am single mum (past 11 years) with an 18 yo and 16 yo daughters. I think younger one has unresolved issues about father and is secretly full of self-loathing. Elder one has complex medical issues and takes up alot of my time. I try to spend equal amounts with both (if anything younger gets more).
they used to have a normal relationship (ganging up on me/squabbling with each other) but since older one got ill, it has deteriorated to the point where all weekend, younger has demanded I 'get rid' of the older daughter otherwise she will leave. She walked out yesterday - I was frantic and found her 20 mins later in the car.
I see the reasons but can't get her to engage. I just get 'I don't care'.