I hate the newborn stage

[Wigglewoo]

There I said it.

Ds is 11 days old and I have been trying to persuade myself its all going rosy but the truth is I hate everything about the newborn stage.

My dd is nearly 9 and I'd forgotten how utterly draining it is. And I'm fed up not bloody sleeping more than 3 hours in a row.. Mostly 2.

Yes I sound like a miserable git. But I feel like it. :(

Not pnd. Just fed up. I can't be the only one who doesn't enjoy this bit.

Nope, I hate it too, but it does go really fast - get a calendar and cross off the days!

Congrats etc too btw

No, it is really really hard! I am ten weeks into it now but it has been such hard work and I am sure it will be easier when he gets to be a little more interactive. And sleeps for longer at night. Remember that sleep deprivation is a recognised form of torture. And also remember that things will be much better in a couple of months time.

Congratulations!

You're not alone. DC2 is 10mo and am enjoying him more than DC1 but roll on 18mo, a walking, maybe-talking toddler any day!

Find one of those very odd folks who adore newborns my MIL and hand him over between feeds!

Sleep would be good too, but still a pipe dream here.

Thanks. Sigh. Just everything is so ffing hard work. Everything has to be done around a 2 hour schedule and its driving me bananas.

And now I'm in bed having left ds with dh for the first night feed so I can sleeo and I can't sleep because I think what's the point I will have to get up in 3-4 hours anyway!

I much prefer toddlers. At least they are entertaining.

oh god! ill swap, i LOve the newborn stage

ill have her back when shes about 3...or 4 maybe...

You are sooo not alone - me and DH joke all the time about people telling us to 'cherish every moment' when they are that young. Lol, yeah right, poo on my dress, wee in my hair, no sleep, felt so fat, none of my clothes fit (& the occasional time they did baby managed to poo on them), etc...! And I only have one!! Can't even imagine how hard it is when you have another to look after at the same time!!! Now we are almost 14 weeks down the road we have happy memories but are SO glad to be done with those early days!!

So do I. I feel rotten saying it because they're so cute and snuggly but that loses its effect when you're knackered, stressed, anxious and getting nothing back from them at all.

DD2 is 24 weeks now and so much more fun, giggling, doing things, interacting with her sister and, most importantly, sleeping! I love this stage.

DD2 is 12 months and it is just beginning to get better. 18 months+ is when it really improves. I'd like number 4 - but I can't cope with another newborn/baby stage again. For me, the newborn stage is like trying to keep a fish alive that you are holding in your hands. You can't get anything done but you aren't really doing much either.

The next stage is much better though, when they start doing things but still stay where you put them, lol

I'm with you, I want to give DD a sibling eventually but can't stand the thought of newborn, wish I could birth a 6 mo, that's when they get lovely!!

I was the same "why bother to sleep when I need to be back up in 5hrs?" as my dh did the late feed too. But, you will feel better for it. 4.5hrs then up to feed will feel beterr long term than stauing awake that time.

Eaaier said than done though.

Dont know if youd be able to buty dh also did the morning feed and pur dd back in her cot at 6.30 where shed sleep till 8/8.30 and I could sleep til then too after doing the 3am feed.

Oh my god I hated it too. I used to really want to sleep but didn't want to go into a deep sleep as it was so much harder to get up again, used to drive myself nuts. The restriction of 2 hr feedings too, oh god. And all that with a 2 yr old. Needless to say no more babies now. My ds is a year old now and he is such a joy (although still waking in night :( ). But also can't wait for him to start walking and talking.
It gets better. Just think its only a small amount of time in your life really.

I don't think babies are that amazing.

Obviously mine were .

But toddlers.... oh the fun you can have with a toddler. It's the bestest excuse to do things you loved or wanted to when little. My youngest is 3 and really hard work but one of his contagious toddler belly laughs and all is forgiven.

I confess to feeling very sorry for anyone with a tiny baby. Just saw some mums out and about in the sun, tiny baby, giant bag (on buggy and under eyes) and trying to feel normal.
I hated it too. You are not alone. My 2yo DS can be a real pain but is so much more fun rather than just hard work

Good idea - calendar and crosses!
Congrats!!

Babies are boring, it gets more exciting as they get older. I've done it twice and would never ever do it again. I'm glad to be past all that stage now! Congrats, OP :)

Utterly horrid, but it passes and you forget and only remember the cuteness ( one day I hope). I think it is all hard, just in different ways. When my ds was a newborn I could mn to my heart's content, now he is 15mo and have to hide the computer, phones etc!

Oh yes babies are so dull, the cuddles are lovely but everything else is just relentless. DS is now 14 months, and everyday he just gets funnier and more interesting. DC2 due in September and sometimes I feel awful as I'm just really looking forward to when it turns into a toddler and it's not even born yet!

I absolutely adore the newborn stage! How tiny and gorgeous they are, how lovely they smell and the wee sniffly noises they make. The middle of the night when everyone is asleep feeding and having snuggles. I love newborn right the way through to the terrible twos. I don't love that stage!

Fate did you have a sleepy baby? I have had 3 non-sleeping, refluxy babies. I have no idea what there is to enjoy about being sleep deprived, having sick all down you constantly, and trying to cope with a very unhappy baby who needs to be held 24/7. While also trying to be there for the rest of the family and maybe have some headspace for yourself.

Now 2 year olds, they are fun. I have learnt so much about the world from my children. Where the best puddles are for splashing, all about construction vehicles, names of flowers and plants, but mainly just to actually look at things rather than take everything for granted.

Newborns aren't fun but there is something adorable about them IMO - there has to be to make up for the utter relentless grimness of it all. Not only the lack of sleep but the complete lack of time to get on with anything. The fact I can never put her down even went to the loo with mine in a sling this morning!

(7 weeks in here and God I'm tired).

I've got yet another refluxy one Camdancer. Bleurgh! Can't lie down for a second

I absolutely love the newborn stage, it's such an amazing rush of emotions. I didn't have particularly good sleepers or anything either, but I did use a sling, co-sleep and bf.
It's the next bit I find hard, when they are old enough to move around but too young to have any sense of danger and you spend most of the time following them around slightly bent over holding hands and doing the same thing over and over and up and down steps and they always want to go where they shouldn't and bumping heads on table corners and scaling bookshelves and eating gravel and phew!

I'm probably just lazy though.