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Please tell me lots of nice things about having two boys!

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thetigerwhocametoteax · 13/04/2012 08:42

DS is 20 months old and we've just found out yesterday at scan DC2 is also a boy. DH was a bit shocked as he'd convinced himself that this one was a girl. My mother who we told straight away was a bit "oh well... I guess it will be nice for DS1" (shes always wanted a granddaughter). Although we haven't told anyone else the sex yet I have been surprised how many people have said so far about "wouldn't it be nice to have a girl this time". I feel a bit deflated now which I suspect is hormones etc.

I also think I feel a bit sad as this is also probably our last child and I have always imagined I would have a daughter at some point. Saying all this I am very happy indeed to have another healthy bump and our little boy is gorgeous and I am very chuffed to be having another. Please tell me all the lovely things about having two boys!

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VerityBrulee · 13/04/2012 08:51

I have 2 boys with 2 years between them they are now 14 and 12 (I can hardly believe that myself!) and they are great friends and always have been. They have always loved the same things whether it was Thomas the Tank Engine, lego, transformers. For them life is like a permanant playdate as they aslways have a friend to hang out with. They share a pool of friends as ds2 gets on well with ds1s' friends. They are very lucky to have each other as I remind them every time they have a spat!

Dd came along when ds2 was 4 and she often says how much she would like a sister because her brothers are so close.

Enjoy your two boys, you will have great fun with them

FootprintsInTheSnow · 13/04/2012 08:55

I have 2 boys 19 months apart. They're very close. DS2 is DS1s shadow. Very very cute to watch. They like negotiating their clothes too - they're virtually the same size - but have a good idea whose clothes are whose - and graciously 'lend' each other clothes.

sleeplessinsuburbia · 13/04/2012 09:30

They become great friends and entertain themselves- even fights get worked out!

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catsgotthecream · 13/04/2012 09:47

I have 3 ds, 12,7 and 3, love them to bits, they're behaviour sometimes confuses me, they can be very competitive! and must admit the youngest 2 fight, but they are so so loving, lifes lots of fun though, enjoy them.

lovechoc · 13/04/2012 10:16

Have been looking forward someone else starting a thread like this as I started one nearly two years ago when I was pregnant with my second son. I did also go through similar feelings (about the second not being a girl) but not strong enough to affect my bond with my second son - I could not be happier with what we have in life. We've a lot to be grateful for! Both boys are healthy and that's all that matters to me.

It's brilliant having two boys because you can use the clothes from your first son to clothe your second. They are both going to like similar things as they grow up.

My two are 5yo (in a few weeks' time) and 22 mo (3.3y age gap). They are both playing nicely together over the past 4 or 5 weeks I've noticed a huge difference in how they play and it's really lovely to see them getting along (sometimes!!).

You will always get the comments about 'oh are you having a third, you may get lucky next time' type comments but just ignore it. I am also not having any more children and happy with my lot. Cannot have any more as I feel my health would suffer and I'd rather be a healthy mum to two boys than have a third and then realise I cannot cope with it all...

I used to think it would be lovely to have 'one of each' but to be honest I see all the positives now in having two boys. they are both the same gender so they'll have more in common (football, rugby or whatever) as they grow older, they can talk about girls as they reach the teenage years. They each have a best buddy growing up.

I always wanted a sister but had a brother (who I get on well with in the adult years). I wanted a sister so I could discuss similar music, clothes, fashion, make-up etc but never experienced that. I feel relieved that my eldest son will hopefully have a close bond with his brother.

The way I see it, they have a brother each for life. What could be better really?

lovechoc · 13/04/2012 10:16

And congratulations on your pregnancy!! Boys rock! :)

lovechoc · 13/04/2012 10:18

I would also fear that if I had a third pregnancy and it was a girl then she'd be left out, so then I'd have to have a fourth pregnancy and hope it was a girl too so that the first daughter would have company growing up. Sticking with two is much easier.

WhispersOfWickedness · 13/04/2012 10:26

I am mum to one of each and I am a bit to tell you the truth. DS is 2.3 and DD is 7 months and whilst I adore DD, I am still a little sad for DS that he didn't get a brother. I know several gorgeous families with 2 boys and it looks like so much fun, all of the boys love their brothers and I think it's a shame that my dc won't have that same bond.

YouChangeWithTheWeather · 13/04/2012 10:26

It's very convenient with hand me down clothes, sharing toys, playing similar games/sports/clubs, only doing Scouts rather than Scouts and Guides.

I only have a brother - I always wanted a sister too to have someone to share in the ways I can see my boys sharing now.

Bear in mind that if you were expecting a girl, you'd get the "excellent, one of each, that's you done" comments. Now it's a boy, you'll get the comments you see above - what I'm trying to say is, that people will comment whatever because they do.

And personally, I was 'disappointed' when DS1 was a boy (because I thought I'd prefer a girl) and felt the same when DD was a girl (because I knew what I was doing with boys by then) - with hindsight it was adjustment rather than disappointment.

TheGoddessBlossom · 13/04/2012 10:27

I have DS1 7 and DS2 5. They are 22 months apart.

I have never seen my DH so happy as when we found out at the scan that our second pregnancy was also a boy.

They fight, and bicker and scrap...but what siblings don't? The first person they look for in the morning is each other. They play really well together, and are only one year apart in school which they both love.

I love the fact that I can bomb off to the park, for a walk, the woods, with them, and they can both enjoy doing boys stuff together.

Clothes sharing is a godsend, and they both like the same films, toys, food.

2 boys is great fun, I love it. My sister has 2 girls, and has an equal amount of fun, but in a very different way. And I can get my little girl fix with my nieces.

TheGoddessBlossom · 13/04/2012 10:29

In fact the two of them are in the garden right now mining for diamonds (one of those kits?) making a total mess and loving it.

ToastofWar · 13/04/2012 10:29

I have 3 - 10.5, almost 7 and just turned 5.

My boys are all different, so gender does not come into it. DS1, typical boy. Loves his Nerf guns, football, etc. DS2 is the most un-boyish one, if you like. Quiet, quite bookish, loves sitting reading and drawing, DS3 is a mix of both.

larrygrylls · 13/04/2012 10:35

Umm, as a father of a 2.10 year old and a 1.5 year old (using the number after the point as months convention) my favourite is the competitive screeching game, closely followed by the competitive throwing plant soil on the ground game. Both such fun that I am tempted to join in.

And, a little more seriously, it is lovely to see the older one being a good role model to the younger one and how much they already appreciate one another's company and miss one another when they are out separately.

CPtart · 13/04/2012 10:47

I have 2DS with 2.5 years age gap. I too wanted a DD and my mum too wanted a granddaughter but two is enough for us and so it will never be. I occasionally too have pangs of regret, but my two boys are such good pals it is heartwarming to see them together. They play, laugh and have their own little relationship, so close, that I hope it will follow them into adulthood.

ToastofWar · 13/04/2012 10:53

Oh yes, the mess and noise .

In spite of their different personalites, they get on really well, make a lot of noise together and do miss one another when not together.

I wanted boys, so don't have that pang that some mothers of only sons have, but you really will enjoy your sons as they are your children.

youbethemummylion · 13/04/2012 11:50

Two boys rock!

I was like you DS2 is going to be my last baby so when we found out he was a boy I was a bit dissapointed for want of a better word (more for my OH he wanted his little princess)

However two boys is fantastic because...

You save a fortune on clothes
You save a fortune on toys
They love to play the same games together
You can have boy orientated days out etc
If you lucky they will be best mates (mine are)

The main thing is to just get in touch with your masculine side and go with the flow, get muddy, climb trees, pretend you a superhero/pirate/dinosaur, go digging for treasure and build a den in the garden.

margoandjerry · 13/04/2012 11:52

go and listen to Rolf Harris "Two Little Boys" - you'll be sobbing (happily).

lovechoc · 13/04/2012 12:14

TheGoddessBlossom my DH was also the same as yours - he was delighted when DS2 happened to be a boy at the 20 week scan. I was just relieved I had a healthy baby and came to terms with the fact I was going to be a mum of 2 boys. I would not change it for the world.

I feel sad that I never had that same bond my two have with each other though. it's a very unique bond, probably very similar with two girls I would imagine!

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thetigerwhocametoteax · 13/04/2012 17:21

Thanks for all your replies, I am crying (I said I was a mess of hormones!). I guess you never know how thing will work out but I never imagined having two boys, but I am very grateful to have a happy son and a healthy bump. I think I am just sad for the girl I probably will never have. Anway bring on the tractors, pirates, robots, football etc

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catsgotthecream · 13/04/2012 17:37

don't forget the dinosaurs, dragons, knights and castles, life's fantastic with boys, enjoy,

Bonsoir · 13/04/2012 17:39

You can try again for a girl

AberdeenAgnes · 13/04/2012 17:42

I know you didn't ask about two girls, but I just wanted to say that I have two girls and got a few silly comments when I found out DD2 was a girl.

Honestly, I couldn't be happier to have 2 the same flavour and if we ever had a third I would love three daughters.

I think you are very lucky indeed to be having two little boys in your life, there is something so special about watching two children close in age and the same sex share a bond. Congratulations!

steben · 13/04/2012 17:43

Just wanted to say that I am in opp situation to you - we are pregnant with DC2 (1st is a DD) and not sure what we are having. Everyone keeps saying how important it is this is one of each and to be honest it is making me quite anxious. I would deep down love a son and I really fear others disappointment and potentially my own initially if we find it is another DD. So you are not alone.

lovechoc · 13/04/2012 17:56

'you can try again for a girl' oh dear, that's the kind of comments that I got from the midwife after DS2 was born. I was slightly hurt (the hormones) when she said that, as if having two boys was a complete and utter failure.

Why do women need to have one of each though??? Surely having two the same is an advantage is many ways...

SunshineOutdoors · 13/04/2012 18:01

My dh is eldest of two males born 16 months apart. He loves it and dbil is like a proper mate.... I would say it's a very positive thing.

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