how to help reception DD cope with the playground

[RillaBlythe]

We are 3 weeks in & DD1 consistently asks not to go to school because she doesn't like playtimes. She says she doesn't have anyone to play with.

She has gone up to reception from the nursery class so is with lots of kids she knows, although she never made particular friends with any of them in nursery. She plays at the park with kids from her class perfectly happy so not sure why it's not working for her in the school playground. She says it is too noisy & nobody wants to play with her.

Any ideas? I tried to role play going up & saying "can I play with you", but she just kept saying "but what if they say no?!"

Have you spoken to the teacher about it? My DCs school has a 'buddy' system where each reception child is assigned a Yr 6 friend who looks out for them at playtime - maybe they could find a buddy for your DD while she is finding her feet?

I spoke to the teacher briefly back at the start, & then again to the other teacher (job share) today. She said she was aware of it as DD spent all break time yesterday holding her hand as she was on duty.

We don't really get a chance to talk to the teachers though as we drop off/pick up at a distance in the playground, I have to send a note in to arrange a meeting which feels like making a fuss!

I like the buddy idea - DD has a couple of friend/acquaintances in Y1 (it's an infant school) who might take on the role!

That sounds like a good plan. My DS is also in reception and he has said that the playground is VERY busy and loud too - but he has the massive bonus of having his big sister there so has played with her every day.

Hope your DD gets used to it soon

I would arrange a chat with the teacher. IMO if its bad enough for your DD to be reluctant to go to school then, as her teacher, I would want to know.

Staff on duty in the playground can often manafacture ways for children to find someone to play with, help with a job or be encouraged to feel more relaxed, but only if all staff are aware.

Nip it in the bud before it escalates.