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Please tell me lots of nice things about having two boys!

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thetigerwhocametoteax · 13/04/2012 08:42

DS is 20 months old and we've just found out yesterday at scan DC2 is also a boy. DH was a bit shocked as he'd convinced himself that this one was a girl. My mother who we told straight away was a bit "oh well... I guess it will be nice for DS1" (shes always wanted a granddaughter). Although we haven't told anyone else the sex yet I have been surprised how many people have said so far about "wouldn't it be nice to have a girl this time". I feel a bit deflated now which I suspect is hormones etc.

I also think I feel a bit sad as this is also probably our last child and I have always imagined I would have a daughter at some point. Saying all this I am very happy indeed to have another healthy bump and our little boy is gorgeous and I am very chuffed to be having another. Please tell me all the lovely things about having two boys! Grin

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Whoopydofoxpoo · 13/04/2012 18:14

I have two boys , 20 months apart.

They are best friends and worst enemies , great company for each other , especially on holiday , go off and play football together , do similar activities , have totally different personalties but both very sporty.

I think two the same has alot of advantages.

However it would appear (from friends that have girls )that having boys is far less complicated and straight forward when it comes to their friendships with their peers .

HouseLikeAZoo · 13/04/2012 18:36

I have two boys, 2 years apart (aged 6 and 8) and they are best mates. They share everything, from clothes to toys to hobbies. My MIL was gutted that we couldn't manage "one of each" like she had, and I was very defensive of DS2 from day one. Even now she still makes comments about how we didn't give her a granddaughter Angry

Boys are brilliant. You know what's better than having a boy? Having two boys! Welcome to the wonderful world of mud, dinosaurs, Nerf guns and Saturday mornings on a football pitch Smile

Firawla · 13/04/2012 18:54

i've got 3 boys, they all love each other and younger copy off the oldest one, so they are into the same things. very cute to see them together.
your 2nd boy will be just as gorgeous and lovely as your ds1 so it will be great.
i do know how you feel, my 2nd and 3rd before i had the scan i was kinda thinking will be nice to have a girl but once u find out they are a boy and especially once they are born you wouldn't be able to imagine it any other way, and 2 or 3 boys together is a lot of fun

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thetigerwhocametoteax · 13/04/2012 19:37

Thanks again everyone, I really appreciate it

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DizzyDancing · 13/04/2012 19:46

Congrats Smile!

I have two boys, 16 mths apart (3.10 and 2.8) and they absolutely adore each other Smile. Photos on my profile Grin.

You will get lots of stupid comments from people about having a girl so get used to it, but I wouldn't change my family for the world Smile.

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rainbow2000 · 13/04/2012 21:05

Ive 5 boys,eldest 2 a year between them they are 16 and 17 they were good friendsbut the differences between them are amazing.The other 3 ds are 4,2 and 10 months and sometimes its very loud.But i love it and wouldnt have it any other way.
I still get asked am i going for my girl and im like no.

eggtimer · 13/04/2012 21:07

I've got twin boys.

it's fabulous.

MrsJamin · 13/04/2012 21:13

Congratulations :)
I have two DSs and they are so gorgeous! 2.2 months apart, youngest is 2.2 now. There aren't many squabbles re what to watch on tv, there's already oodles of cars for DS2 to enjoy, you can reuse clothes for DS2, and I think they will be firm friends. DS1 wasn't really interested in DS2 for the first year but was friendly to him once he got moving and talking! I warn you, you may get some smug mums of girls sneering their noses up at how much noise and chaos comes from boys but I don't care. I much prefer boys to girls!

Snowboarder · 13/04/2012 21:19

I have a 1yo DS and am 6 mo pg with DS2. Like you OP I had a moment of sadness when I realised that I would not get to parent a daughter as well as a son. I did think negatively for a bit - I'd be a dreaded MIL one day, I wouldn't get to share confidences with a daughter, help her through boyfriend troubles, do the whole shopping/ spa day bit, help her choose her wedding dress, support her through pregnancy/ childbirth/ parenting.

I don't mind admitting that I shed a few tears over it initially but I realised that I was getting sucked into a fantasy about what having a daughter would be like and forgetting the fact I have a real son kicking away in my stomach! I now know that the child that I want is the one that I am having. I cannot wait to meet him.

mum47 · 13/04/2012 21:24

I have two boys now aged 10 and 12. I LOVE LOVE LOVE having boys! They are fabulous, they have got up to so many antics over the years! When I had DS2 I had kind of hoped for a girl just as I had a boy already but I was not disappointed for a minute, and think two boys is the best combination ever. Boys do rock!

HerrenatheHHHarridan · 13/04/2012 21:37

I've got a 10mo DS1 and am expecting DS2 in 3 months time!! This thread is encouraging and I definitely agree with the money-saving comments.

I did feel a little sad when I realised I wouldn't be having a girl; in fact that's why I opted to find out at the 20-week scan. I didn't want my first feeling as they handed me my new (potential) boy to be disappointment... this way I have 20 weeks to adjust to the news and can welcome my new boy whole-heartedly.

By the way, I am one of two sisters and we are similar people but sadly not that close - also neither of us get on that well with our mother. Just trying to point out that it might be better to think wistfully of the daughter you never had than to have one who has no interest in the close relationship you've dreamt of....

Oh, and congratulations on your new little man OP Grin

carocaro · 13/04/2012 21:38

Mine aged 9 and 5 are currently wrapped around each other in bed fast asleep! I as a girl had a brother, and what I find fascinating is this brotherly bond they have as same sex siblings, it really is something truly unique and special, I am sure sisters have it too.

As a girl you do have to get to grips with boys stuff and ways of thinking and doing eg: why do the wrestle so much? why do they have so much energey? why do they shoot each other with sticks, the hoover cord and light sabres all the time?

Also I think you get more me time as they bugger off an play sport a lot so you can if you so wish go shopping in peace and quiet, whilst they come back all muddy and conked out and you just have to feed them large baguettes filled with tuna and cheese!

The older one is so caring and a great role model for the younger one, they adore each other, of course they get in each others nerves and piss each other off, but any siblings of any sex do!

They love doing girly stuff for me, like flowers, tea in bed, bubbles in the bath etc etc. And as for shopping both mine could spend hours and lots of cash if we had it in Zara, H&M, JD Sports etc - so you still do get to shop!

I went to a funeral recently, where the younger brother (now in his 50's) said that his older brother (the one who died) throughout thier lives and as long as he could remember, had always looked over his should to make sure he was there and not ever left out, whatever they were doing and whereever they were and that the bond they had would still not be broken even though he had died. Of course I thought of my boys and actually did a big snorting sob in the church right there and then.

Some women can never have children, so to have two, is amazing.

GilbertandGeorge · 13/04/2012 21:56

When I was pg after my first boy - I was secretly so desperate to have another boy, which I did! I don't know why, I had terrible anxiety over having a girl.

My boys make me laugh so much and they are sooo affectionate with me and dh. They're brilliant. My eldest is 13 and he is great company. In fact, any excuse, and he and I will slope off for a big walk or lunch out.

Boys are very good at spontaneous compliments too, imo!

gimmeabreak · 13/04/2012 21:58

i have six boys
was desperate for girls but am overjoyed with my lot
loving soft caring...
my eldest is 19 and my pride and joy

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gimmeabreak · 13/04/2012 22:00

and yes sooooo different to one another

PigeonPie · 13/04/2012 22:15

Two boys is fab. Mine are now 6 and 4 and they are very close. They play beautifully together (most of the time) and I'm sure as they get older they'll probably gang up on me, but they are such fun.

I also get time off occasionally now as DH takes them off to do 'boyly' things Grin

Smokedsalmonbagel · 13/04/2012 22:38

Two boys here as well!

DS1 is 5 and DS2 is 18 months.

I went through very similar emotions to you but love having 2 boys.

I was an only so firstly I love having 2 and watching their relationship develop. As others have said its fab being able to reuse toys and clothes. They also adore each other. DS2 is always giving his brother big hugs.

As an extra I seem to get on well with other Mums of 2 boys and made some good friends. I guess its a shared interest thing.

Enjoy!

rowanrowow · 14/04/2012 14:37

I have 2 boys, DS1 is 4yrs and DS2 is nearly 4 months old. I kind of always saw myself with 2 boys although had no preference. DH was overjoyed when we found out DS1 was a boy as we'd both sort of seen ourselves with at least one boy. After we found out DC2 was also a boy we weren't disappointed but had to deal with a lot of negative comments especially from my workmates who were convinced it was a girl this time and so many people responded with 'Ohh dear are u disappointed?' Hmm . Also get a lot of people asking when we are going to 'try for a girl' as if it's just expected that we'll want another child. We couldn't care less what sex they were, we wanted children and have been blessed with 2 gorgeous healthy boys. DH i s booked in for a vasectomy so definitely no trying for girls here! Life with 2 boys is great. I don't really enjoy the baby stage but as DS2 is becoming more interactive I can see he adores DS1 already and it's lovely to see them together. Also looking forward to their friendship and relationship develop. I wouldn't change it for the world! It's great having 2 same sex because athough there's no guarantee they'll get along or be best friends at least there's a bigger chance they will have some common ground, like similar toys or TV shows etc. Going on days out will be lovely as they get older. Can't wait! Congratulations!

rowanrowow · 14/04/2012 14:40

/ohh and yes, DH takes them for 'boys days out' which is fab as I get time off Blush ! Boysalso love their mummies generally speaking and for the first few years do everything girls enjoy too. DS1 loves baking and helping mummy etc. It's brilliant and I adore him. He's my best friend and DH now has another fishing buddy!

us4downhere · 14/04/2012 20:18

I have 2 sons and they are ace!! They are 7 and 5 now.

They fight quite a bit but they really miss each other if they are apart. They look out for each other at school and play together with mutual mates at lunchtimes.

They are exactly 2 years apart but the same size so clothes sharing is great!

I would really like another baby but DH not keen but everyone says, "Oh it might be a girl next time" and are always surprised when I tell them I'd rather have another boy!!

Congratulations by the way Grin Thanks

carocaro · 17/04/2012 11:47

PS: we went to London over half term, they went to the Science Museum for 3 hours and looked at rockets etc and I went round the corner to the V&A and looked at jewellery, photography and artifacts forma round the world. Then we all went to the Natural History for 4 hours together - it was FAB.

Yorkpud · 17/04/2012 16:52

I think whatever you have you are happy with when they are born whether you had a preference before or not. I didn't get on well with my brother so I am hoping with having 2 the same they will form a better bond.

DrowninginDuplo · 17/04/2012 18:20

They are interested in the same things. So don't have to duplicate stuff and can do joint presents. Entertain each other hence the mumsnetting now. And the best bit - cast offs!

Tis awesome!