teenage daughter

[bevrichy]

what am i doing wrong!!The more i try the less i get right i feel i'm losing touch with my 13 year old daughter i'm so upset.she just says i don't understand her,which makes me feel like a bad mother!then i act like one shouting and acting like a child omg.then i back off to calm down and she thinks i'm ignoring her!Any advice please:(

Behave like an adult not a child

I know how you feel ! My DD is a little older and has calmed down a lot over the last year but has always been challenging. It could be because she is an only child??? Anyway, I always tried to talk to her calmly and try to understand her point of view and find out what was going on at school\with friends etc. Its easy to lose your temper in frustration but count to ten and walk away and try try try again!