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#### Please let's support Spacecadet ##########

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desperatehousewife · 18/01/2006 15:13

Spacecadet is currently having to deal with more than anyone should ever have to deal with in a lifetime.

She has experienced over the last few months a stillbirth, serious illness, looking after with no help a house full of children and a consequence a husband who has walked out.

Please can we do something positive and practical to help spacey out over the next few months.

Lovely mumsnet have said that they will give out the details of their po box address so that any of us that feel so generously inclined could rustle up a few quid to go into a nanny fund or an au pair fund or so that we can find a company that make lovely homemade food and deliver it to her every week.

Please support me on this - If everyone gave just £1 we'd be able to offer some amazing help to SC.

I'm sorry Spacey if you are angry with me for starting this thread - I know you are proud and you have coped admirably with everything - but please just accept that we want to help.

I will post details of who to make cheque payable to and where to send it, just as soon as I have the details. In the meantime, please look behind your cushions on your sofa and in the bottom of your handbag amongst the fluff to dig out those coins.

Thank you so much
DHW

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LadySherlockofLGJ · 21/01/2006 22:18

Spacey

Mars has gone to bed.................(lightweight)

She wants to know what train they are on ? Should she meet them or have you given them money for a taxi ???

Also, before you put them on the train, can you ask them if they want Lemon Drizzle cake again, or Chocolate ?????

MarsOnLife · 22/01/2006 09:20

Glad they enjoyed the cake. You saw how easy it was to make. DD1 could make it. Infact all but DD2 could make it really.

I hope that your H get's some help for his depression.

I've sent instructions home to change some sheets in preparation for your kids arriving.

Hiya DD1.....

spacecadet · 22/01/2006 10:07

lol, i didnt see this becuase i was a good girl and went to bed early..as i was told!

i still didnt sleep well though.

h is outside cleaning HIS car again, not mine..grr.
his bags are packed in the hall, he has hardly said a word to me since yesterday.
if he is depressed he wont get help, hes not even going to register with a doctor up there, and if it is depression, i cant beleive he is doing this to me and the kids, just because he wont get help.

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MarsOnLife · 22/01/2006 10:09

depression can affect us all is so many ways.

Maybe the break will be the catalyst!

Hard to believe that his car got dirty overnight. Didn't think you had any huge dust clouds where you live lol.

I think he's procastinating, but remember what we talked about yesterday.

Beetroot · 22/01/2006 10:10

is heleaving today spacey?

spacecadet · 22/01/2006 10:11

hes cleaning the inside this morning mars..pmsl.

beetroot, yes hes going today.

Beetroot · 22/01/2006 10:14

hmm, strange that he is doing that now instead of getting in his car and starting is oh so lovley new life...Perhaps ou and the kids need to go out until he has gone spacey.

spacecadet · 22/01/2006 10:16

i would if i didnt feel like id been run over by a bus, he reckons he is going at lunchtime.

Beetroot · 22/01/2006 10:18

could you not just go to the park> mates?

MarsOnLife · 22/01/2006 10:29

she's really exhausted beety. She's still trying to do too much imho. I don't know if she can manage the park with kids. Just getting into the car and out again at Pizza Express did for her yesterday.

Maybe you should get in the bath with a good book (preferably an easy read).

I still think that the man is procrastinating.

Beetroot · 22/01/2006 10:31

of corse, forgot about the ilness.

hope you manage to get some rest

LemonTart · 22/01/2006 10:33

spacey - just make sure he doesn?t get you to cook his lunch or pack some sarnies for him!
You don?t think he is waiting for you to rush outside and plead him to stay do you? Giving you "one last chance" type thing to put the decision (in his head) in your hands - his way of absolving blame?
Look after yourself today, plan a nice cosy afternoon with the kids and try not to do too much to exhaust yourself
xxxxxxxxxx

MarsOnLife · 22/01/2006 10:34

take a meal out of the freezer for tonight's supper.

Go to bed! Or lounge on the sofa watching bad telly.

LadySherlockofLGJ · 22/01/2006 11:31

Morning Spacey.

Thinking of you,I do truly think that he is depressed.

spacecadet · 22/01/2006 11:34

mars, ive taken the baked chicken out.

ive never seen h's car look so clean.
i said last night "i bet you cant wait to get away can you?" and he said nothing, just ignored me.
he can procrastinate until the cows come home.

ds1 is having a temper tantrum because i wont let him go out with his friend..sigh.

spacecadet · 22/01/2006 11:39

hi LGJ.
he certainly looks depressed.

LadySherlockofLGJ · 22/01/2006 11:43

I think distance may improve things. Have you asked him if he is going to be coming back on his day off to see the children ??

spacecadet · 22/01/2006 11:46

apparently, he wont be taking any time off in the first month, then, he only gets every other weekend off, he said he plans to come back, twice a month if poss to see the children, but not till after feb.

spacecadet · 22/01/2006 11:48

his dad is here, to see him off, looks like hes going v soon.

LadySherlockofLGJ · 22/01/2006 11:51

It is not unreasonable for him to not take time off until he feels comfortable in his job.

Good news that he is planning to come back to see the children.

Try and be civil to his Dad, you both love him, but on different levels.

spacecadet · 22/01/2006 11:59

i know.
i dont blame him for not taking time off, there is a lot to do etc.

spacecadet · 22/01/2006 12:00

i didnt sleep again last night and im now feeling dreadful from lack of sleep.

QE2 · 22/01/2006 12:18

spacey, depression manifests itself in many ways for men and they never seem to talk about it.

X-dh was severely depressed and no-one knew it at the time we split. Please tell him to get help. I would hate him to end up like my ex where he has had no employment or contact with his kids for 8 years due to severe clinical depression.

Seems like you have got some great support in the shape of Marsy and LGJ - formidable sounding women!

spacecadet · 22/01/2006 12:32

yes they are formidable women

MarsOnLife · 22/01/2006 12:33

formidable?

Moi????????????

lol