From what age did you DC sleep in their own room?

[featherbag]

Just curious - my DS is 9 weeks old and such a noisy sleeper I'm finding it hard to get any sleep at all! Would it be so bad, say when he hits 12 weeks, to put him in the nursery (cot about 7ft from our bed, with flimsy wall in between, obv.) with a baby monitor? Can't seem to find any evidence for the HV's assertion that he should be in our room until 6mo, even she can't tell me why!

Six months for both of mine. I just couldn't imagine doing anything that would increase the risk if cot death.

When I left the hospital with my first baby I was given a sheet to take home about safe sleep. That's because some people's babies had died in our area in recent months and our local health authority was trying to stop this from happening to anyone else. I don't take heed of all the guidelines the NHS dish out but the ones about safety I do try my best to follow to the letter. That's because if God forbid anything did ever go wrong, I would like to be able to say I had done everything in my power.

Thanks for the gold star

I'm not a perfect parent, just a big worrier.

2 weeks and he slept soooo much better!

I agree with framey

featherbag you would seriously view a toddler in your bed as disrespectful to your marriage? Jeez.

6 months

I would parsnips, I think it's important for mam and dad's bed to be just that - somewhere you're taken when you're ill or have had a nightmare, or to jump in for cuddles on a Sunday morning, but not somewhere for children to sleep routinely. It was the same in my parents' house and PILs. I think making space to be a couple is vital to being parents, making each other important as well as the kids.

DS was about 8 weeks - there definitely wasn't room for a cot in our room and in fact I was in DS's room for most of the first 8 weeks as there was barely room for a moses basket.

With DD we had a bigger bedroom and she was in with us for longer but have no idea how long. At least 4 months or so.

I agree with Featherbag - toddlers don't die of SIDS, so whilst I can understand why people with new borns keep them in the same room, I wouldn't have wanted mine to be in our bed when they were 3 or 4 years old.

About 11 months, she wasn't ready before then.

I'd happily have a toddler in with us if best for them, they are all different.

Nine days (after seven days in hospital) .............. awaits flaming. I prefer the idea of encouraging a baby to self settle as early as possible, I know its against the guidelines, but our DS slept very well in his own room (only waking once per night to feed) and learned that bedtime at 7pm meant exactly that. We were probably very lucky, but never had any sleeping issues. I would also put him in his own room for daytime naps (with the door closed).

6 months and it has made bugger all difference to her sleep! It just means that I get cold getting up three times in the night to feed/settle!

I had hoped that moving DD out would mean a return to a 'normal' sleep pattern and sex life but no improvement so far 6 weeks on!

For dd1, from birth (I slept in her room for the first few weeks) and for dd2, from about 5 weeks I think (she hated the moses basket so we cleared out dh's office sooner than planned...). They have both been incredible sleepers but I have no idea whether this is because they were undisturbed (for want of a better word) and left to get on with sleeping at night, or whether it was easier to put them in their own room because they were natually good sleepers...

6 months, but with hind sight would have done by 6 weeks.

Ragwort I also had daytime naps in the cot and would fit daytime activities around this, rather than getting the baby to fit in with what I wanted to do.
Still, I think we are some of the lucky ones...

I'm another terribly cruel and irresponsible parent who had DS in his own room from birth. He is an awesome sleeper now. Connected? Who knows. But I think some of the judging posts on here are absolutely out of order.