Further freakingly fantabulous adventures of the 40+ Mummies

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For gorgeous, frolicking and fabulous 40-somethings to share the joys of becoming a Mummy, just a little bit later than most!! . Park your zimmer-frame next to your baby buggy, put your feet up, and come and join us in the snug.

eagle sounds tough. i have stinking cold too and know how you feel. am on sofa with big box of tissues, lots of drinks and a sleepy baby. all naps on mum today - haven't the strength for all that palava ... you may just be unlucky with cold coinciding with growth spurt, hence the mega-feeding, they do it to boost your supply for next stage. bf adviser told me they always get something even if you feel empty, which made me feel better. keep drinking! i agree stick to your guns if bf is what u want. you are doing brilliant job :) oh, and i think you can take ibuprofen too - check though.

lrm mmmmm egg fried rice .... has to be takeout tonight for me now

goat so glad sleep is better! dont know how you are managing

bbd our house is bombsite. still not really unpacked from house move and washing mountain range grows by the day ...

vq are you out there lovely?

ps lrm your dp is man of the week!

Sorry to hear of all the illnesses out there Hope everyone feels better soon and that DHs wait on you all hand and foot!

I think I am possibly more sleep deprived than I thought. Made a cake. Without baking powder. Nearly flooded kitchen as turned tad pnthen wandered off, came back just as water lapping at top of sink. Lost phone, was in my back pocket. And that's just the beginning of today!! in the end I have up and we watched silly tv all afternoon while knocking down towers and inspecting egg cartons very closely...

lrm what a lovely DP...

Turned tap on even...

DP being a hero and driving 100 miles back home to help out and bring more painkillers - in too much pain to cope and can't keep up with baby E's hunger. Just given her a bottle and now she's covered in sick

goat sounds like you're having a bit of a day

seaside hope you feel better soon

Eagle, DP is a star just like LRM's !
Oh Goat, one of those days....
A just fell from my bed ! Screamed and cried. On the breast for an hour now. Feel soooooooo bad.

eagle hooray for your dp and here is a bedside to liven up the sickroom. You poor thing, I do hope you feel better after getting a good night's sleep

bbd don't feel bad! As you said to me, if they're yelling, they are fine. And you have two more times before you catch up with BG - who hasn't learned a thing and still lunges lemming-like over the barricading pillows!

Oh no Goat, has baby Goat made 2 more plunges ? I know, I know, if they scream straight away, it is a good sign, well at least, not too bad sign but still I feel bad, I should know better as DS did the same, I should have not let this happen again. I could not help myself googling whether I should or not call GP or go to A&E. So far A has been behaving like any other night, sleeping one cycle and cries when she rolls over before falling back to sleep... I m getting more sheepskins so that I can put her on the floor in my bedroom too. She now can sit pretty steadily and plays for 30 min on her own in her cot but sometimes falls backwards and her head hits the bars (I got rid of the bumper a while ago when she started to spin in her cot), sometimes she cries sometimes she doesn't...
One of my best friends moves back to Seattle at the end of the month, she is the mum I meet every other day, with whom I cook, hang out, go to the park etc. I m going to miss her so much. This is the 3rd mum friend within the past 3 years that moves back to her country of origins, one went 2 years ago to Sweden, another one 4 months ago to France and now to the US, is it I who make them run away ?
This week, we will know whether DS will enter the French primary school or not. I really hope they will take him. Just because the French curriculum is more familiar and also French is such a difficult language to learn as a second language, I find myself struggling to explain some grammar rules... Keep your fingers crossed for me !
On this note, good night every one

Bbd good luck for your son! Is that the one in Hammersnith?

Screamy night here. Meh. But all this running around at night seems to have one beneficial effect as I have lost another half stone without even trying! Yay...

Oh. And the other two bed falls were more cliff dips. Came in to find him hanging backwards off the edge, whereupon he stopped and rolled. Really quite artistic.

Eagle. Gold star for hubby driving all that way. Hope u feel better today

Bbh. I bet Anastasia is as bright as a button this morning. As for missing friends think of it as exciting times when you go on holiday and meet up. I am quite shy so dont socialise very much. So my baby group is nice.
Goat. Hope Tarzan lets you sleep tonight. Hows his naps in the day?

Bythesea. How ya doing honey feel any better?

Waves to ff valium scarecrow badmiss. Xx

Oh dp gets extra gold star. I got breakfast in bed this morning. Legs ache from going like a mad women on the x trainer last night. Got to keep working on my fat ass

The snug is a vision of every treat and cake you can imagine. Bring your forks ladies there is going to be a sugar rush

Sorry waves to midget as well

Feeling a lot better today as been to the docs first thing this morning to get prescr painkillers for throat (DP wasn't able to get anything other than lockets as the pharmacists were rubbish and said I couldn't have anything!) Had to drive the 200m there as felt so awful. Also barely slept last night as felt so rubbish. Felt so desperate with the pain I started regretting ever having had a baby

Anyway, pain is much less now and am well enough to sit on sofa. Difficult to eat/drink as have no sense of smell and we had a bit of a near miss in the nappy dept earlier as I can't smell them coming...

DP really came into his own last night - I probably don't give him much opportunity to be the one in charge putting things right, but he really made a difference.

LRM I'm a bit like you and haven't done much socialising since baby was born. I don't have an NCT peer group and haven't joined any other groups yet (apart from the sling meet I went to the other day), but I will get around to it soon. I'm happy having a few good friends who I really connect with, rather than a big group of people who just happen to have given birth at the same time as me. Well done on the cross trainer and what a star DP is for doing the breakfast!

Goat re the half stone. But I think it's very well deserved after all the stress you've had recently

BBD hope A is fine now - am sure she will be, but it must've been v worrying for you. Sorry you are feeling the loss of your friends - they sound like a very international bunch!

Oh god Baby E just vomited everywhere. Well, more of a steady trickle of milk. And that bloody babygro has only been on an hour! She's rarely sick - does it mean she's had too much/enough to eat? Since I've been ill she's feeding far more frequently and for longer - just hoping she grows out of whatever it is that's causing it as it's hard work!

Eagle, so glad you got some help. Baby will not benefit if you that sore and worn down. And fab of DH. I lost heaps of blood after DD and made DH as a dad - he had to do everything except bf for two days, and much more. I'm a natural bossy boots do-er but realised more I let and encouraged him to do things his way the more engaged he was. Top tip for dodgey dad dressing though is to "accidentally" spill something on outfit (or let LO do so).

LRM you are amazing with x-trainer. To my horror already put on 3st a month before birth (on Friday I got date as Wed 17 April if baby doesn't arrive before). Last time came in bit under 3st by full term. Oh well...maybe it's a bonny baby

Hope you all gradually getting more sleep xx

eagle how are you feeling? Hope painkillers at least have kicked in.

scarecrow at DDD (dodgy dad dressing). I think our best was a tiger long-sleeved vest, ie orange and black, under a like green and brown stripy short sleeved romper suit... He is absolutely brilliant at everything else though!

I dongonto a few baby groups, but don't really socialise with the mums outside of them. Still meet my postnatal NCT lot on occasion, (didn't have time for antenatal!) although really only hit it off with one. The mum friends I meet most are the ones I met off another MN thread!

Another bad night. I beginning to wonder about an ear infection or some such as he is pulling his ear, and no other sign of teething at the moment. We shall trot off to my utterly useless gp.

Sorry for typos... A bit cross eyed here!

Hope every one gets better soon, Eagle, baby G, Goat, VQ, Seaside...
Nighttime is getting slightly better, A wakes up only once now. But she used to not wake up at all... Oh well, I know she can sleep through and every night I whisper in her ears she should and secretly wish she would. No success so far
Her hair is turning brown, with a bit of auburn whereas DS has dark brown hair.
She refused with a grin her vegetables, steamed and mashed with love, last night after 2 spoons but then I offered her my lentils and she much happier ! Same with natural plain yogurt, she prefered St Paulin cheese, a bit stinky on her hands. aTM her eyes are closed, BF but plays with my hair with her hand up, I expect to get oneor 2 fingers in my nose or eye soon.
DH isaway for 2 nights and 3 days, bedtime will be interesting with 2 kids, i have to do some cooking today ifI want to eat in the next few days...

Goat, the French school I have applied for is in Kentish Town. Keep your fingers crossed for me.

Fingers crossed and thumbs pressed!

This virus is never ending - started to feel a bit better yesterday with the painkillers but then had an awful night where Baby E was waking every hour or so crying, and my throat hurt more than ever. On top of that, I've got a really painful cough and my ears hurt too.

DP is out of the country now and today started feeling really desperate - what are you supposed to do when you don't have family nearby? I'm not good at asking for help at the best of times, but there really isn't anyone I can think of that I can ask to come and help. Anyway, Baby E has been fed and fed and fed today (bottle and BF) and she hasn't slept a wink all day so I've just put her in her hammock so that I can lie down and get a bit of rest/sleep. I'm taking 4 different painkillers and losing track of which ones to take when - bloody nightmare. Baby E screaming her head off now but I'm going to leave her as I'm shattered and will never get better unless I have some rest. I've held her for ages in the hope that she will fall asleep but no.

Sorry for miserable post - I'm so, so fed up and can't remember the last time I felt so ill.

Goat how did you get on at the GP? Hope he doesn't have an ear infection

BBD good luck for next couple of days without DH

Scarecrow two more days at work for you after today! Hope you are getting through the week ok

Get well soon Seaside

All is quiet again now - going to try and sleep for a while

Eagle, I m thinking of you. Hope you get enough rest and baby let you sleep. Don't be shy and ask a neighbour to baby sit so that you can sleep and get better. Hugs to you

I've made a twice baked strawberry and Lemon cheesecake for the snug. it's nice and soft so even the poorly and the babies can eat it. Car hunting so been AWOL. Much like lion hunting but less fun and no lions. Here's sending get well vibes and get into school ones too.

Oh Eagle, you poor poor thing. If I lived half close enough I'd happily give up anonymity to help.
You must must ask for help. Can you ask family or friend to travel and stay for a few days? People often jut new to be asked. And don't be too brave - explain how poorly you are: cry if you want to. If they say no you are no worse off, after all.
Do take care.
Sx
PS have you tried letting babyE suckle finger when cries? Can help if she wants to suckle rather than actual food. Danger if she feeds too often you are drained and/or she gets wind/over full tummy. Worth a try!

Hey hey, got the job ! 2 days a month, it is not the jackpot but it is a start ! Any one has expertise in writing a contract ? My brain is gone. I have to get it back soon... May this good news be the first of the week and be followed by an admission in the French school for DS.
This evening was not too bad, far better than I expected, DS and A were asleep by 8pm. Maybe DH is the one messing with my routines ?! I can deal with 2 kids on my own, well for one night. Yeah ! I was so scared tbh.
Midget, I am sure your cake will cheer up all of us in the snug. Twice baked ?
Was the car hunt successful ?
Good night all.

Thanks everyone for your kind words. Having a relatively pain-free moment - I think the drugs have had long enough to kick in but not long enough to wear off.

DP is back in the country tomorrow and then is going to take Friday off so there's only tomorrow daytime to get through. My mum did offer to come over tomorrow, but she would be relying on my stepdad to drive and I feel a bit awkward as I don't think he would be that keen to hang around the house all day. If DP wasn't coming back though I think I would ask her to come.

I didn't sleep at all today - I don't actually feel sleepy, just drained/fed up. Baby E slept for about an hour I think and has been awake ever since. In fact I get surprised when she does ever fall asleep. The only time recently she's slept much was on Monday where she fed/slept in a loop in the crook of my arm. All very well when you are spending the day in bed but not so good otherwise. I need to get naps sorted when I'm well.

I did give her a bath tonight, thinking it would be nice for her, but think I made the water a bit cold. She looked horrified and really betrayed - useless mummy.

The strange thing about this virus is that I don't have a temperature any more, and when it was raised, it wasn't that much. It's as if my body has welcomed the virus in and told it to make itself at home. I'm up and dressed but it's the pain and discomfort that's getting to me. I'm going to go to the baby clinic tomorrow morning and maybe see a doc again while I'm there. Not sure if there's anything else they can give me.

Scarecrow - thanks for the advice - I do let Baby E suck my finger sometimes if I think she's overtired rather than hungry, but often I forget about it as an option so thanks for reminding me. It tried a dummy earlier but it was continually spat out...

So sorry for self-obsessed post - I will be mortified I'm sure when I'm well again and realise how much I've gone on about a sore throat.

Midget the cheesecake sounds awesome, although I'm off food at the moment as I can't taste it. Hope it will keep until my tastebuds recover.

Oh dear - Baby E is trying to suckle on one of my nice sofa cushions - talk about dropping hints... better go and feed her then try to get her to sleep. Oh, now she has fallen asleep. Poor little thing - she'll wake up soon enough for feeding so will let her sleep for now.

Big hugs to you all, and thank you for helping me get through the day x