Just that really and what do you count as shouting? I probably shout at DC maybe twice a week (3yrs and 1yr...never have shouted at the 1yr), and the rest of the time I use a firm raised voice or firm lowered voice. I consider shouting to be a properly raised voice but not screaming. I have screamed twice in her life and still feel pretty crap about it now. I feel there is such pressure to be calm and serene but really who manages that?? The last time I shouted at her was because she was kicking water out of the bath all over the floor and baby on mat and wouldn't stop when I asked her to. Just wondering what other experiences are and if I am a very shouty mum or just a bit shouty?