it any other way.

I had/have two very easy boys followed by dd who is quite high needs. But she has a huge personality and all our lives are better with her in it. :)

No experience with pnd though sorry.

I always wanted 3 and didn't think I'd feel complete until I had them do I'd say go for it!

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ubik · 29/01/2013 20:00

It's hard.

First two years were a blur. I don't remember DD3 crawling or walking. Now she is 3 and others are 6 and 8 and it's great, they are fun and things are much easier ( more expensive though)

MerylStrop · 29/01/2013 20:00

I didn't have PND, so I can't assess how that might or might not impact, but I found the 3rd the easiest, he's 3.3 years younger than my middle child, eldest at school before he arrived. He's the best thing that ever happened to DD, and doesn't create much extra work.

thisisyesterday · 29/01/2013 20:03

i found it a great deal harder. one extra child seemed like more than double the work lol

BUT I did have 2 and 3 quite close together, and ds2 had been a very high needs baby, so i was knackered still from him i suppose.

don't regret it at all though, I LOVE having 3. but it IS hard work

FrantasticO · 29/01/2013 20:03

I'm an oddity... I found one crippling to begin with, going to two was fine and number three just slotted in!
Maybe it was confidence or maybe my standards dropped!
Three is great though we are ALWAYS on the go.
Good luck

Indith · 29/01/2013 20:07

I found dc2 very tough, PND, horrible time feeding, just so hard and I ended up a lot bit of a mess. Number 3 though has been easy, he just slotted in really. No PND this time and although he is nearly 11 months and I still long for more than an hour of sleep at once it is all pretty easy this time. I love it and the love between the dcs is beautiful, especially the boys (the baby and ds1 who is 6.) The baby is a little more wary of his 4 year old sister, sensible boy :).

lulabelleg · 29/01/2013 20:10

I've just found out I'm pregnant with number 3. Tried to close my eyes to this thread incase it was all bad news Grin. I think I would always have a regret if I didn't have third. BTW me and DH are a bit much older than you, you have time. I definitely wouldn't rush decisions when you have a small baby and hormones make a lot of decisions for you.

Happypiglet · 29/01/2013 20:26

You are not an oddity fantastico! I found it exactly the same as you. I had PND with DC1 and found it such a hard transition. DC2 made things a bit easier and DC3 easier still.
Mine are 18m and then 23m apart. I think it is not having time to think which helps!! Plus they are inbuilt entertainment for each other.
But with your youngest only 4 months I would think it is much to early to decide! I was 37 when I had my last so you have plenty of time.

ProlificWillyBreeder · 29/01/2013 20:30

I'm the same fantastico and happypiglet
3 is grand, 1 was overwhelming.

NigellasGuest · 29/01/2013 20:30

3 high maintenance Dd's here - and I wouldn't have it any other way. good luck to you!

Spookey80 · 29/01/2013 20:36

Interesting reading as just trying to decide whether to go for no 3,, I am now a bit scared...but I still want the madness of more than 2.. I think. Do I? And for them to each other, that must be then best bit.

SJisontheway · 29/01/2013 20:49

1 - 2 was a big shock, but 2 - 3 was a breeze.

minimuffin · 29/01/2013 21:42

Other way round for me. 1 - 2 a breeze, 2 - 3 a big shock... Good luck!

3gorgeousgirlies · 29/01/2013 21:50

I've got 3 girls and its crazy! They are 6,3,1. It's been crazy since my third was born, but lots of fun too. The girls adore each other. Go for it you won't regret your third.

wigglesrock · 29/01/2013 21:51

I found going from 1-2 much harder then going from 2-3. Although I'd a bigger age gap. The age gap between my dd1 and dd2 is 2 years and a few months. Dd2 is 3 years 4 months older than dd3. I was 37 when I had dd3.

I also found that the years have flown in with dd3, I think its because the older 2 were at school/nursery etc - my dd3 will be 2 in a few weeks and honestly its been the fastest two years.

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steppemum · 29/01/2013 22:00

mine are 10, 7 and 5, so dc1 started school as dc3 was born.

I found dc 3 just added to the crowd. It was 1 who was hard! And my worse sleeper was dc2, so 3 was fine and we just got on with it.

Love having 3. I find the dynamics of 3 much more interesting than 2. The 2 who squabble in my house are 1 and 2, so the third one didn't make any difference there

waltermittymissus · 29/01/2013 22:04

No.3 was like being hit by a very adorable train for me!

Got PND for the first time which didn't help. Now they're 6,
4 and 2. It's non-stop. And I'm a SAHM because of childcare costs etc.

But it's completely manageable. It's loud but fun and you get three cuddles instead of two Grin

I wouldn't change one tiny little thing. Except maybe I'd get a cleaner!

Cakethrow · 29/01/2013 22:19

Only a novice mum of 3 (DC3 is only 3.5 weeks old!) but so far he has just slotted in.

I found 0-1 really tough as DD had reflux and didn't sleep through until she was 22 months. In hindsight I may have had undiagnosed PND too but no confirms experience of this.
1-2 was easier (23 months between them) although DS1 had some medical problems which needed to be diagnosed and sorted so a lot of his early memories are a blur and I was on autopilot for the first 12 months or so.
2-3 has so far been ok. There's 23 months between Ds1 and DS2 and both the older two have been fantastic. They get on and play argue together and also help me out lots. They love their little brother to bits and have accepted him brilliantly. prepares self to eat own words as ds2 gets older
It probably helps that I'm more easy going this time round, too.

Yfronts · 29/01/2013 22:19

I found 2 hard. My second was a whirlwind and I had mild PND. Third was a dream baby - very easy but I also had mild PND again. Thankfully I also had a weekly cleaner to take the strain. I am busier then having 2 but we all find the youngest addition quite funny/entertaining.

forgottenpassword · 29/01/2013 22:22

Love having 3 and like others 0 - 1 was biggest shock. No 3 slotted in nicely. Would have a fourth if I had more time and money.

Happypiglet · 29/01/2013 22:26

I would just add that having three was easiest when DC3 was a baby (first 12 months really). Once she started putting her oar in things got more tricky as she broke up my boys cozy twosome!
But she has been the best thing ever to happen to DC2. They adore each other. DC1 has a slightly strained different relationship with DC3 ...
Now they are 8,7 & 5 it's fun but full on. I absolutely love it.

BackforGood · 29/01/2013 22:27

0-1 was just such a shock for me. Sooooooooooo overwhelming.
No2 was a breeze
No3 I hardly noticed. I was so much more relaxed, and have 'enjoyed' her so much more than dcs 1 and 2 when they were little.