dd massive earring dilemma!!

[jollymollie]

Dd2 is 7 and had her ears pierced 7 weeks ago after much begging and pleading. Last week they were meant to come out. School need her to take them out for pe. Anyway she flatly refuses to let anyone touch them and cannot get them out herself. I have spent countless hours over the last week pleading and bribing but nothing has worked. I simply cannot just leave them in any longer. She has missed weeks of pe so far and school will not accept plasters over them. Short of pinning her down does anyone have any suggestions? We are getting desperate!

I think I would tell her that either she allows me to take them out or I will have to take her to the doctors & have them removed and let them close up.

You let her miss weeks of PE because she refused to take them out?

What hanging said or just pin her down.

Pin her down, take them out, let them close over until she is old enough to take them out and care for the holes herself.

She's 7, not 17. Pin her down and say they're coming out.

She shouldn't have been allowed to take it to this stage, alowing crappy behaviour like this is basically saying to her she can do whatever she likes, as you cannot make her do anything.

Sorry if that came across as judgy, it's easy for me to sit here and comdemn you, it's a pain but you have to be firm.

What DorsetKnob said. She's clearly not old enough to take responsibility for them.

I'd stop pleading and tell her. They need to come out until she is old enough to cope with pierced ears.
I can't believe you or the school have allowed her to miss PE for weeks!

I have threatened her with pinning down but she's begged me not to and I would feel so mean. She would scream!When we had them pierced I was wrongly advised she could cover them with plasters for pe but was then told no. She had to miss it as you can't remove earrings in first six weeks. She is not being naughty but is scared they will hurt. I have threatened her with hospital but to no avail!

Without wishing to sound rude, she's ruling the roost somewhat. Sounds like you've given in after constant begging in the first place so she's now in control.

She's 7, you're the adult in this situation and you've got to wrest control back. She either allows you to take the earrings out NOW or she hears you making that call to the doctors to get the practice nurse to take them out.

You have to be mean on this one I'm afraid. She cannot miss lessons because of pierced ears.

She WILL get over it, even if you have a melt down for a few hours

You need to crack this behaviour now, it's only going to get worse as she becomes older!!

My 7 year old won't let me take her earrings out either. She screams the place down when I tried. They are studs and very hard to pull apart. So you have my sympathy.

It's not a problem for PE though, nor swimming or dancing or roller skating (all the activities she does). I am surprised if a school insists a pair of small studs are taken out.

As far as I'm concerned, if my dd doesn't want me to take them out, she can wear the same pair forever.

So what if she screams? Take them out.

Her choice time:

1. She allows you to remove them every day it is PE before school.

1. You take her back to place she had them done, they are removed and she has no earrings til she is much older.

No ifs and buys. She makes the choice right now and you follow it up ASAP. If she chooses 1 then the first time she refuses she then you do option 2.

What Valium said

It is fear not naughtiness. She has tried so hard herself. Yes she does try and rule the roost to some extent. That's probably my fault!

Lots of schools have no earrings for pe rule. I agree with it entirely.

If they are screaming about having them removed then they are not old enough or mature enough for earrings. So they come out now and stay out til they are old enough. It's that simple.

You need to be the boss!

Tbh lots of primary schools have a complete ban on earrings. Not a bad idea. Certainly avoids this kind of issue anyway.

jolly your post doesn't make sense - it' fear but she tools the roost?

Take them out and keep them out - clearly not old enough. IF you like I will come and do it, I'd have them out in 2 seconds felt

Like I said before I was under the impression a small pair of studs could be covered for pe. Did not think it would be an issue!

Our middle school has a complete ban.

If she is scared then she is not ready to have pierced ears.

My youngest is 18, had her ears pierced at 8 and I'm pretty sure they allowed studs to be kept in for PE? Have things changed in 10 years or was my DD's school an exception to the rule? Anyway, that's irrelevant. They need to come out.

Even if it is through 'fear', they still need taking out. Just do it.

Take them out. Tell her if she screams when you do it she obviously isn't old enough to have her ears pierced so won't be having them back again.

Your the adult and she has to do what she is told.