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[karlos]

hello i have two girls aged 2yrs and one at 8 months i didnt expect it too be easy but divideing time is what i find the hardest does any one agree xxxx

Mine are 13 months apart and it was difficult in the beggining but as they get older the gap seems to dissapear and now my ds aged 4 and dd aged 3 seem like twins. They can do the same things and they play together. Once the smallest is old enough to be able to do the same things as the elder one its great especially when you are doing arts and crafts or even reading stories. They become interested in the same things and then you dont have to divide your time. Hang in there the time will come.

agree it is hard work but imo the most rewarding job in the world

Lol..... Try having 4

your rite it is rewarding and am glad am a full time mum coz i wouldnt want to miss a thing

It's something you get used to,I am not even aware of dividing my time between the two of them now; it comes naturally after a while

I am due to have baby no. two 4 days after dd's second birthday. Any advice on whether it is a good idea to settle her in a playgroup beforehand. At the moment she is at a childminder 3 mornings a week and with family the other 2 mornings. She is a lovely lovely child so cant make up my mind if better to keep her at home, or have her stimulated and socialise for threee hours while i get a break (or sorts!). any ideas?

oops! forgot to add, she is out as i am working mornings. thinking of keeping her home whilst on maternity leave till sept. she is flexbile and easygoing in terms of stopping/starting. Due in two months

mine are 16 months apart, I continued with childminder for a couple of mornings a week to give me a break, ande to maintain contact. I found it VERY hard work, but now it is so much easier, and they are good friends. D2 starts school in January and will be in same class nas d1 - that will be interesting....it just goes on and on!

Yes its hard, but try having triplets!!!!!! Esp as I was almost 46 when they were born! My feet havent been on the ground since, its far more difficult now than when they were babies or toddlers, they will be 8 in Jan and dont I know it!

Wow, Triplets, hats off to you. I'm an older Mum and having major inner conflict re trying for a second child...so although its clearly hard work having three, you are an inspiration for me! If you have time (doubt it!) to share, do you mind telling me whats harder at 8 than at 2 or 3? Could use the warning!

Hello Elibean,
Gosh where to start! Well at 2-3 they were easy, lovable, did as they were told, ate well, slept well all in the same routine. A joy, Then...........when they hit 4, they just became so individual, and generally as the years have gone on they have become so independant, head strong, strong willed, endless energy, never tired and always got an answer for me. They could run rings round me if we let them. But..........they are beautiful, loving children and I am incredibly lucky to have them given my circumstances! Good luck!

Thanks! Hmm, definition of your three at 8 rather similar to my one at 2...

Sounds like you've done a wonderful job, they sound great! I know what you mean about the infinite gratitude in spite of, too...

xxC

Hi Elibean,
Just got them all quietish, 9.40pm and all still awake! They are all night owls, doesn`t matter what I do or try they never and I mean never go to sleep before 9.30pm! So I get an hour on here to make my brain work, better than watching tv I tell myself, then I go to bed and read until around 11.30pm, my bit of space! Today they came home with their school photos, and one they had had taken all together, and they just looked so incredibly lovely, I felt sooooo proud that they were mine. Its been a day of looking at photos and feelings, found my big album today of my beloved Matthews last holiday, I had forgotten, no thats not the right word, I had not realized just how tall he had grown, it upset me so much, I still find it sooo hard to look at his photos. Life is a real roller-coaster for me, but I am still here!

Triplets....sorry to be dense, but who is Matthew? I hesitate to ask, because it sounds as though you have some grief to do with him - but otherwise, I don't know what you're referring to! Certainly does sound like a day of photos, of all sorts...some wonderful ones too..

As for night owls: my DD (22 months) almost never goes to sleep before 9pm, no matter WHAT time I put her in her cot - she'll chatter away to herself in there for ages! So I guess I have one too. But am too pie-eyed to read after about 10pm, or maybe I should wear my reading glasses...

Oops, I think we've hijacked this thread...sorry, original posters!

omg i have two and thats plenty dont think i could handle anymore so well done to you with more my eldest sleeping was a nitemareshe didnt go though the nite untill 16months but with my second shes down at 6pm but you have to stick to a routine and eventally it works promise it worked 4 me xxxxx

Sorry Elibean,
Lots of the m/netters know that my darling Matthew died in 1994. He was my only child, we had tried for years for a baby but it just never happened. On June 2nd 1994, my lovely never ill child walked into my garden and collapsed and died instantly, no medical explanation was ever found. He was almost 15, so now is 26. So after two years of utter hell, we decided to attempt ivf, on the 3rd attempt with donated eggs it worked. Thats why at 46 I had my triplets, the first born was Rebecca, I had waited over 20 years to have a daughter, never ever thought I would. I feel I have paid the ultimate price to have them, but I want them all, sorry, I just asumed you knew.

Oh Triplets, I'm so very sorry...and can't begin to imagine the shock and the depth of grief that goes with the loss of a child, especially so suddenly and especially with no explanation. How appalling to have lost your son, and how much sense it makes that you find it hard to look at the photos still...I know I would. Thanks for telling me, I'm a new MN-er and not up to speed with individual stories at all...sorry. My DD is also conceived via egg donation (after four miscarriages) so we have that in common.

xxC

Hello again,
Thank you, it is just the hardest thing to bear, never leaves me. But well done you too, ivf is such a rollercoaster, not a road we can down by choice is it. So sorry to hear about your m/c`s they all bring their own heart ache xxxxxxx