Nappy Chat #2 - from Teenies to Tuttos and all in between!

[PurplePidjin]

We're running out of room

Ooh, didn't think of that - liquitab only washing option! Will cope for now and strip at home as its only some that leak - cba to test now

I don't want to leave him for more than a few minutes tbh; I nearly lost dp can't let R out of my sight.

How did everyone sleep? Ds1 woke twice screaming saying he was scared. He has nights like this occasionally.

I can't even begin to imagine how awful its been for PP.

I have a friend about 25 minutes away. I need to find a way to shift to hers. I can't face another day of MIL telling me how to parent, and I can't tell dp that's the reason. How do I do this without offending anyone?

If you've not seen her for ages you could say that and that she would really love to see you both/have you to stay for New Year and have a good catch up. Is she nearer to the hospital? You feel like you've stayed too long at Mil's and although you are grateful you don't want to impose anymore as mil will be feeling the strain too.

I've not got anything daft to tell you to cheer you up. I've put on some choons and ds2 is dancing away (baby mosher)

That's how I'm pitching it (texting dp) I don't want to tell him she's upsetting me with her criticism

That's how I'm pitching it (texting dp) I don't want to tell him she's upsetting me with her criticism

Plus ILs are teetotal, dp and I aren't. Can have with friend :o

And god you need it Pidj!! Have one for me too . Sounds like the plan vis-a-vis ILs is good. Good luck.

Brought it up with MIL and she insists I'm very welcome to be here. I don't feel it. I'm currently locked in the room to feed because SILs kids are here - dniece has ASD and very bouncy, she doesn't understand Mind The Baby and much as I adore her it feels like only a matter of time till he gets hurt.

Help

You do deserve a Could you get away with saying to mil that your friend misses you and really wants you to stay but you'll be back after a day or two?

Just caught up on the thread, Pidj I wish I could come & give you a hug, what a horrible experience. Very very best to your DP and crossing everything he's back on his feet soon. What's the prognosis, when do they say he can come home?

Def agree you should go and stay with your friend, even if MIL says you are welcome, really press it and say you know you are and she's been lovely but it's so exhausting being round a new baby and you know she would never say it but she must need a break... Also that you can both focus on your DP more if you and R are at your friends and she is helping with all the practical stuff like food, washing etc. Is there no way you can dash home to pick up more clothes? Or could a friend take your keys & a list of stuff you need & bring it back? How far are you from home? Is there anything we can do remotely?! Lots of moral support here if nothing else

BFG v exciting re buying another house! To let out? For holidays or long term locals? And how was your Christmas dinner with your home grown bird??

MIL reacts badly to anything suggesting she needs a break/cant cope. Might go home this evening to get some bits and see my dad for his birthday. Its 80 miles or so, not too bad but not popping distance

Very tricky. Sometimes you just have to prioritise your needs even if it might offend her - you need to be somewhere you're comfortable so that you can be at your best for your baby and your DP who both need you. Easier said than done I know but just do what you need to do and your MIL will get over it, it's such a stressful time for you all and feelings run high. The priority is you, your baby and your DP. Hope you do get to see your dad this eve and get some support from your family. And a large glass of !

Well, R was a total grump all morning which mil interpreted as him picking up my stress. So things have relaxed a bit all round. Dp is doing well, which helps. I've escaped home (with Pampers as most of my fluff won't be dry till morning!) to my parents. Mil is going to help me get ds to take his dummy... Manipulative? Moi? I shall also take the buggy back so she can take him for a walk

That sounds like plan.

Always good to escape!!! You do sound better, that's fantastic dp is doing well. Have you eaten much?

Am I a bad mother for eating the sweets the kids got for Xmas

Not as much as when i could eat at will, but enough. I'm down to 11st6, pre-pregnancy was 11st and target is 10st7 so doing well for 6 weeks i think. A few days of less food won't hurt.

Ds is cluster feeding again, but as that's normal this time of night i don't mind. Hopefully he'll sleep, he's barely napped all day!

Surely you're saving their teeth?

You are doing more than good! I have gone up from a 14 to 20 Can't remember the last time I was 11stone!

Enjoying some lovely you and boy time. When its just you both when everyone is asleep. Bliss.

Yeah but you've got three bruisers. I've got one tiddler :o

I only put the weight on after the third one Arms and legs are fine just the middle, it'll shift if I stop eating the kids leftovers and Ben n Jerry's!

Did you sleep?

Hope things are a little more settled for you now Pidj. I still can't believe you're on your first. You sound much more together than I was that's for sure.

DH has finally decided not to go for the house Biscuit. It would have been an investment, possible rental. We need a pension plan! But DH wasn't happy with the workmanship (bit of a DIY build). Passed a day with a little more excitement than normal though . Xmas was great, friends all came to ours and did all the cooking! They insisted I sit and watch. It was really lovely except for just watching the champagne and oysters disappear.

How was eveyone's NY? Ours was early to bed after an episode of Cracker. We live on the edge doncha no?

Forgot to say, wishing everyone a Happy New Year. Let's hope 2013 is a really great one.

Well I was living the dream in comfy jamas, chocolate and silence and was asleep before 11pm!

Here's hoping this year is good to us all.

Pp, you do sound like you have had more than one baby a natural mum.

11-3 and 5-7:30. He's feeding a lot at the moment

Dp is now on the general stroke ward, the canula is out and I might get him back on Saturday instead of Monday!

7 years of working with teens and adults with SN and behavioural issues makes for a calm Pidjie

Nappy new year everyone! Ho ho what a terrible sense of humour, I apologise... We actually stayed up past midnight, woo hoo! Baby biscuit woke at 11.55pm though, got her straight back off to sleep and knocked back a glass of fizz before going to bed. Knackered today though, wish I'd just gone to bed earlier! BFG your Christmas sounds lovely, glad to hear you got to take it easy.

Notgrownup and Pidj I've only just after 16 months got back in my pre-pregnancy jeans...

V glad to hear your DP is improving Pidj hope he's back home soon. Will there be follow up treatment/ therapy? Sorry I don't know much about strokes. Hope all back to normal soon.

That is fantastic news pp!!! Excellent!! Keeping calm has helped you carry on!

Biscuit, you nutter how did you lose the weight?

Have you packed your bag yet BFG?