Oh no! What have I done? Talk about crying wolf.

[spidermama]

On Tuesday morning I noticed that dd1, who's 7, had a stalk of hair sticking up at the top of her head. Someone had obviously cut her hair.
When I asked what happened she looked sad and told me a reception boy had been brandishing scissors in the playground and had cut her hair.

Obviously I took her to school and told a teacher. She was taken round the classes in an attempt to identify this boy but to no avail. All three reception classes were talked to very firmly about scissors and danger. The teachers were great and took it really seriously.

I was worried, not least because she had apparently been unable to defend herself against a boy two years her junior.
Anyway it was big worry and she got loads of sympathy.

However ..... I've just been clearing up under our dining room table and blow me if I didn't find A CLUMP OF DD'S HAIR.

How embarrassing is that?

What shall I do? I'm thinking the correct response would be to get her to apologise to the teachers. How traumatic though. I don't know if I could subject her to that but I know I should. Would you?

i'd do nothing, nothing at all

but then I have a very low moral standard generally

sorry, but hehe what a little madam!

tbh i wouldnt say anything at all, its a good idea that they have a talk about danger of scissors anyway, you have done them all a favour. poss have a word with dd about telling porkies tho!

at suzy

I would get her to apologise to the teachers. But I'm mean like that. Otherwise, she'll do this sort of thing again, won't she?

Suzy I'd love to do nothing, but then it might happen again. She might have enjoyed the attention and feel she got away with it and will cry wolf again.

yes NQC. Oh horror!

Oh no!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! lol, sorry, shouldn't laugh but it does sound funny when reading it!!

I think I would be inclined to leave it now, but then my DD is 4, not sure if she was 7. Obviously a lot more aware of what she has done.

feel for you anyway!!!

Oh I am really sorry but ROFL when you found the hair and how reassuring you didn't find it on the day but some time later!
So who did cut the hair off - dd1 or a sibling (or the little green man who lives in the curtain pole perhaps? ).
You have the reassurance that she wasn't menaced with scissors though, which is good.
You could try asking dd1 what she thinks she should do next?

I think being made to go round the class knowing that she'd told a big fat lie is probably punishment enough for her. I'd say nothing. But definately mention it if you give a speech at her wedding (you could even bring out the hair as a visual prop).

I would speak to her about how important it is to tell the truth and ask her why she felt the need to make up the story.
Would not worry about the school though - like GG says - no harm in them having the 'danger of scissors' talk

Lesson about lying and consequences to be learned here. Would hate it, but feel apology to teacher is appropriate and a word at home about telling lies.

Oooh, Marina has the best plan.

so how many of us laughed when reading spidermama posts?!!!! ...Me!!

I would be so mortified if it was our own DD

I like the wedding idea

Oh I think you have to tell the school - whether or not dd1 is made to apologise or do some kind of infants' community service - I think I'd feel I had to tell the teachers that the situation of a boy menacing others with scissors was not a real one.

yes, defo save it for the wedding speech!!!!!!!!!!!!

Obviously wothout the rest of the class being involved though! Seven is old enough to understand that lying is wrong.

I choked on my drink tbh. I am imagining spidergirl looking like James Nesbitt's niece in the Yellow Pages ad...

Photo of new hairdo and clump of hair in envelope needed as proof at wedding though.
Have still not recovered from seeing ultra-respectable friend's dreadful past as a drunken crusty resurrected in the form of a student photo blown up to life-size and brought to wedding reception.

i think she made up the story because I had a go at her for cutting her hair a year or so ago so she'd have been trying to avoid that.

For those of you PYSL, here's an added titter. DS2 was involved in the lie telling me he came to his sister's rescue in the playground employing the use of Kong(sic) Fu. He's been receiving great plaudits for bravery from all of the family and lapping them up.

It just gets better! Make em have to cut each other's hair until the younger reaches the age of 18.

TBH I'd be concerned why your dd chose to do such a thing. It sounds like a cry for help. I would ask her, calm and neutral, why she did it, and also go and talk to her teachers about it(privately, without her knowing).

I don't know just how I'd phrase the opening questions to your dd, but be prepared to listen, not judge. Let her know that you won't be angry.

o god i'd say nothing! pretend you never found it!

i'm sure the kids in the school knew damn well she was lying and having a load of children two years younger than you thinking you're an idiot is punishment enough. she probably didn't expect anything to come of it except not geting in trouble, don't humiliate her any further.

I should've smelt a rat when ds2 said he apprehended the child with Kong Fu, disarmed him, then replaced the scissors in their correct place. (He's 6)

They're both in big trouble. I will not laugh when telling them off. I'm practising my grave face as I type.

Prettycnadles here's my guess ... she cut her hair because she's seven. She lied to avoid the row she got from me last time she cut a chunk out of her hair. She's embarrassed about how it has snowballed. I really don't think there's a cry for help issue.