DH said the saddest thing to me regarding dd,9.

[donnie]

So, oldest dd is 9, will be 10 in a few months. Dh and I take it in turns to turn her lights off and when I do it I quite often lie down with her for 10 minutes or so because she asks me to and it's a nice way of rounding off the day.

Yesterday I was going over something dd and I had discussed at light off and he said that she often asks him (dh) to lie down with her as well, but he said to me he feels he just can't, in case somewhere far down the line she lets slip to someone or other that he has been on her bed and it gets misinterpreted. He expressed such sadness at not ebing able to lie dowm and cuddle his own daughter. I felt really sad as well.

Has anyone else had this with their DP? at what age is it no longer ok to lie down on the bed and have a little cosy chat ? it's all so grim.

I remember asking my dad to get into bed with me for a cuddle when I was a child, can't remember exactly what age, but do recall that he said no, he couldn't. I felt really rejected and didn't understand why. I realise his reasoning now that I'm older but do think it's a bit sad.