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Anyone want to tell me about having 1 boy and 1 girl?

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TheCountessOlenska · 30/11/2012 16:59

So excited to be having a boy Grin but I'm only planning on having two children - and for some reason I was convinced they would both be girls!

I am feeling a little bit sad that DD won't get a sister - I have a sister and I love her, she is my best friend. I don't really know any adult brother and sister who are that close?

Will they have stuff in common, will they play together??

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AmazingBouncingFerretDude · 30/11/2012 17:02

My two constantly play together and share a great love and obsession for dinosaurs. Grin

Congratulations.

Yama · 30/11/2012 17:03

My ds is 2 and absolutely idolises his big sister (7).

FantasticDay · 30/11/2012 17:08

My Dd (6) and ds (4) are MUCH closer than my sis and I ever were as kids.

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TheCountessOlenska · 30/11/2012 17:21

Aw lovely! DD is currently going through a super girly princess phase (NOT encouraged by me!) but hopefully she is getting it all out of her system before she has a boy to play with!!

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notcitrus · 30/11/2012 17:29

Ds age 4 loves his little sister 9mo, and likes playing dinosaurs and baby animals etc anyway. You do get people telling you they're different 'because' one's a boy and one's a girl but those people would probably be as annoying commenting on same-sex children.

rubyslippers · 30/11/2012 17:32

My two play really well together

Older DS is idolised by his younger sister

Like any siblings they have their moments but overall it's all fine

beatofthedrum · 30/11/2012 17:42

My two are absolute best friends and don't fall out over toys as they generally have different first choices (not gender stereotyping, it is just fact that he wants cars and she doesn't!) They do lots of physical games together, chasing and using play equipment, shrieking all the time. I hope it stays this way!
From a parenting point of view, it's great to still have a 'best girl' and now you have a best boy too!

Chottie · 30/11/2012 17:45

My two are grown up now, but they have always been friends. DS always looked up to his big sis DD as a child. I felt the same as you as I have a S, before I had them.

Themeparkfan · 30/11/2012 17:46

I have an older brother and there are 2 years between us. We are very close (except during the teenage years) and he has been there for me through some difficult times.

I absolutely love him and wouldn't be without him Smile

noisytoys · 30/11/2012 17:49

I have a younger brother, there is 16 months between us and we get on great and always have

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TheCountessOlenska · 30/11/2012 18:04

Lol beatofthedrum - I had thought of that, DD doesn't need to stop being my "best girl" now!

Lovely to hear about adult brothers and sisters who are close - thank you

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Jemma1111 · 30/11/2012 18:17

I have a brother 3 yrs older than me and we are very close and he is still so protective of me.
I have a boy and a girl also and although they sometimes fight like cat and dog they adore each other!
Another thing , IMO girls are alot mardier than boys too!

fuzzpig · 30/11/2012 18:22

I always imagined having lots of DCs but have to stop at 2. I know we are very very lucky to have them!

DD is 5, DS is 3, and for the most part they are inseparable. They often climb into bed to sleep together instead of apart, and they are fiercely protective of one another.

They share most of their interests - anything from dolls and buggies to trains and dinosaurs :) this has so far made it easy to give them some joint presents (a playmobil castle this year) as opposed to absolutely everything being either 'his' or 'hers'.

It makes me well up with happiness when I see how much they love each other. I was an only child, they are so lucky. :)

PoppyWearer · 30/11/2012 18:27

We have a 4yo DD and 1yo DS.

DS idolises his big sister and she tries to be a second mum to him! They bicker but often play together really nicely and, yes, they do want different toys.

We won't be having any more and I feel very lucky to have one of each.

My DD can get lots of playtime with other girls at school, or with her girl cousins, just as I played with my boy cousins growing up instead of brothers (I only have a sister and am
not close to her at all, we rarely played together).

Lucylucy57 · 30/11/2012 19:28

There's three years between my younger brother and me and he is one of my best mates. Not that we didn't fight sometimes as little ones but mostly we played together very happily and always looked out of each other. Still do. I was always pleased I had a brother - no sharing of clothes/make up there! I'm sure your DD will also really enjoy being a big sister.

SauvignonBlanche · 30/11/2012 19:38

I had a DS first my 2nd DS died in utero so somehow I expected DC 3 to be a boy too.
I didn't find out the sex with DS1 or 2 and hadn't planned to find out the sex of DD, it just happened. I was disappointed for about 5 mins then went out and bought something pink!

DS is now 15, DD is 12, they have always played together, and still do. They are very close and share a wacky sense of humour.

They are fiercely loyal to each other, DS plays the big brother but as he has AS he can be vulnerable,but not if his sister is around!

Congratulations! Grin

FamiliesShareGerms · 30/11/2012 19:44

My two are best friends most of the time too. They each have their own toys (she has her dolls that he doesn't want to play with; he has things that don't interest her), but they also have things they play with together too. They idolise each other, in fact. DS is older and very protective of his little sister. DD is very proud of her big brother.

Congratulations!

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TheCountessOlenska · 30/11/2012 21:07

Thanks for the congratulations!

PoppyWearer - You have the same age gap between yours as I will have (all being well). I can imagine DD being very bossy and "mothering" him Grin

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cory · 02/12/2012 00:59

We have the same age gap as you: dc are now 16 and 12 and really adore each other. They go into town together to go shopping and confide in each other and share jokes; it is really really lovely to see.

mysweetie · 02/12/2012 14:13

Wow,. you are lucky to have a boy and a girl. It will depend on how you raise them if they will be close. Never compare or have favoritism so they won't feel each other as a rival. Raise them loving each other, and they will eventually will :D Congrats, hope mine is a boy too next time.

Flossiechops · 02/12/2012 15:26

I have just a year between my dd and ds, they are 9 & 8. They argue around 50% of the time and adore one another the other 50%!! As a parent getting to raise both genders is wonderful and I feel very blessed to have a daughter and a son Smile

waferhappy · 08/12/2012 20:31

My oldest son and two girls all watch bob the builder and play Thomas the tank engine etc etc youngest at nine months is to young but sure he will play with his sisters as well then girls treat him like their own 'real' doll

gallicgirl · 08/12/2012 20:34

Well, it works for Peppa and George...

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OohMrDarcy · 08/12/2012 20:35

I have one of each too, DD (nearly 6) and DS (nearly 3)

They are best of friends 90% of the time and I love love love seeing it Xmas Grin

I spent a fair bit of time when DS was about 12-18m teaching his big sis how to play with him and teach him how to play, and mostly its paid off - however there are moments when he feels the need to throw a toy at her still Xmas Hmm

DeafLeopard · 08/12/2012 20:35

6 years between my two and though they don't play together very often - especially now DS is a teenager, they adore one another.

DS loves being the big brother, but like Sauv DD also protects her brother as he has ASD