Oh no! What have I done? Talk about crying wolf.

[spidermama]

On Tuesday morning I noticed that dd1, who's 7, had a stalk of hair sticking up at the top of her head. Someone had obviously cut her hair.
When I asked what happened she looked sad and told me a reception boy had been brandishing scissors in the playground and had cut her hair.

Obviously I took her to school and told a teacher. She was taken round the classes in an attempt to identify this boy but to no avail. All three reception classes were talked to very firmly about scissors and danger. The teachers were great and took it really seriously.

I was worried, not least because she had apparently been unable to defend herself against a boy two years her junior.
Anyway it was big worry and she got loads of sympathy.

However ..... I've just been clearing up under our dining room table and blow me if I didn't find A CLUMP OF DD'S HAIR.

How embarrassing is that?

What shall I do? I'm thinking the correct response would be to get her to apologise to the teachers. How traumatic though. I don't know if I could subject her to that but I know I should. Would you?

I am also laughing at this spidermama, especially with the accomplice being involved. Maybe he cut her hair?

I would have a word with the form teacher and then arrange to go and talk to her with your dd so she can apologise. I don't think she needs to be humiliated in front of other children but I do think she needs to know that this is wrong - she could have got another child into quite serious trouble.

oh no don't tell the school spidermama... god that would be awful for her.
I would make quite a fuss at home but say it stays between you all

Ah, cross-posted. If there was a previous self-service-salon episode, then that's probabhly all there is to it. I guess she's really in for it now!

What about that for sibling loyalty though?!

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You might need to work on that grave face. It really is awfully funny. Did the scissors fly through the air and drop neatly into the drawer, thanks to skilled martial arts from ds2? Mine is six too and I can almost feel the saucer-eyed, hyperbolic, madly gesticulating account of the heroic little brother to the rescue..."and then I...and then he..." was a lot of running up and down and face-pulling also involved spidermama?

cutting your own hair is just the sort of thing a seven year old does though? elaborate story though. she just likes a bit of drama presumably?

Maybe threatening to tell the school would be enough.

I really don't want to face the teachers, but I feel they have the right to know they don't need to beat themselves up about non-existent playground scissor incidents.

Hmmmmmmm! Will I do the right thing?

Depends on how much you like and respect her teacher really, and how concerned you felt the school were about this tale. Is there a chance, do you think, that school already know jolly well this didn't happen?
I would not want my child humiliated but I think a good school won't do that to her anyway spidermama. I would tell the staff right away though. Wouldn't you expect the same from them if the positions were reversed?

You could say that you've got another meeting with the teacher to try and work out who the scissor boy is. And that the school is going to borrow a finger printing kit and scour the playground for forensic evidence...

You are right Marina. The truth is that the school responded brilliantly. I don't think they do suspect anything or if they do they certainly didn't show it.

I will do it this afternoon then, but I don't think I'll make dd apologise. It'll be bad enough for her knowing the teachers know it was a lie.

I will come clean. I will come clean. I will come clean. Ask me this evening if I came clean. I'm resolved.

I hope they handle it really well for you all and I know they will appreciate your telling them. Good luck! What a priceless pair of raconteurs...where do they get that from I wonder

if you tell the school now and there is something that you need to bring to their attention in the future their not going to take you seriously in case it turns out to be a mistake again. they'll think you're the type of mom who always trys to blame someone else first before looking at your own precious angel.

also, they might insist on her going from class to class as punishment and i really don't think that would be the best course of action. we all told lies as kids to avoid getting in trouble, over reacting isn't going to stop it in future, it's just going to make her better at it!

I think the school will appreciate you being brave and telling them. I'm sure they know kids of this age always make up interesting stories, particularly to save themselves from trouble.

And they are more likely to believe spidermama in future if the truth is told this time IMO. My hunch is that if the school is as on the ball as it sounds, they have a strong suspicion that scissor attacks and kung fu retaliations in the playground would have been spotted at the time. I think it is quite possible they are doing spidergirl the courtesy of taking her story at face value in the hope that she will confess anyway - and, as someone else already suggested, it never hurts to have the scissors are dangerous talk.

I agree with NQC and Marina. I think the school will appreciate me telling them and doing the right thing. They were so apologetic at the time.

Marina are you a teacher?

I'm sure if I were the Teacher, I would be trying to stifle a grin whilst you told me, especially if you also added the bit about her brother

Your kids sound brilliant, spidermama. No doubt you'll be prematurely grey and looking like Dorian Gray's picture by the time they leave home but boy, at least they're not dull little stepford children.
I imagine Kong fu is probably much more frightening than its better known counterpart.

satine.
It's an awesome discipline I've seen in action many a time eomployed against a poor harmless teddy or, indeed, sibling. Quite

I do sympathise with your dd. When I was little I once cut my hair and threw it into my neighbour's garden for some inexplicable reason.

I don't know what you should do. I'm veering towards saying you should tell them, as it must be alarming for them to think that this could have been done in their school.

My two collaborated in the cutting of dd's hair once - and when it was tidied up by a hairdresser, it was a really short crop, that's all she had left. They were both incredibly secretive about it - unusually so for both of them - I think they saw the full, public horror of what they'd done only after they'd done it. Of course, for months after, everyone saw and commented that she now had very short hair. The story as far as I could extract it was that dd chopped off some, and then poor ds tried to improve the situation. They clearly felt really dreadful about it, and I agree with the post about sibling loyalty. The only time they've managed to tidy their play debris away neatly and out of sight.

You would have thought a seven year old with a decent brain might have considered the possibility that I'd find a clump of hair under the table. Why didn't she dispose of the evidence?

Does she know how often you routinely clean under there ?

I think, once you have stopped being stern with her about this incident, you will have to mock her for the incompetance.