From what age did you DC sleep in their own room?

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Just curious - my DS is 9 weeks old and such a noisy sleeper I'm finding it hard to get any sleep at all! Would it be so bad, say when he hits 12 weeks, to put him in the nursery (cot about 7ft from our bed, with flimsy wall in between, obv.) with a baby monitor? Can't seem to find any evidence for the HV's assertion that he should be in our room until 6mo, even she can't tell me why!

All these parents who say their bedrooms are too small for a cot, you must have tiny rooms? Our room was tiny in our old house, with a king size bed and a cot in there was room to walk along the side of the bed and that was it. Why not just say you don't want to share a room with your child rather than making excuses, if you wanted to do it you would find a way to make it work.

Pretty judgey there, framey. Did you follow every rule or just the ones you were able to comply with? No one's the perfect parent.

When ds was born we were in a new build. He was in with us till he outgrew the moses basket at 7 weeks. If we'd had the cotbed in our room we couldn't have closed the door and would've had to dive into bed from the foot of it.

Dd is nearly 6 months and went into her room last weekend. We're in a new (old) house now and while she was in our room she was further away from me than ds was in his nursery at our old house.

We had a standard double bed.

I've been told that one theory behind why sleeping in the same room until 6 months helps prevent SIDS is that even when asleep, if baby is close by, parents are more likely to wake if his/her breathing pattern slows or changes, and to respond quickly.

Don't know if this is right or not though, hope you find the solution that works best for you and your little one x

I always assumed the recommended age due to SIDS was because parents could hear the baby and would be able to sense/hear if he or she were not breathing. Same reason why co-sleeping is encouraged these days (my assumption anyway).

My DS went into his room at 16 weeks. By then he was sleeping through the night plus me and DP decided to give it a trial run to see how we would do with him in his own room. He did so well we decided to keep him in there.

Framey 'judgy pants Mcframe - thank you for pointing out that my bedroom should be big enough for a cot - it was one of many reasons why they didn't sleep in with us and we are happy with our decision .

Also we all slept better and both DS were sleeping through 12pm - 6pm at 12 - 13 weeks and yes I was still BF them.

No what other little pearls of wisdom to you have to throw at peoples parenting skills and decisions

Within a couple of days of getting home from hospital. The SIDs thing hadn't been announced in those days (17 & 19 years ago) but even if it had, we weren't getting any sleep with snuffly babies in the room, as we're both extremely light sleepers, so they would have got exiled anyway.

8 weeks for dd1 but I spent most of every night on the floor in her room until she was 4 months or so. Currently brewing dd2 and think will keep her in with me longer as a bed more comfortable than the floor... Still doubt I'll make it to 6 months though.

Framey - Hilarious lack of self awareness in your posts there. made me chuckle.

Just over 6 months. Not really because of the SIDS advice (not that I ignored it either) but because she was in a side-car cot and at just over 6 months she started being able to twist round and kick me.

4 months. There was not one centimetre of room left in his moses basket, otherwise he would still be in here. And there is no room for his cot in our room. You can come round and check if you like, framey mcjudgeypants.

About 15 months. I know the risk of SIDS is small and they don't really know why being close to Mum helps but for me any risk was too much.

12 weeks

The Foundation for the Study of Infant Deaths website says that sleeping in a seperate room doubles the risk of cot death, but I don't think the evidence is clear about why this is
The risk peaks at 2 to 3 months

I think my babies were only really noisy for the first couple of months
, he might be a bit quieter by 12 weeks anyway?
Even though the overall risk of cot death is low, if it did happen to us (unlikely though it is) I wouldn't want to feel I could have done anything differently.
So 6 months for my first, ages for my second (because she was a rubbish sleeper), and it'll be at least 6 months for this one. But I get used to the noise after a bit, might be different if you are hardly getting any sleep.

All three of mine went into their own rooms as soon as they came home from hospital (well, two of them are twins so they weren't lone but they weren't with us either). All three were excellent sleepers - possibly partly becasue they had their own sapce, but who knows.

Ds 1 - 8 months.
I read somewhere that having baby in the same room near you meant that your breathing would stimulate baby to breathe in - we breathe out carbon dioxide which then prompts / supports the baby's own respiratory process, which I assume is important if baby starts breathing erratically? Can't remember where I read this though but am sure it was reputable enough.

Dc1 7 weeks
Dc2 day 2

I think the decision will be out of our hands before too much longer, he's starting to look decidedly cramped in his Moses basket and there's no way the cot will fit in our room, there's no room for anything but the basket. Co-sleeping has never sat well with me, don't disagree with it in principle but it's never seemed something that's right for us. Possibly because my DB and DSIL co-slept with their DD and age 4 she's still mostly in their bed.

Yeah I've had this argument on MN a few times and I usually am shocked at the amount of people who chime in with the space excuse. I mean it's a guideline that is produced to protect against SIDS, that's sudden infant death syndrome, a life and death guideline really. I don't hear many people saying they don't have room for a carseat in their car so they decided to go against the safety guidelines and put the baby in the car without.

My shocking lack of self awareness aside, there are enough people on this website who have experienced the death of a child.

2 weeks for both of mine as they were noisy sleepers. One now 2.5 and one 5 months. Both good sleepers luckily

Framey I think you are bang out of order implying that somehow parents could be responsible of the child's death because they are sleeping in a different room.

I don't mean to be a judgey pants, it's just that my friend said the same thing and really what she meant was there was no room for the cot because of the matching bedside tables and dressing table etc.

Cot death is really rare but it does happen.
Putting a tiny baby in a room on their own for 8 hours would be completely against my instincts never mind the guidelines.

sorry but it's not me who is suggesting that

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I am not saying you are wrong about the information, it is the implication that if you don't follow to the letter all the recommendations you are actively putting your baby's life at risk.

Frame, if we all followed all of the recommendations all of the time we'd be demented, for starters they change so often! That said, I take enormous offense at your implication that I would put my child at risk for the sake of furniture. His cot will not fit into our bedroom unless we remove the door. This is not an excuse. And still in parents' bed at 2.5? I actually would view that as being disrespectful to my marriage. Have a gold star for being such a perfect parent