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could you leave them for 3 days?

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bagpussmice · 23/11/2005 13:32

dh and I are off to New York in January and leaving the little ones with Grandma and Grandad for 3 days. Friends have said - how could you leave them for so long, and what if something happens to you both? I wasn't nervous but am now following these comments.
Have you ever been away? I am feeling indulgent and guilty for leaving them!

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dexter · 23/11/2005 14:45

bagpussmice, if YOU feel it's ok for YOUR kids then it's ok!! I have never had a night away from my 3 yr old son but I am starting to look forward to the idea that one day, I might.......I couldn't leave the country though, because I would feel the need to be able to hurry back if my child was ill, so I'd go closer to home. However this is not a criticism of you AT ALL. If you can do it, then do it. They'll be fine and it's only pathetic hidebound mothers like me who miss out on these experiences!! Seriously I do think it's a good thing for kids for their parents to have loving, exclusive time together - so don't feel guilty, it's good for all of you in the long run.
Easy to give advice - I must learn to take my own. Perhaps I really might start planning a night away...

Tortington · 23/11/2005 14:56

with ease

sunnydelight · 23/11/2005 14:58

Why did I know you would say that custy

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jolou1 · 23/11/2005 15:09

We went to New York for 4 days when DSs were 2 and 3. Their Grandparents came to stay with them at our house (much easier) and we all had a fab time. I couldn't wait to see them when I got back and they were very excited with their very cheap New York Police cars, fire engines and NYPD t-shirts. (Great fun shopping for those in the tacky tourist shops.) Yes you;ll miss them, but you'll be so excited to see them again (which is a fabulous feeling.) They only asked about us once (which is a trifle disappointing...) But it did us all the power of good. Relationships need some time out. Go for it!!

NomDePlume · 23/11/2005 15:13

DH and I went to Barcelona for 4 days, leaving DD with my Mum. She was 2 and a bit at the time. We phoned her every day (in the morning and in the evening to say goodnight). She had stacks of fun with her and we had a relaxing break. She was ready for us to come home by the end of the 3rd day (we flew back on the morning of the 4th day)

NomDePlume · 23/11/2005 15:14

I missed her more than she missed me, I have to say.

desperatehousewife · 23/11/2005 15:16

given half the chance I can catagorically say I could do it. Would kill to do it!

Feistybird · 23/11/2005 15:16

MI, yes I've often thought that - you have 2 girls too, don't you?

ssd · 23/11/2005 15:17

I couldn't leave them.

ssd · 23/11/2005 15:19

We've never had a night away together in almost 8 years, but we have never had anyone to leave them with, so if you have and your kids are happy, then go and enjoy it.

MerlinsBeard · 23/11/2005 15:39

no.

motherinferior · 23/11/2005 15:45

Yes, FB, I am a 42 yearold shortarse mother of two girls who works and feels uneasy about the Idea of Being A Family.

Cor. You are obviously the missing Nice Bit of my personality.

CountessDracula · 23/11/2005 15:49

God yes, go for it

DH and I have had two one week holidays already and dd is only 3! Plus she stays with her grandparents sometimes eg when nursery is closed or if we want to have a weekend away.

You need your time too IMO, so you don't totally forget what life was like (makes you appreciate even more what you have!)

Yes you will miss them but you will come back feeling refreshed and with renewed love for your children

Feistybird · 23/11/2005 16:01

MI
shortarse? yes 5'3
42? I wish, just turned 43
work? yes
2 girls? yes
nice? am I feck

spooky

anniebear · 24/11/2005 16:36

You go and have a fantastic time

If they are with Grandma and Grandad I am sure they will have a great time as well.

It does you the world of good to have a break from the kids and it also is good for them

Don't listen to your friends, you go and enjoy!!

Angela2005 · 24/11/2005 23:19

Heck, yes! Is somebody offering?

Especially with grandparents. They brought you up! You can't just avoid all risks, ever. I've been reading a very liberating parenting book and it said "Most accidents happen at home. So go on, let them out!" It meant let your kids go out and take some (reasonable, considered) risks rather than closeting them at home in case anything happens. But I say the same for parents!

So anyone want to look after a beautiful 11mo boy for a bit? I could do with a break!!

aloha · 25/11/2005 00:21

Lucky, lucky, lucky you! Enjoy!

izzybiz · 25/11/2005 12:22

you will miss them much more than they miss you! i have left my DS loads of times, he used to stay at grans every weekend, he loved seeing her and i loved the freedom, its done noone any harm. he doesnt go so often now because hes 13 and has mates! im going to germany for 4 days in a couple of weeks leaving my 18 month DD at home with daddy, i think it will be good for them both, im only worried that he looks after her hair properly, its very long!! i say enjoy

threelittlebabies · 25/11/2005 13:35

I have not as yet left my ds aged 3 overnight, apart from with DH when I was in hospital after having dd. Had a conversation with a friend last week that left me feeling a freak for not wanting to leave them. Think it is just me, dont want to go out right now, or away, haven't the money either, but wouldn't rule it out in the future. Agree they will be fine, and it will be you (or me) who would miss them more! Having said that, really want to go to New York but don't see it happening, as not really a place for a family hol IMHO and can't envisage myself going that far. Apart from anything else I am a shocking traveller Have a lovely time!

beejay · 25/11/2005 13:50

Left my daughter to go away for a 4 day work trip when she was 3-- she got chicken pox and was really ill! But to be honest it didn't stop me going away on several more trips, the longest for 10 days. For some reason I always found it easier to do when it was for work trips, rather than just plain holidays but maybe that's because it was easier to persuade grandparents to take her when it was for work rather than play...

MalorySuzannahAtTrinnyTowers · 25/11/2005 14:18

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riab · 26/11/2005 08:15

yep, grandparents had little un for 2 nights when he was 4 months old. Okay they migh tnot do everything the way I did but they did raise me and my brother okay. Really they're more qualified than I am to look after a baby!

hoxtonchick · 26/11/2005 08:44

dp & i went to the caribbean when ds was 2.8 for a week. my parents came to look after him. wedid miss him, but everyone had a great time & i came home pregnant with dd!

hercules · 26/11/2005 09:02

Cant see a problem for 3 days. WOuldnt go for a week as it doesnt seem fair on ones under 5.

They are after all going to be wih doting grandparents and if I had the chance my mum would look after them.

crimbocrazydazy · 26/11/2005 09:17

If only we got the chance!!! Am so envious of you!!!!

DP and I would love a night away, just one night and one morning to sleep in late but we don't like to ask in-laws as they look after our children whilst I work two days and we don't have anyone else unfortunately!!!

Go, have a great time don't worry!!!!

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