Further freakingly fantabulous adventures of the 40+ Mummies

[10000Fireflies]

For gorgeous, frolicking and fabulous 40-somethings to share the joys of becoming a Mummy, just a little bit later than most!! . Park your zimmer-frame next to your baby buggy, put your feet up, and come and join us in the snug.

Eagle. Ace poo story. Love it! !! Now tell baby eagle to have words baby monkey last week did not poo for 8 days ended up at doc for goo to help him go and again this week not been since Sunday. May have to give goo again. I am end and doc says can block em up. He has the worst gas ever

End is ebf sorry typo

Morning all, happy red nose day people.

any news to report on the Job and the weaning ( or the poohing eaglet?)?

I sent DD to school not feeling well but determined to go in as the school has a day full of treats in store. Bad mummy. Hoping master midge doesn't get it too.

In more all about me news, I went out Wednesday. To see book of mormon. I laughed so hard I did a little bit of pee. And as it was gala night for comic relief it was full of celebs. I felt really grown up and not vomit stained (although there was a small spot on my dress). Anyway mr midge was not quite so happy as BOTH children screamed for hours. Midge refused a bottle. Had loads of messages pleading me to come home. Luckily only checked phone half time and at the end but looks like nights out solo are not to be just yet. Bugger.

Scary so many are having to think a out work already. LRM - it's a tough choice re your job - seems wrong that you can't be a manager still and have a family . I am putting off returning as long as possible. Hopefully January if I can swing it.

Right best go clean my house whilst midge sleeps.

Midget. Hope dd is better. Work wise I could return as a manager if only put him in nursery full time. I have a place booked but now I have the little fella it would break my heart to pass him over to a stranger for 45 hours a week. My managers role is full time so if I reduce my hours I will have to step down and become a sales assistant. Less money well alot less but I would rather miss out on a few things then miss out on Dylan. I would only see him for an hour in the morning and night and every other weekend. Perils of retail. So think I may go three days a week. But that depends if they have a vacancy. They might make it ackward for me as nearer Christmas and would be an arse to fill my slot

Moan alert! !!!
Dylan and day naps oh my god. First one was thirty mins. Not too bad. Next took me 20 mins for him to sleep 12 mins. Next one took forever to settle as knackered and lasted 11 mins. Saw he face totally shattered rubbing his eyes picked him up went into my bedroom shut the curtains and on the boob hoping he would have a little sleep. 1 HOUR 40 MIN later he woke WTF!!!! Brillant he slept so long on me. But this week has been exhausting trying to nap. What to do next

Oh lrm as you know i am in no position to give nap advice. except not so bad to feed to sleep on mummy sometimes i think if it makes you both relaxed and happy. you are doing brilliantly :)

Midget i love sound of your life: celebrity nights and good baking. are you Nigella in rl?

Bbd forgot to say loved the sound of your love cake. you are a lovely mum

well, baby seaside continues to delight me and dp every day, never known joy like it. am feeling so old fat and frumpy this week though. must stop eating biscuits for a start. and trifle.

Sorry you're having a nightmare with naps LRM. I'm no expert at all on baby napping but have you tried white noise? I use it all the time now with Baby Eagle as it seems to be fairly guaranteed to send her to sleep and keep her there for a reasonable amount of time (unless she's hungry!)

Midget I've heard great things about the Book of Mormon - so envious you got to see it! And glad you got a night out!

Seaside glad you are enjoying baby Seaside so much, especially after a really stressful start with her early appearance!

Having a nightmare weekend so far - DP is moody and stressed and Baby Eagle feeding like crazy last night and today. DP is being a total git - after spending so long weaning off formula he told me off for not shutting her up with a bottle in the night. I eventually relented in the early hours (think he feels a bit redundant not being on bottle duty and he also feels I worry too much about breast feeding). Then he saw me when I came out of the shower earlier and looked really horrified and then asked if stretch marks are supposed to look like that.

Sorry - that was a bit of a moan-a-thon! I sometimes feel it's easier managing on my own as he's so negative about things.

Never mind - onwards and upwards! There's been a break in the weather so we're going to go out for a while (and Baby Eagle might even fall asleep and forget about food for a while - just realised she's been awake for about 8 hours now!)

Midget, I wish I could be more like you, going out and easy going with Master Midge. I find myself house bound because I want A to sleep in her cot instead of her pram, i never managed to get her to take a bottle so can't go out etc... My own fault really.
Seaside, how are you doing ? It is nice to hear from you.
LRM I have the same issues with naps. I really need A to nap in the morning otherwise she is too tired at lunchtime, so between 9.30 and 10am I have either to let her cry or feed her. Then the afternoon nap is a struggle too, it is only when I pick up DS at 4pm that she falls asleep in her pushchair for 30/40 min. I will try what Eagle suggested white noise and rainforest sounds...
No news on the job yet, I might be too expensive but hey I am good so I will not undersell myself just to get a job !
LRM hope you will find a way to keep a good balance between job and Dylan. When we become Mums, our priorities change for most of us. But every one is different. I used to spend my life at work, I could do 7 to 11 several days a week and I did a few years back. Now I work non stop from 8 to 4 and then DC are the most important thing. My sister is differrent, only week ends are dedicated to her kids, weekdays she hardly sees them, her nanny does the school run and feeds them, my sister arrives home justin time to kiss them good night, so does herhusband but it works well for both of them. I must say her nanny is a gem though, very pro Montessori and good cook. The kids love her.
DS had his first swimming lesson this morning, he was very good, listened to the teacher... I am very proud of him !

Well done little boy bbd! I r-e-a-l-l-y don't want to go back to work. Ever. perhaps that will pass? Just can't imagine getting my brain back together, and when I do, I don't want it filled with stupid stress about stuff that doesn't really matter, if that makes sense? We need to live though, so not sure how that one will work...

Eagle - is weekend improving? Very bad form Mr Eagle on shower comment
Thing with bf is that it can be a bit of work for first weeks, but when it works well can make life soooo much easier after that. Its so great you have it working after your difficult start - you've done amazingly well! Common for dads to feel a bit pushed out though. Is there anything they can go off and do together that's just their thing? Baby swimming classes maybe?

Laughing hysterically at the thought of my life sounding good. Well it is good because of my lovely children but the rest is about as mundane as you can get. But I shall try and retain a thin air if mystery! And I had to take Midge to the pub with me last night now he's decided the boob is king.

Eagle - stretch marks can look so angry so maybe he was worried rather than being a total knob. Look at me being all mature.

Well midge has really mastered rolling and won't bastard well stop doing it. Naps also gone to pot. Bloody developmental leaps can knob off.

Best go. dd still I'll and DH at the football so have had a TV and slippers day. Currently watching la la fecking loopsy the movie for the second time today as nudge try's to roll off my lap. He is trying to catch up with houdini baby goat.

Sorry me here again with more whinging Baby E been feeding like crazy today and this afternoon I started feeling really dizzy. Thankfully she finally fell asleep for first time today a couple of hours ago and I've had to go to bed. No idea what's causing it but I feel so bloody terrible - even moving my eyes makes the room spin and don't feel up to getting out of bed. Temp is normal and I've eaten/drunk ok today but feel achey and woozy. Strangely I don't feel that tired.

Could it be hormones? I'm dreading being ill because of coping with baby waking, feeds etc. bloody typical this happens at weekend when can't see doc

Boobs are excruciating but don't think it's mastitis but will be vigilant. Has anyone else had anything like this?

Eagle, maybe you are just overtired, even if you don't feel so because you unconsciously forbid yourself feeling tired, does that make sense ? It is like falling sick on first day of hols after very stressful time at work but now being a Mum is a job in which you are not allowed a break, not yet. It could be your body telling you it is time to give it a bit of rest, I don't know ?
Re DP and Stretch marks.... Oh dear, men should be more careful when talking, they can be so upsetting, of course your body has kept memories of the pg, 9 months working towards giving life to a human being, it is not given to every one and it is a hell of a job, don't pay attention, they will fade anyway with time, just keep on moisturising

Midget, how Is DD ? I can imagine you on the mega comfy sofa, with a bowl of chocs, red wine on one side, Master Midge on the breast in front of TV stroking DD's hair with the other hand as she curls her body to be against you.

Time to sleep for me. Love to listen to the rain hitting the skylight, reminds me of tropical rain of my childhood. Xxxxx

Seaside, I know what you mean, I'd love to stay home and look at my babies but it is also good for them to meet other people, I think. Or maybe I am just kidding myself and this thought just helps me feel less guilty....

eagle I think that mastitis can come with 'flu symptoms' - might be that? get out of hours doc if you feel bad - they should come out for a new bf mum!

So many typos in my last post. Damn you autocorrect. Eagle - sorry you feel so shit. Doesn't sound like it could be hormonal - go to the Dr's.

HP you have such a lovely way with words. I am a potty mouth in comparison. DD id on the mend. Well enough to be stroppy anyway.

Oh fffffffffffs. Sorry, me me me moan alert. We had to go to Kent yesterday. Nice day (despite the unbelievably cold wind and pouring rain ) but long. We were at friends for the last bit, managed to get Kid to sleep at 6. Of course he woke when transferred to car, woke halfway round the M25 for a feed, then woke when we got home. I mean really woke. It took nearly two hours to settle him, didn't sleep until nearly midnight, then woke every 20-30 mins for the rest of the night grizzling. And was up at 4:45.
Our own fault for disturbing his sleep patterns so much, but what do you do when you have to have a day out?... Now that he is too big for the car seats we can carry him round in. Am I doomed to the life of a recluse at home while DH trots off and does stuff?

Sorry will read posts properly later when awake. And when Kid is not

Morning

Thanks for your kind words ladies - felt fairly rough in the night and my temperature was slightly raised this morning. Boobs feel ok (well no worse than normal!) and have a slightly sore throat now so think this is a cold virus thing with a bit of exhaustion thrown in.

Of course normally you can brush these things off a bit, but when there's a baby to be fed/changed/entertained it's quite scary. And of course it would be this week that DP has to go abroad..

Sorry you've had a shit night goat I've got no advice but surely there must be a way around this so that you're not left at home the whole time? I really hope you get this resolved.

The work thing is tough - I can see the next few months just flying by, and I will need to find a job at some point. Couldn't bear to work for more than 3 days a week, but jobs like that are pretty much unheard of in my industry. On the other hand, I could work full time for half the year...

Hmm strange smell coming from a smiling Baby Eagle who is lying in bed next to me. This can only mean one thing!

Goat, I have no idea how to deal with outings. A friend of mine used to time travelling in car or pushchair when it is nap time. I try to do that as well when I really need to go to an appointment otherwise I am home most days.... But see it that way, our babies grow up quickly and soon they will only nap after lunch.
Eagle, hope you are feeling a bit better. I don't know how I manage but if DS and DH are often ill, I am not, I guess it is due to the fact I am not allowing myself to be sick because of BF so I tend to nap when A is asleep, I take care of the house chores but keep it to a minimum and do complain to DH when he does not tidy up, DS also has to learn to put his toys away by himself. Nursery is really good for that, they even have a song for tidying up time !
Meant to remind you as well that on Pampers nappies, therre is a small image in the middle, when the nappies are too small, well the velcro can't reach the image on both sides and you know it is about time to go one size up, that is if you don't know baby's weight !

eagle I do hope you are feeling better. Tough to feel rough while on the 24/7 duty... And I would stick my Un-p&c neck out here and say that mums have to keep going much more than dads. My DH came down with my bug yesterday and went to bed for a cou

eagle I do hope you are feeling better. Tough to feel rough while on the 24/7 duty... And I would stick my Un-pc neck out here and say that mums have to keep going much more than dads. My DH came down with my bug yesterday and went to bed for a couple of hours. I couldn't when I was under the weather last week!
A much better night here last night (though that's not difficult ) although still quite a bit of cot-hurtling from the midnight feed until 4:30. Then he settled for an hour. So things are looking up.
Am a little behind on all the lovely posts. You wonderful ladies keep me sane... Make me laugh and give good advice! Where would I be without you?? round the twist

Ooh. Don't know what happened there...

Goat. Glad baby g had a better night. Sounds like he is having his own personal rugby session in his cot
Baby m has had two good minimum fuss naps so far today
Got up this morning and found lovely little notes all over the house saying how proud dp is of me and how lovely I am with baby ahh very lovely dp

Eagle. How you doing honey?

Hello ladies

Still bedridden yesterday I felt awful all day and didn't venture further than the loo all day. This has now developed into an ear/nose/throat thing and the dizziness has been crippling (at some points couldn't even sit up in bed yesterday). Realise as I'm writing that it sounds like a very melodramatic description of a common cold! It's just that it gets magnified by having a baby to look after - on top of that my milk supply seems to have gone down as Baby E feeding constantly and getting cross (have just resorted to a bottle of formula as she was really fed up and hungry). She's currently feeding every 3 hours, and during that 3 hours is mostly feeding! I will be in trouble if she loses weight as DP was never convinced that the BF was going to be enough (he is happier with the bottles I think as he can see the milk going in and so therefore has 'proof' that she's being fed).

Oh, and I would also like to moan about the lack of painkiller options when one is BF - my throat is absolute agony and would normally be taking something a lot stronger than bloody paracetamol!

LRM and Goat - glad you have both had better luck with the sleeping thing.

Goat - you are right re mums having to do more. DP has been complaining a lot about his tiredness this weekend so I banished him to the spare room so that I wouldn't have to hear him moan. Luckily he's been doing all the nappy changes as I am not steady on my feet, so should give him credit for that.

LRM your DP sounds lovely

BBD thanks for the info on nappy sizes - we have been trying various sizes as they seem to overlap loads. Luckily there's been no more leakages although we have come close! I love the sound of the tidy up song at nursery - we could do with that song in this house at the moment as it's like the apocalypse. Just as well there's no visiting HCPs any more as am sure I would be reported!

Eagle. Bless ya. I know how you feel I had a cold when baby m was 6 weeks old felt like dog dirt. Yeh you are right no drugs sucks. I had lockets and mints they did help a bit. Lemonade and honey. Lots of tea and egg fried rice and chicken and sweet corn soup.
Re bf if you want to bf dont let hubby make you feel down you are doing a grand job and top up bottles help. Baby m has a bottle at tea time every day. Be proud you are bf and doing a wonderful job honey