my little girl is having a 5th birthday party next month and inviting 7 friends. I'm on a budget so my sister-in-law is kindly letting me take the girls to her hair and beauty salon to get their hairs pinned up & nails painted (its the school holidays so thought why not)
I have paid for a limo to take them to the venue which does a disc of photos for each child which i was going to pop in their goodie bags so the parents can see what they've been up to. I'm also dropping them back at home so most parents are happy with their 'me' time for a couple hours.
I had issues when giving out invitations with a known 'pushy parent' at the school. She is very ott with her little girl who is a very sweet and a nice friend to my daughter. She said she wanted to ride in the limo with her daughter.
I explained that there is only 8seats so for her to go in would mean uninviting a child. She then said ok me and my husband will follow you in our car(!)
The problem is its a small salon and where there is sunbeds/heat appliances etc you can only have a certain amount of people in the building at any one time....(health&safety/fire reg's) which i've already planned around.
I explained this to her but she just gave me a wink saying 'oh, you can squeeze one or two more'
By inviting herself and her husband along she has now put me in an awkward position as its hard to get through to someone who doesnt seem to be taking no for an answer.
This woman puts so much pressure on her kid its unreal, i know days where she she has so many after school activities she skips giving her food until she is literally in bed;-/ not to mention the several languages she has her learning. I dont doubt she loves her girl but she is completely blinkered seeing her only as a 'trophy kid'. I would rather not have an adult like her at the party tbh, however dont want to seem ungracious to somebody anxious about leaving their kid in someone elses care. What should i do?