everyone always says it gets easier and i was hanging on to that fact for dear life..

[nailpolish]

but people have started telling me it gets worse

or "the problems dont get any easier they just change"

if this is my life for the rest of it im a dead woman by 40

i have a 3 yr old and a 14 mth old, any one else the same/have the same gap???

[nailpolish]

and i think dd1 is turning into a mini-me

she tells dd2 off like i tell her (dd1) off

"DONT touch the oven"

"STAY AWAY from the blinds"

actions down to a t as well (pursed lips etc)

[Tortington]

babies are much harder. thats a fact in the custy book.

problems are always there. when they go to school the teacher could pick on the kid or fall asleep drunk in class, your kid might not be getting enough attention, may be bullied, may be the bully, etc etc. theres always problems. but at that point imo kids become enjoyable, have a sense of humour - say things immensley funny. tell you o f their day - give you compliments and the ultimate compliment of wanting to be you.


when they get to 14 thats when the shit hits the fan - so enjoy the inbetween bits. get some of your life and independance as a person back time to do some classes or get a job or if you have one change it. but to be your own person for a few years. until they turn into twatfaces at 14

[blueshoes]

lol, custy, like your post

[nailpolish]

ah custy, full of wisdom

is 14 really the cut-off age? it must be the paper rounds

[Feistybird]

Things are a hell of a lot easier at 5 and 3 than they ever were at 1 and 3. Honestly, it's easier and for me anyway, much more fun. Saw all the tantrums with DD1, so DD2 phases me less (still infuriates the hell, you understand, only less so).

Custy tells it like it is, so am dreading 14.

[Bugsy2]

nailpolish when mine were your age, I found it really tough. They are now 6 & 3.5 and it is sooooooooooooooo much easier. There is light at the end of the tunnel - hang in there.

[nailpolish]

thats good to hear bugsy xx

[Tortington]

14 - til whenever they leave i reckon - am waiting for mine to leave!

[Bugsy2]

In fact Nailpolish, I would even go so far as to say I really enjoy spending time with them now. You can go out for a day, without worrying about feeds, naps, nappies etc. Sometimes, when we've had a lovely day together, I have to pinch myself to check I'm awake.
Hope that is inspiring!

[Mog]

I really hope it does get easier. Mine are 4.5, 3 and 1.5 and it's the drudgery work I want to be rid of. the cleaning, wiping bottoms, the not being able to reason with them, them not understanding that you can't do three jobs at once. I'm sure it must get easier when everyone can get their own shoes on and they don't seem to need you constantly with them for entertainment.

[Dotthehalls]

ours are just turned 4 and 20 months, and life is getting easier - very slowly..! TBH I found ds1 at 3 was very very hard. Didn't like his baby brother, discovered whinging in a big way,and the odd tantrum thrown in for good measure - he was much easier at 2!! But now he's getting that bit older he's calming down and for most of the time he tolerates ds2 much better- we even get the odd glimpse (maybe once or twice a week) when they play together for a few minutes!

So I think over the next 6 - 12 months life will get easier for you - it just feels like such a long time to wait and get through... And then when the older one starts school (for us that's in September) it's bound to get better as there's one less to worry about for 6 hours of the day!

[QueensSpeechEagle]

I'm sure it gets easier once they are out of nappies and you don't have to carry/remember all the extra bits abd bobs every time you leave the house.

I was saying to dh the other day how much I am looking forward to no more of this and not having to lug pushchairs in and out of the car.

And the 2-4 age is the worst imo.