dd massive earring dilemma!!

[jollymollie]

Dd2 is 7 and had her ears pierced 7 weeks ago after much begging and pleading. Last week they were meant to come out. School need her to take them out for pe. Anyway she flatly refuses to let anyone touch them and cannot get them out herself. I have spent countless hours over the last week pleading and bribing but nothing has worked. I simply cannot just leave them in any longer. She has missed weeks of pe so far and school will not accept plasters over them. Short of pinning her down does anyone have any suggestions? We are getting desperate!

Why does the school not allow stud earrings? I have never heard of that before, certainly no school I know of insists on that. I have a 6 yr old and I have every sympathy for you, I can only imagine how horrendous it would be trying to pin her down, I would better luck pinning down my cat :)

So if you wouldn't take medicine how else were your parents meant to get it down you OP? Medicine is non negotiable.

It's health and safety apparently. I can understand if they were rings but find it a bit silly as they are only little studs.

elah all the school in my area are have a no earring rule - I thought it was standard now.

Little studs can get knocked out/ripped out aswell it only takes a small knock for the back of an ear ring to get stuck in the ear. No jewellery rules are in place for a reason.

Studs can get caught on jumpers too

There are some good ideas here to try. She has said she will let me try and get them out after tea so we shall see.

With regards to the pinning down for medicine, when a child won't take it what else do you suggest parents do?

DS has to take inhalers and oral medication every day. If he won't take it nicely then he has to be pinned down. the medicine keeps him alive and I am not compromising on that.

It is a recent thing. When I was at school most girls had studs. I don't recall there ever being a problem. Most sports people wear earrings.

Good luck. Let us know how you get on.

The rules in Sussex are now that the earrings have to be removed for PE after the 6 weeks grace period. Or no PE.

Studs can get caught and the butterfly backs can get forced into the flesh of the ear and need to be removed by a doctor.

Well I started school in 1988 and ear rings were banned from my school then so not really that recent.

Surely its common sense anyway?

Pinning down IS distasteful. The alternative is worse.

Why not work on ways to ensure she is more able to control her feelings in the future so you never have to pin her down again. But that also involves you modelling self-control for her - so fair enough for her to know you really hate doing something but do it because it is necessary! Like pinning down a hysterical child.

They need 8 weeks to heal ideally - that's why people get their children's ers pierced at the end of the Summer term.

OP, you must have known what the school policy was, did you check?
The earrings need to come out and you really need to decide if she's old enough to cope with them.
She can have them redone when she's a teenager and more able to make an informed choice.

If the earrings did get caught on something and hurt your DD then many parents would then be complaining to school about it all, etc. Hence schools take action to remove all risks entirely.

Plus having seen a friend of mine - when were 9 or 1oy get her stud caught whilst playing in the playground and it ripping out, then yes - I agree with a ban on them for PE (and ideally for primary school full stop) - made a huge mess, there was a lot of blood, girl was in a lot of pain and it left a fair bit of scarring too .

Feel mean? Are u crazy?
Don't be such a wet lettuce and sort it out. Pin her down and take them out.

Earrings were discouraged when I was at primary school and had to be removed for PE - I am 39y. It's not that new. Oh, and that was just your average council estate primary school too - not some posh prep or anything.

You say she tries to rule the roost and you're probably to blame? No 'probably' about it!

Yes, it's likely to hurt, especially if you or she has not bathed or turned them regularly, they're gonna be gummed up.

Bathe them with warm salty water with a cotton wool pad and turn them to loosen them. Then pull.

We have a no-jewellery policy at my (state secondary) school that is rigidly enforced. Pupils are told to get piercings done at the start of the summer hols so that come Sept they can be removed during the day. Rare non-compliance means parents are called in to remove the child and to send back once piercing is removed.

Do it when she is not overtired - it will be worse if she is overwrought.

The first time I took my studs out and tried to put them back in - my God - I still remember it. I did it the evening after a family funeral when we were all exhausted - I remember alternately being a weepy mess, snarling at anyone who came near my ears and having a huge fight with my mum about having chosen a stupid time to do it I was 13.

When you've got them out, let them heal up. She doesn't sound ready for it.

Did you try as someone else suggested and do it while she is asleep?