Anyone with two children torn between stopping or having a third?

[Em32]

I'm 34 in May, have ds 2 and dd 7 months(19 months apart). I always thought I'd have three children (am one of three myself) but am now having doubts after just seeing the light at the end of the 'we're going to get divorced' tunnel stage of having a really small baby around (or is that just me.....). I'm also still knackered as dd is only just sleeping through, most of the time, and physically have found I've not really bounced back this time, not surprisingly. I'm really not sure about having another baby in a couple of years as I'll be 36 but don't want to regret the decision further down the road. dh says he'd rather have a marriage and two children than a divorce and three. Anyone been there done that and what did you decide? Are you still happy with the decision?

[Helenemjay]

I have 3! my auntie did 'the needle test' on me when i was 14 and every time she did it it always came back as me having boy, boy, girl! so i kinda took from then on that i would have 3 kids one day i also had my palms read when i was 19 and she also said would have boy, boy, girl, and when i was 21 i had a boy, and 2.5 years later i had another boy and 2.5 years later i had my girl!! (freaky) and i have to say i found going from 2 to 3 harder then from 1 to 2, it is alot of hard work but they are so close in age that i think they are going to have so much fun together, its not until recently when someone asked if i would have any more that it made me think and i must stop now as we simply cant afford anymore (plus i dont think my nerves would survive it) if i had LOADS of money so i cuold get a bit of help with housework i think we would probably have millions

[twinkle1]

Just thought i would ask your opinions??? sorry to crash your thread!!:) i have a 7yrold, 5yrold and a 5month old and am thinking of having no4 do you think im mad????
twinkle

[Frizbe]

Would love to, but I already have my 2 girls, and dh has ss, so we're technically a family of three already and we really can't afford any more, so for financial reasons, unless there is a whopping great accident, we're stopping here.

[jamsam]

id love to..slightly impossible though..but my main fear is that now i bby my ds2 as he is the youngest and posibly last..does anyone else do that???

[AngelaD]

We have three and whilst i like idea of number four I am oing of fit for practical reasons and I do find newborns quite boring nowadays, I'd rather pop out a 1 year old lol

[derelicte]

A bump for this old thread, as I have this dilemma at the moment.

(And lol at the posts from MamaG, Expat and Fio)

[derelicte]

Come on...can't believe that more than two years have passed and no one has anything further to say on the matter.

[happyhoney]

Derelicte,

I had the 2 to 3 dilema for over three years - I could not decide although DH was all for it. I finally took the plunge and am now PG with no3 and feel really good about it. I think we would have regretted not having another.

[FloraBee]

Feeling same here too. Have 2 girls, (6 and 2) and veer between desperately wanting another, and thinking it's a terrible idea. Will be 38 in a couple of weeks too, so feel I need to get a move on if it is going to happen. Same dilemmas as many others though - am just starting think about MY life again; work, hols, bit of a social life, etc. Do I really want to give that up? Am soooo confused about it, and dh not burning to have another!

[PortAndLemon]

(Ha! I think we've probably decided to stick at two. But then I see that MamaG, expat and Fio had decided the same thing... )

[loler]

wow what a blast from the past!

I've had no.3 since then and was the best thing we've ever decided to do. DS2 is 1 next week and completely fantastic in every way. He just makes the family feel whole and everyone has really fallen in love with him.

Having a new baby never felt like hard work and it was much easier than going from 1 to 2. I even enjoyed getting up in the night as it gave me 1 to 1 time(he didn't sleep through until 9 months so there was plenty of practise).

Stop worrying about it and just do it (and if you're quite you can even get a free clearblue test!)

[derelicte]

Haha! Loler - did you have a diff name back then. Your post is making my ovaries flutter No plans to start trying until xmas though. Have just gone back on the pill!

[PinkyDinkyDooToo]

I am going through this atm. I swing wildly from yes to no, but am never anywhere in the middle. Right now we are not financially in a position to do it, but also DS2 isn't old enough for me to consider trying. I just wonder what I'll do next year when I kind of need to make the decision.
I don't have years to do it as DH is already 40 and doesn't want to be a really old Dad, and all women in my family go through premature menopause.

[greenbeanie]

Sorry to gatecrash, but I have been going through this at the moment. I have 2 ds (6 and 3) and always wonder what if. I always thought we would have 3 and financially we could manage this time. Yet the thought of returning to the baby stage again I'm not so sure. Each time I have had 9 months of sickness during the pregnancy followed by PND, yet I would love another. At the moment I have decided to follow a new career after realising that there wasn't a right or wron decision, just 2 different paths to take.

[MamaG]

with fio

[kbaby]

going through the same mix of emotions too.

On the one hand I find the chaos and all the extra housework/demands of 2 hard and I pray for the day when I may be able to lay on the settee on a sunday afternoon and read a book. I also enjoy foreign hols and wouldnt be able to afford it with 3 children, plus its only now that I feel part of the team back in work and no longer an outsider(from being on maternity) however I always wanted 3 and would love to be pregnant again. I enjoy the excitement of a pregnancy and birth and feeling as if you are carrying around something so special. I still find myself looking at the baby mags and browsing the buggies in mothercare.

I dont know if the thought of having another is better than actually doing it. I invisiage sitting and feeding a lo and having fun together but then in reality I couldve done that with the other two but instead im so knackered and harrased that its hard to find the time to cuddle on the settee, so why would it be any different.