I am apparently a cruel, cruel mother according to random lady in Tesco. Are you?

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Cruel she called me. Actually followed me down the aisle berating me and asking 'poor, poor, sweet little' DD (yeah right!) if she was ok.

My crime?

I let DD carry the loaf of bread. She asked to carry it. It was a half sized loaf. She was perfectly happy and enjoying helping. Believe me she would have dropped it if under any strain or discomfort

DD is nearly 3. Apparently this is akin to child cruelty and needs intervention. DD who is well known for her withering looked, looked at her as if she was barking (perceptive) and hugged the bread tighter. This just caused more horror.

So what random things have strangers decided you do which makes you a bad parent? I am used to the DS2 not having any socks thing but it is his main mission in life to lose as many as possible. But this one seemed rather odd...

Mad bint (strange woman, not you)

ooh call social services.. toddler carrying bread.... next you will have her sweeping your chimney

she was clearly barking made

I would say she was probably not all there, tbh. Do you really think anyone in their right mind could consider that cruel?

Those leaves canbe bloody heavy, you know

Good grief, have you no shame!

I let them jump in puddles once - even though they didn't have wellies on!

that was very bad apparently

I have a similar thing taking Work Dude out. He holds the basket on his lap (in a wheelchair) to do the weekly shop. People look at me like I'm mad for getting him to choose which brand/flavour/whatever of everything we need; or like I'm abusing him for piling stuff in the basket. Trust me, if the shop had a trolley we could attach to the chair we'd use it! He, on the other hand, thinks it's the highlight of the week. You don't get an awful lot of control over stuff when you're dependent on staff to get around.

He's mid-forties ffs. He's the one going to be eating it, not me

That hovis advert has a lot to answer for.......... she clearly thought your daughter had walked miles and traveled through decades too.

Random tangent but this thread reminded of when I was walking down the street with my then 6 year old DD and it was cold so you could see our breath if you know what I mean.

Old woman starting shouting at me from the other side of the road saying I can't believe your daughter is smoking, I hope you both get cancer and die

Nice!

I told ds the supermarket had run out of lollies once. But the lady who overheard merely told me 'your nose is growing' and winked.

Did have an irritating interfering stranger once bark at me for daring to let ds run on a grassy patch in our street. 'That's someone's garden you know!'. I ignored her. I live here, she doesn't, I know which parts are gardens and which parts are open.

'That hovis advert has a lot to answer for.......... she clearly thought your daughter had walked miles and traveled through decades too.'

- quite! That would explain it...

bodyofeeyore - it was a half loaf...obviously a full one would have had social services stopping by

Boobearboo

I had a woman stand outside the public toilet in the library and then berate me upon my exit, for daring to restrict the type of book DD was to choose that week
I should not have been stifling her reading matter!!
I happily informed her that she was in fact perfectly correct, and that if DD had not behaved badly all week then she could have had free reign, however, as she had in fact been a little bugger naughty, it was up to me what she chose, and she would not be choosing any sodding Fairy books!!

By those standards I am the most evil child abusing mother ever. Recently my DDs have washed my car (beautifully, it was gleaming), cleaned a whole winter's worth of dead bugs and bird poo off our trampoline, assisted with the shopping including carrying bags of it into the house and sorted the laundry. I am a slave driver.

Someone tell me how to stop them doing it, they do so love to help

What did she actually say directly to you? or to your dd?

Are you sure she wasn't trying to make a friendly comment and having it backfire on her?

She'd have loved me then. Last week I let my 3.3yo carry two full-sized loaves of bread round the Tesco Express. The fact that she ditched them to carry the pink doughnut that she pleaded out of me is beside the point... :o

I once had a woman run over to me and practically scream because DS (age 9 months at the time) was gumming the cardboard box that a toy car was in. He had only just put it in his mouth, and I was watching him, but she screamed 'HE WILL CHOKE ON THAT CARDBOARD AND DIE!!!!!!!!!'

A friends DD once asked me why I was so lazy

My crime being DS having to come into the kitchen 7m away to ask me what he wanted to instead of yelling saying it loudly across the house. Apparently I should go to him if he calls.

Well, I know I'm a cruel, cruel mother. But no-one has caught me out in public yet....

There was someone on here the other day getting flamed because her 4yo daughter came home from school and emptied the rubbish out of her lunchbox and put it away.

Apparently that is not acceptable work for a 4yo. WTF?

I must be terrible then... DS likes carrying the basket and he's only 2.5

Of course this means I can only put about 4 very light things in it before it gets too heavy, but bless him, he's so determined

DD aged 4 carries the shopping basket, (or rather if I am not watching runs really fast pushing it down an aisle full of grannies, getting their legs with it) and if it gets full she hoists it up with a groan and huffs and puffs and says 'mama. this. is heeeeevy' while I just carry on doing what I doing. I

I sometimes get stares like I have sent her down the mines. They know nothing. They do not know the consequences of removing it from her.

bibbity - she was saying it kindly to DD (in a poor you way) but shaking her head in a tutting manner at me. It was quite bizarre!

She seemed genuinely horrified - definitely not trying to be nice / comical

Another lovely lady did ask me what aisle I picked DS2 up on and how much he cost

pavlov 'They know nothing. They do not know the consequences of removing it from her.'

Precisely!! I woul have hated to see the looks I would have got if I had removed it from her!

Kids love to help - shopping, emptying bags, filling washing machines, cleaning cars (that is one always worth remembering and encouraging i feel), getting 6 pints of milk from the second shelf and dragging it back to you...they emulate us.

If a loaf of bread means you can actually walk around the supermarket, you got to do it!

letting my two year old walk around shops rather than go in pushchair. "oh the poor wee lad. his legs are too short. is mummy making you walk?"