My friend has kids of 3 and 2, the 3 year old she describes as spirited. He is I would imagine quite typical of a lively boy. He is a bit of a thrower and a hitter/kicker, if we are in the garden he throws stones or whatever is to hand at his younger brother or his mum or me or my dc. His mum gives him a cursory "Don't do that" but it is never followed through with any sanction if he continues. It's got to the stage where I try and avoid having them inside as he has caused varying amounts of minor damage to things in the house. My dc ran a mile when they popped round today as she still has the bruises from an earlier encounter this week. The younger sibling is now following the older brother's lead. Between hitting me or my dc and temper tantrums when their mum doesn't instantly give them what they want I'm finding mixing with them quite stressful. I lied today about my plans for next week, just to avoid a day trip to the zoo. I get embarrassed at having to admonish her kids but I had to pull the older one from my hair last week. How do I handle this?