I hate the newborn stage

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There I said it.

Ds is 11 days old and I have been trying to persuade myself its all going rosy but the truth is I hate everything about the newborn stage.

My dd is nearly 9 and I'd forgotten how utterly draining it is. And I'm fed up not bloody sleeping more than 3 hours in a row.. Mostly 2.

Yes I sound like a miserable git. But I feel like it. :(

Not pnd. Just fed up. I can't be the only one who doesn't enjoy this bit.

I'm the same reme I had 1 brilliant sleeper and 1 awful sleeper, but love nb stage, have no pactience for exactly what you describe. And definitely feel like I have LOADS of time when they ate nb compared to the time toy het to yourself when they ate toddling and climbing up your leg!

I love newborns and would happily swap toddler for newborn, despite all the drawbacks of sleep dep etc. I do think the newborn stage is highly addictive if you like the rush it gives. But I am done-dc3 is one on Sunday and I have no urge to have four actual children and I am not so addicted to newborns that I don't recognise that that would be part of the deal!

Nope. Didn't love it. Starts to get good from 6 months old I reckon. Before that is is an unrewarding slog. Most people I know think the same so it's not unusual.

Newborns are wonderful. You can still keep your house nice and tidy (with the first one anyway) and their poo smells lovely, they have looong naps and while you bf all day you can go on mn/ fb/ read for hours. I loved it.

Beame I agree
Dd is 6mi and if I could freeze.time I.would.

Newborns.....not again.

Totally agree the newborn stage absolutely sucks. I've never met a woman who doesn't go 'oh god those first three months HELL' (apart from one obscenely smug friends whose pfb slept through the night.from about three days old and still does age 1!!!) I didn't even really find mine cute until after the newborn stage!

Hahahahaha to 'you can still keep the house nice and tidy' I most definitely did not!

I really don't know how you're supposed to enjoy anything when you're bleeding nearly to death, have hideous stitches in one place or another, and haven't slept for several days

I wasn't fully on board with the whole thing until DD was over 18 months tbh.

Anyway ladies - don't put me off, I am trying to conceive number 2 and this thread is giving me awful flashbacks!!

Sleep makes all the difference- my first slept through from week 1 and was the most laid back baby the rest of the time . I loved the newborn stage that time!

My dc3 is 11 weeks, I have to say most of the time under 6 months I wish the time away. Ha to 'keeping the house clean' , haha to the 'sleeping for hours'. Good grief, mine will not be put down alone day or night. He's very sweet but I do prefer it when there are more options than feed/hold/shush.

Long naps?? Tidy house?? Not round here I'm afraid. By week three getting him to sleep in the day was becoming increasingly challenging. Now at 11 weeks it is nigh on impossible to get anything done. He does not have long naps, he has little cat naps which last long enough for me to go to the loo and get the kettle on

Same here KitAndKat could just about get the kettle on, sometimes even make a coffee, then would never get to drink it as would leave it somewhere, sit down to feed and be stuck for an hour whilst DS1 rampaged round the house.

DS2 is 9 months now, and much much more fun

11 weeks in here. Am counting down to 6mo, so almost halfway there. Have a 2hourly feeding bottle refuser who won't sleep unless held-by-or-next-to mummy He is lovely and gorgeous and squishy though

uurggh - newborns
feed, scream, scream, feed, poo, scream, scream, scream, scream, feed.

they are just unreasonable.

DD (now 16mo) was a terrible sleeper, (another short napper) suffice to say the moses basket and cot went untouched! So she was in a sling most of the time.
She had colic too, and loads of problems with feeding, to be honest i'm amazed I got through it and am now 5 months pg with my second!

Oh lord, I hope this one sleeps better. Pleasepleaseplease.

Mind you there are a lot of good points, don't get me wrong. Newborns are adorable and cuddly, they don't run away when you're changing them, (in fact they don't run away full stop!) they do sleep a lot (even if it is in a sling and not at night) They are lovely little creatures really :)

I think every age has it's good and bad points.
Although DP says he can't wait for the day the kids come running to us when their children are keeping them awake 24/7 so he can remind them that they did it to us!

I found the newborn stage frankly boring. DTs are nearly one now and are brilliant, up until 6 months or so was just a daily grind...if I hadn't of had twins I'm not sure we would have had a second one, and we def won't be having a third!

i love tiny babies and remember being scared of DS1 getting all big and toddlery!

however he is now a lovely, if quite hard work sometimes, 2.9 year old and makes me grin every single day. and not cry much honest

DS2 is 10 weeks old so i am enjoying new baby snuggles and nice poo but also really excited to see him get bigger this time.

don't get me wrong, I'm shattered and was excited to get 3 hours sleep in a row the other night. i have been reduced to tears by stereo screaming and simultaneous poop, also i am on my 4th T-shirt today due to milky sick everywhere.

i am loving having another wee head to sniff with soft fluffy hair...

it's quite likely to be my last so I'm making the most of it. DS2 is not especially sleepy but on a good night it's nice to see his wee smile at 3am without worrying if DS1 is raiding kitchen cupboards or scaling furniture.

think I'd be insane and very hungry without the sling though, how did i survive last time?

Love all these replies. So I'm not so odd then :)

Today has been a merrygoround of poop, feeding and grunting and whinging.

He's been awake feeding on and off for the last 3 hours and I'm desperate for him to settle properly so dh and I can have that magical mythical thing called a hot cup of tea..........!

Refluxy babies are the only ones i've known as well, camdancer .they are in a newborn super league of awfulness all of their own....

I hated it too. Still feel sorry for people with newborns, and secretly hope that pregnant ladies I see are carrying their second so at least they know what to expect!!

I just think of that Mamas and Papas song "It's getting better, growing stronger, Warm and wilder, getting better every day..."
DS is 19 months. I'm looking forward to having a proper conversation with him, he looks like he'll have a lot to say...

DD2 is on the way here and if anyone wants to take her away when she arrives and give her back at around a year (obviously, as if she'd been heer all along) I would really appreciate it.

When is newborn phase supposed to end «glances at calender through sleep deprived haze and trying to settle DD for past 3 hrs to no avail»

I'm a bit scared of newborns, despite having had two! Too delicate and exhausting for someone as clumsy and sleep-loving as me. It got better for me when they started smiling, and even better when they began to laugh.

It is a tough time, I had 2 reflux babies, one of whom cried A LOT...I had (have) so much love for them, but felt so drained and lost.

Now at 18m and 4.6, they are just ace (sometimes), and I wish I had a newborn again, just to do it all one more time. (NOT going to happen, but feel nostalgic all the same)

I thought I was the only one having to go to the loo with my baby in a sling! Am struggling with an 8 week old who needs to be carried 12 hrs a day or else screams blue murder and who will only sleep in the sling during the day. In desperation I tried giving formula today as I thought it was supposed to knock baby's out, not mine! It feels relentless and I envy the mothers who's baby's sleep in the pram as they chat to friends (mine screams). I rarely leave the house as it feels so stressful. Am desperately hoping it gets better...(it's my first and quite possible last...).

Oh God I'm scared now - DD1 is on the way. I'm a monster without sleep so dreading the newborn bit, especially as I'm having a CS and worried I'll be sore afterwards too

Hoping DH and I will be able to split night feeds if I can express... At least if I hate the newborn bit I'll know it's normal :o Never been a baby person, prefer toddlers and older kids so will be interesting...

OP and hang in there :)