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From what age did you DC sleep in their own room?

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featherbag · 07/12/2011 20:35

Just curious - my DS is 9 weeks old and such a noisy sleeper I'm finding it hard to get any sleep at all! Would it be so bad, say when he hits 12 weeks, to put him in the nursery (cot about 7ft from our bed, with flimsy wall in between, obv.) with a baby monitor? Can't seem to find any evidence for the HV's assertion that he should be in our room until 6mo, even she can't tell me why!

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ThePieSmuggler · 07/12/2011 20:38

My dd is still in with us at 5.5 mths, we co sleep though so am intending her to be in there for a while yet.

As regards the six month 'rule', I assumed it was related to the fact that the risk of SIDS decreases after this stage (and that sleeping in the same room as the parents reduces the SIDS risk)

DialMforMummy · 07/12/2011 21:17

Mine slept in his room at 3 months or so. The recommendation for 6 months is because of SIDS.

nannyl · 07/12/2011 21:18

mine was 7 weeks

happened by accident as i fell asleep just before i was due to dream feed her and she didnt wake until 4am...

i slept so much better as a result and she has stayed in her room since (she is 12 weeks today) except for 2 nights at about 9 weeks when she was full of cold

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shineypenny · 07/12/2011 21:20

Both of them from one week.

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featherbag · 07/12/2011 22:02

I know it's 'because of SIDS', but why? Why does it increase the risk? What research found this? By how much is the risk increased, from what to what? I really want to know, but can't find out!

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LikeAnAdventCandleButNotQuite · 07/12/2011 22:09

I seems to be the idea that if baby sleeps in with parents, it hears them and so does not drop into too heavy a sleep (same as advice for not sleeping on front, this promotes heavier sleeping)

Too heavy a sleep means baby is less likely to startle awake if it stops breathing.

I intend to have LO in with us for the least time possible as I think I will keep the baby awake (sleep with TV on etc).

At the end of the day, happy mother=happy baby, happy baby=happy mother. If you are struggling to sleep, LO being in it's own room will help.

KD0706 · 07/12/2011 22:27

It's such a hard one isn't it. DD was eight months old when we moved her, but she was two months premature, so we kept her in with us till six months after her due date.
She was very noisy and did get woken by DHs alarm in the morning so we were keen to move her ASAP. But just personally felt we wanted to stick to the guidelines.

I think lots of people move their babies before its recommended and plenty of others stick to the guidelines, and both camps can argue their reasons. It's just a personal decision.

Maybe do some research into the reasons behind the guidelines do that if you do decide to go against them you are doing so from a well informed point of view?

plipplops · 07/12/2011 22:27

DD1 13ish weeks, DD2 5 weeks (she was so loud couldn't wait to get her out of my room!)

BlueberryPancake · 08/12/2011 12:43

Three months DS1, 5 months DS2. In both cases, I had a single bed in their bedroom and slept there when they were ill, had a temperature or needy (teething etc.) and waking up often.

Iscreamtea · 08/12/2011 12:56

DD was about 6 weeks, because she was getting woken by us and vice versa. DS1 was about 3 weeks because in the house we were in then there just wasn't enough room for him to be in there long term. Both slept the other side of a thin wall (newbuilds) with the baby monitor on. DS2 is still in with us at nearly 5 months. We've got plenty of room, he doesn't seem too disturbed by our noise and he's pretty quiet. His room is further away from ours as well so not sure he'd be so easy to hear if anything happened to the monitor.

WhereTheWildThingsWere · 08/12/2011 12:57

Mine are 7 and nearly 4 and still in with us

fraktious · 08/12/2011 13:08

DS is 7mo and still in, more due to space constraints than ideology! He's learning to sleep through DH's alarm (good lad).

CogitoErgoSometimes · 08/12/2011 13:42

Own room from about 4 months. We are both very noisy sleepers so we woke each other up too much. Live in a typical thin-walled semi... not a chateau with stone corridors.... so have never bothered with alarms and monitors.

CogitoErgoSometimes · 08/12/2011 13:50

"Why does it increase the risk?"

The truth is, they don't actually know. They've correllated various factors in the lives of babies that have been SIDS victims and found that by far the biggest commonality is 'a smoking household' and 'underlying health problems' including premature birth. Those account for a large majority and, from the stats I've seen, all the other factors put together make up a very tiny minority by comparison. There's also a number of victims who did not fall into any of the 'at risk' groups and for whom they can find no cause of death either. To me, that says that if you don't smoke and if the baby is healthy and if you've done the accepted thing of lying them on their backs to sleep, if anything terrible were to happen, you'd simply be very, very, very unlucky indeed - and nothing you could have done would have probably altered the outcome.

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featherbag · 09/12/2011 03:14

Thanks to everyone who responded, I'm still not close to a decision, maybe in not quite sleep-deprived enough yet (although the little angel really has outdone himself in the noise stakes so far tonight), but I'm pleased there are so many varying opinions and reasons!

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mfea · 09/12/2011 06:34

6 weeks.

Also, very loud sleeper, so even though e was sleeping well, DH and I were not sleeping!

DS now 16 months and has always loved his cot and sleep. I think partly because it is all he has ever known.

worm77daisy · 09/12/2011 06:36

6 months to the day for both DDs DH was very excited each time

Avantia · 09/12/2011 06:45

Both were between 6 & 8 weeks .

Firstly getting too big for moses basket
Not enough room in our bedroom for cot
One Ds was very noisy sleeper
Never used a baby monitor until they were toddlers and they moved upstairs to the third floor.

Now strapping 11 and 9 yr olds !

RealLifeIsForWimps · 09/12/2011 07:04

6wks. We all slept better, and DS instantly dropped down to 1 night feed.

FeralGirlCambs · 09/12/2011 12:06

Immediately. DD was born 7 weeks prematurely before we'd done any classes, got to that page in the book etc and in Spain (accidentally) so we didn't have that much guidance due to language barriers, not being able to pop out and buy a book etc. She came home about 2 days after repatriation, and that time was a whirlwind of getting things anything like ready - buying the poor little mite some clothes and blankets for starters. When we got her home we put her in Moses basket in nursery (right next to our room, sharing wall with our bed, both doors open), not knowing that this was tantamount to child neglect. It seemed to work well and to be honest HV etc did not bat an eyelid so it can't be that uncommon. Felt a bit stupid (as with many things) when the dust settled and I had time to find out what we were 'meant' to do, but not stupid enough to move the noisy little darling into our room. I woke up at every grunt anyway!

lostinindia · 09/12/2011 12:10

2yrs lol!

worldgonecrazy · 09/12/2011 12:11

I'm not sure if the researchers know why children sleeping in the same room as their parents are at lower risk of SIDS (which is thankfully a tiny risk anyway). I think they were looking into the unconscious signals that babies pick up on - the carbon dioxide and other chemicals in a parent's breath which helps trigger the automatic breathing reflex in a sleeping baby.

It may also be that babies sleeping with their parents are more likely to be breastfed than those in separate rooms, and bfing halves the risk of SIDS too. Again, the researchers don't seem to be quite sure why.

The studies that I briefly looked at seemed to make allowances for things such as parental income, societal status, age, education, diet, smoking, drugs, etc. and all the other things that help to reduce the SIDS factor.

cookingfat · 09/12/2011 13:57

From 6 months. Her sleep improved immediately!

FlappyBaps · 09/12/2011 14:39

At about 4 months if I remember rightly - may even have been a bit sooner. Mainly because she was moving around alot in her moses basket (tummy sleeper) and it seemed sensible to move her into the cot, which is too big for our room. I'd planned for her to stay with us for 6 months but - as with everything else - we've ended up doing things as and when the time seems right, rather than when The Rules dictate.

We've got one of those neurotic breathing sensor monitors which has proved to be a Godsend and we still use it (she's 21 months and just moved into her first bed so the sensor tells us when she has escaped!

FrameyMcFrame · 09/12/2011 14:43

3 years for DD and DS is 2.5 and still in our bed :)

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